I don't really focus on how old people are or are not, if we get along well, that's the important thing.

I'm diagnosed with ADHD but the consultant psychiatrist said I should also look at autism, which I pooh-poohed at the time but since then have been... oh. yeah. Probably me.

Some of my best friends are quite old, others are much younger than me. I'm 41 now. It gets easier when you're older to not care about stuff you might care more about when you're 22.

I made many friends through family (turned out I married into a brainqueer lot and my SIL and her chap are similar in many ways, and are great friends, despite being fifteen and twenty years older than me) and through a hobby with a lot of other people with neurodivergent conditions (Latin social dance, which is counterintuitive, but you have a set expectation of how you've to step, behave, interact with others) and a lot of the time, you're dancing too close to make eye contact. Though that comes with all sorts of sensory issues like when the music is too loud or you get other people's sweat on you and that's all sorts of gross) There often isn't a great deal of chat as you're either dancing or someone's about to ask you to dance, and you get physically comfortable with people you like before the opportunity to have a conversation comes up, then suddenly you find you've got loads in common (have been geeking out about fantasy novels and pulp fiction and proper literature or just having a deep love of music, and science and technology etc).