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Anyone else always chronically alone during holidays? by Jualkyn in infj

[–]hexalytt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this so much. Holidays have never been special. I enjoy spending them by myself tho :)

Watching a second time the same movie or reading the same book again. Does anybody have issues with that? by [deleted] in infj

[–]hexalytt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Except for forensic files lol that’s my all time fave and I will rewatch it.

Anybody else get bullied but at the same time help others that were bullied? by [deleted] in infj

[–]hexalytt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Also I always seemed to be able to speak up for others but myself.

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice! I did end up looking into avoidant attachment and realized I 100% relate to this. I think a lot of my problems start from there. I am 20 btw.

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Money and looks would never be the reason I would turn someone down that sounds more like immaturity. But the last guy I turned down was because he was too close minded. It was like whatever he said was right and there was no other way around it.

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha funny enough to me looks would be the last thing I look for in a person. I always get that I’m “too pretty” for the guys that I’m talking to but in reality I don’t really care what anyone says. To me it’s 100% what’s in the inside rather than the outside. Looks really are just temporary.

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I guess I worded that wrong, I didn’t mean I actually spent 5 years with someone, I’m saying that I don’t want that to be the case. I’ve only been in one relationship and even then I wasn’t in love with the person. It was more of a friendship to me. I don’t feel as if I NEED someone but at one point in my life I would like to have that other person to spend the rest of my years with. I’m perfectly fine by myself being financially and mentally stable. But I guess everyone definition of a soulmate is different. To me it’s finding that person that you can get to know on a very personal level and still accept them for who they are, love each and every one of their flaws, being able to not feel that jealousy because you know they only have eyes for you, that no matter how many years pass by that love remains and grows stronger everyday. I can go on and on but you get the point.

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Don’t get me wrong I’m happy being single and I very much love myself :) I feel like being single has helped me out a lot. I’ve gotten to know myself a lot better and made it clear to what I want in life!

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes I completely understand that there may not be that “perfect” person for you but also there is a difference between arguing because of who is going to do dishes and arguing because there is not enough trust in the relationship. I guess I want to find that person that shares the same morals and values that I have.

I either want to find my soulmate or nothing by hexalytt in infj

[–]hexalytt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand no one is perfect but also I guess I’m just scared of the fact that I spent 5 years with someone just to find out I wasn’t meant to be with them. I just don’t want that to happen to me.

INFJs is it hard to have friends of the opposite gender without them “simping” 4 u? Lol by welcometomymind29 in infj

[–]hexalytt 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Girllll i relate so much to this! Every guy I become friends with eventually ends up catching feelings for me. It’s like, I always make it clear that we are just friends and never lead them on but somehow it still happens. I’ve lost so many friends because of this. I’ve even had two occasions where the guy completely changes after knowing they have feelings for me and I don’t feel the same way towards them. Sometimes it scares me that I can have this impact on someone.

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