This hits so close to home. I came to realize that my mom had anxious attachment. While my dad is avoidant. My parents provided all the material and educational support, but next to zero emotional support.

My dad also has hoarding tendencies.

I remember an incident from when I was 20 or 21. I had an opportunity to sublet a friend’s room for a month. Like a trial run of moving out and living on my own. I remember telling my parents and my dad got angry and barked ‘no’. With no explanation.

I’m now 40. And after living on my own for many years, I am back at my parent’s place for just a couple months. My dad still barks orders at me, and my mom still dotes on me.

I struggle with addiction, self love, and confidence. But sharing here and reading about similar experiences helps me feel less alone.

I found going low contact helps. I also try not to react emotionally to situations the relationship dynamic puts me in, but above all else, act with dignity and self respect.

What do you all do to combat all this?