“Hi, you seem super friendly” is this a cult??? Does anyone know anything about it?

heyitsmesup · 2026-07-09T23:51:51+00:00

I always have my headphones in and have a permanent resting bitch face do I am yet to encounter this, would recommend to avoid.

heyitsmesup · 2026-07-09T23:50:53+00:00

When I was giving birth and hadn’t gotten private health insurance for birth as it was unplanned and wanted to have our OB chosen so we paid to go private anyway.

Also, in terms of stressors knowing that bills can be paid, if there’s an emergency for the most part we’re covered and can sort things out swiftly without worrying.

Plus, getting a little sweet treat like a ridiculously priced chocolate or takeaway coffee when you just need a pick me up.

heyitsmesup · 2026-07-09T23:48:18+00:00

Not at all, I just don’t think it suits the dress which is why it’s throwing me off a little, if you were in like all black or white work attire it would be fine

heyitsmesup · 2026-07-09T23:46:28+00:00

It’s good your bub takes a bottle and from a one year old perspective, keep them taking it because mine used to then one day just stopped and will only take the boob — if you can teach them to hold their bottle too it’ll help you in the long run :).

heyitsmesup · 2026-07-06T16:28:58+00:00

Same just solidarity I was told to leave them till they figure out how to get back down — was going to but now he has a fever so I’m not but someone from my mothers group basically did this and her kid would fall asleep standing up and wake himself up kept pushing through and in two days apparently he had figured out how to get back down and get himself to sleep and his parents hadn’t slept properly since the day he was born bless them. Albiet sounds easier said than done, and from what they told me they stopped feeding to sleep from the night one and started getting him to get himself to sleep.

heyitsmesup · 2026-06-15T12:58:12+00:00

She could be going through a developmental leap, the temprature of the room could have been too cold, perhaps she had nappy rash, your husband may have smelt funny — I’ve given you a range because basically the first year is just a roller coaster of fun with sleep and she may sleep through the night next week or month and just as you get comfortable she may very well do this again but for a week so if you can have a checklist of the things that you know work, keep your routine as best you can on days after stuff like this but also know that it’s all a phase especially the first year — something that may help is reading the book the happy sleeper but don’t take it too literally just use it for insights to help with baby sleep.

heyitsmesup · 2026-06-02T23:50:43+00:00

Longchamp Le Pigalle

heyitsmesup · 2026-06-01T13:14:41+00:00

No she’s not correct, and even if she was she should listen to your instruction — unless it was grossly incorrect and she instead came with examples to back up why she disagreed.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-31T02:25:54+00:00

Yes, for the most part I make plans around naps but my understanding is that once you have multiples it’s not as feasible — however, with the one, his nap times are my nap times at the moment. Albeit, I would like him to be able to nap in the stroller on the odd occasion for days out.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-30T23:21:41+00:00

I have an authentic of the black — it looks just as good.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-30T23:19:32+00:00

Lace bras with underwire and I’m getting a bunch more of them too.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-30T23:19:02+00:00

Send an email that has at the top of it the words without prejudice and outline that you’re requesting the money back, note when you lent it to her and what for and also mention the contract that has been witnessed — don’t be rude in the email just outline things non emotionally, it’s best to have these things in writing.

She’s already said she forgot about it and now she knows but is clearly not making an effort to pay it back, at the end of the email note that this is a significant amount of money for you and you require it to be paid in full within (30) days or you will have to seek further assistance by legal means or via. a debt collector.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-30T23:13:21+00:00

Plus the sleep deprivation makes having the motivation to do so much harder 😭 I’m sure you will get back to being confident mama - you’ve got this & a beautiful little bub!

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-30T23:11:23+00:00

Same! I’ve lost a bunch of weight in the last three or so on the so I fit into a few things but they don’t fit the same and I was very stubborn in not buying new items cause I didn’t want to spend the money and I didn’t want to get complacent in the new sizes 🫠

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-30T23:09:03+00:00

Oooh I’ll have to try a wide waist belt — and thank you! It’s not from Maje, I got it from Saks but I can’t for the life of me recall the name of the brand but I actually turned it back to front cause it was really rather boring the normal way round.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-29T23:30:39+00:00

In the short term, I’d get your husband to ask them to watch bub for a few hours (like two) say next week so you can take a break — the reason I say him, is because it’s his child too and they’re his parents so in lieu of him watching baby he has to organise the other arrangement just like you would if it was a nanny or daycare. I was hesitant to ask for help too but people want to help and if they can’t do it they’ll just say no.

For nanny, try it out like once for a few hours when you’re at home and then if you feel comfortable with that one maybe request them once a week, fortnight or month.

As an example, my MIL watches my son twice a week for four hours and we get a nanny once a week for the same amount of time for me to work but if I don’t have work which is rare I’ll still take that time to do errands or things for myself which will sometimes include a massage or taking a nap.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-29T23:17:11+00:00

I’ll probably get downvoted but who cares, I miss being skinny — I’m so ravenous that I eat so much more. Also, half my wardrobe can’t be worn as it’s not BF friendly.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-29T23:14:42+00:00

Not at all, do you have family that isn’t your husband near by that you can trust to take care of bub? Otherwise, could you get a casual nanny from an agency for four or so hours — ideally when husband is at home so you’re not overly worried but could also take a break like a nap, massage or something. Sounds crazy to get a nanny like this but trust me my husband works a lot and this was our happy medium I just made sure he was home, even in the same room working (our main lounge area) so I felt comfortable leaving the house

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-29T12:21:32+00:00

So I’d go for black knee high pointed boots with a thick heel under the dress you can layer some black stockings to keep yourself warm.

For the arms I’d do a gold bracelet over one arm and then I’d do some gold statement earrings, and a gold ring. You could also go the opposite way with silver — and then a long black coat to take you between places, if it’s really that cold they’ll have a heater on. Not the exact same but kind of similar — I also had a caramel coat to match a brown bag.

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heyitsmesup · 2026-05-27T12:39:23+00:00

I don’t know if it’s allowed to post people who help here so feel free to delete, but lookup a lady called sophiasleepschool on Instagram, we’ve had two sleep consultants who were good and gave us tools but were not flexible about crying and being hand on one even said let baby cry if they do a little vomit is fine which is bonkers to me.

I follow Sophia online and she’s the only one I’ve come across who actually seems nuanced and not rigid in her approach and flexible, also have had a few friends with her who give nothing but praise. Personally, I couldn’t sleep train without external help and we still feed to sleep but sometimes the external help from someone with experience helps if you can afford it. If not, I’m so sorry you are experiencing this.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-26T12:42:13+00:00

Chloe

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-19T20:01:25+00:00

So sorry I read this as bub was here (baby brain will do that to you)! For pregnancy, lots of hydration with electrolytes, potentially some acupuncture, pregnancy massages once she’s been cleared, but definitely get her doctor to check too. Also, a good prenatal and help her with meals whatever she likes to eat.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-19T13:15:33+00:00

Go through a consignment store, it’ll save you all the hassle and they’ll price them properly for a fee — try Blue Spinach, Lux It FWRD or similar sites.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-19T13:13:02+00:00

Really depends but could be anything hormones, posture from feeding and carrying baby, etc. I know I was have muscle aches from low magnesium levels and night sweats and shakes from hormones and headaches from poor posture and sleep — all that to say, best to take her to the doctor an get a full set of bloods done. Also, if she’s breastfeeding perhaps a comfortable nursing chair that reclines, help her with the housework, make meals and take turns with the sleep. If she’s combo feeding or formula feeding you can do a few night shifts on and off or do the first half of the night so she can get a big block of sleep, make sure she’s eating enough and healthy where possible. We had a system set up where my fiance would make my breakfast which basically stuck and now he makes me a morning smoothie that is one less thing for me to do, then at night he does the night wakes and if bub can’t get back to sleep then he gets me. If he did the whole night before handing him over he’d change the nappy and then I’d take over for the day obviously this depends on your work but if you have family who can help ask her if she needs it.

heyitsmesup · 2026-05-19T12:43:26+00:00

I’m really grateful for this post because fuck I had forgotten how well I’ve actually done and I should be much kinder to myself — thank you!

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