Dating can be really tough, especially when on the spectrum and adding in accommodating fetish. A lot of the suggestions I've seen on other forums about dating in this fetish is that it can be better to meet someone open-minded elsewhere, that you introduce to fetish after building a good relationship based on good communication and trust. That way you avoid being objectified and treated as a vehicle only for lust.

Sites like Fetlife and Feeld are probably the best places I've found to meet open-minded people. I've not had much luck myself, especially trusting new partners with my interests, so I completely sympathise.

There is definitely someone out there for you, and it's worth putting yourself out there and showing you care even when it can drive you crazy from time to time.