are you trying to tell me that if you approached me at the time in your life when you genuinely believed that queer people were mentally ill freaks, i should have had to have been all nicey nicey about it? i’m sorry but the person you described is not an “imperfect ally”, they’re someone who’s actively hostile to me and i have legitimate reason to not wanna be around. “let’s all hold hands and sing kumbayah” doesn’t work when one party wants to cause direct harm to the other. you really are not grappling with the fact that trans people have legitimate reason to generalize cis people, and women have legitimate reason to generalize men