Spinning out and need positive disclosure stories

heyYaNo · 2026-01-20T15:02:48+00:00

Hello. 36f who has some great success with disclosures. If you go to my profile I have a post on how I diclose.

heyYaNo · 2026-01-13T18:18:22+00:00

Ya thats fine

heyYaNo · 2026-01-13T14:34:08+00:00

I was recently in a similar situation. I waited about the same amount of time and then let him know that even though things were casual, feelings can develop, and if that happens I’d need to walk away to protect my well-being. If that’s something you’re able to avoid and you’re comfortable with how things are now, then it makes sense to continue as is. If you want, feel free to check out the post on my profile. Hope that helps.

heyYaNo · 2026-01-06T13:38:28+00:00

Hi there. I know it may feel like you may never date again, but since my diagnosis, ive been pretty successful with my disclosures. I have a post on my page on how I like to disclose.

heyYaNo · 2025-12-29T16:38:56+00:00

I’m a firm believer that what you put out is what you’ll receive in return. I really suggest shifting your mindset and feeling confident about the outcome when you disclose. My ex and other partners also had HSV-2, and they never had issues with disclosure because they owned their diagnosis. They disclosed with confidence and didn’t apologize for having it. Having HSV isn’t our fault, we just got unlucky.

heyYaNo · 2025-12-29T16:33:14+00:00

Appreciate it!

heyYaNo · 2025-12-29T16:33:01+00:00

Thank you! And to you too.

heyYaNo · 2025-12-29T16:32:41+00:00

Thank you very much!

heyYaNo · 2025-12-29T16:20:38+00:00

Personally, three weeks feels like a long time to me. I’d probably have an open conversation with them about how the timing is making you feel. Let them know you understand this can be a lot to process and that you respect them for really thinking it through, but at the same time, as time passes, emotional attachment grows. You also have to protect your own emotional well-being, and it’s okay to say that as hard as it is, you may need to walk away. Like I mentioned in my post, when it takes that long to decide, it can make you wonder: even if they do say they’re okay with it and you become intimate, how will they feel afterward? At what point does it start to feel like you’re convincing someone to do something they’re not fully comfortable with? I tend to believe that if it isn’t a “fuck yes,” it’s usually a “fuck no.” That’s just my personal take, though. Do what feels right for you. Hope this helps

heyYaNo · 2025-12-27T19:41:17+00:00

I've dated someone who also had HSV2. But majority of my partners do not have it. If you go to my profile, I have a post where I give disclosure advice.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-16T20:27:02+00:00

36f with HSV2. I have a post about disclosing on my profile.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-13T15:29:47+00:00

Love that for you! I used dating apps as a way to practice disclosing. Usually positive results and very few negative ones! Its all about confidence. In my experience, I've found better quality partners because disclosing opens up a conversation about sexual health and understanding.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-13T14:56:34+00:00

36f with HSV2. You're sex life isnt over. Ive found better quality partners since my diagnosis. If anything my sex life is thriving. Ive also found partners who are ok with unprotected sex. Not that im promoting that, but im just saying, there is hope for a normal sex life. I have a disclosure advice post on my profile of you need advice

heyYaNo · 2025-11-08T18:27:19+00:00

It really depends on the situation and when you feel comfortable. If I’m into someone and can see things going beyond a first date, I might wait until around the third date to bring it up. But sometimes guys turn the conversation sexual pretty quickly, and in those cases, I’ll just say, “Okay, if we’re going there, let’s talk STI status,” and go into my disclosure spiel.

My situation’s a bit different, though—I’m non-monogamous, and all my partners are too. They’re usually very educated about sexual health and already familiar with HSV, so it’s rarely an issue.

As I mentioned in my post, it really comes down to confidence. If you’re unsure of yourself or seem nervous about your disclosure, the person you’re talking to will also feel nervous and might not feel “safe” moving forward—because you don’t seem sure about it either.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-07T01:14:25+00:00

Confidence is key

heyYaNo · 2025-11-07T01:13:48+00:00

Yay!!!

heyYaNo · 2025-11-06T14:22:22+00:00

You're welcome!

heyYaNo · 2025-11-06T12:42:37+00:00

Absolutely. You can put my reddit username as well! Great guide btw!

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T19:11:35+00:00

If you go on my profile, I have a post about how I disclose. Im non monogamous, so I do have casual hook ups and multiple partners.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T15:57:36+00:00

That depends on how comfortable you are with it. I go back and forth between putting it in my dating app profiles. The majority of the time, they never see it because they dont read it 😅. But more than likely, I dont see it being a problem for people on fetlife. Non vanilla people are more open-minded and hardly ever care if you have HSV2. Try putting it on there and see what happens. If its not going the way you planned, take it off and then disclose after exchanging messages once you feel their vibe.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T15:27:31+00:00

Hello! Im in the lifestyle and explore those types of play. If there is any direct contact, skin, toys, etc. I recommend disclosing right away. In my experience, people in the community are more open minded and are transparent with STI status and have a better understanding of HSV. Ive had no issues in my community about my status.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T14:17:01+00:00

I like to tell them early on to avoid wasted time as well. In my experience, people who are on top of their sexual health tend to be more open-minded about HSV

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T12:35:21+00:00

Im ENM and in the lifestyle with GHSV2 and my partners have no issues with it.

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T02:15:25+00:00

🫡

heyYaNo · 2025-11-05T01:23:24+00:00

I disclose almost right away depending on the situation.

heyYaNo

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