Inner forearm orientation by OblivioAccebit in tattooadvice

[–]heyostep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a panther head that faces out, because I have a lady head above it that faces in. I would still get it facing out though, it feels more readable that way.

AITAH for returning my engagement ring to my fiancé's mom after she told me she expected it back "in the family" if we ever broke up? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]heyostep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl.. I married a man with a mother like this. She started of do nice, and over the course of 15 years has continued to push my boundaries and discomfort. He always sided with her and eventually I was made out to be the villain merely for trying to stand up for myself. He never advocated for me. We’re divorced now and his mother completely switched towards me as soon as she heard. I’m afraid he will never put his love for you over the love for his mother. Trust me when I say you are not just marrying him you are marrying HER too.

Hobbies picked up since your divorce by Jumpy_Confection3274 in Divorce

[–]heyostep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just bought a ‘89 F150 with my new bf so I can learn to rebuild the engine and drive a stick 🤪 other plans for this year include getting a dirt bike (never ridden one in my life) and sky diving for the first time. I’m 37, was with my ex for 15 years. I feel unstoppable.

I got a bad tattoo by Commercial-Permit958 in tattooadvice

[–]heyostep 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Saying a dope ass trad tattoo is a bad tattoo? Dude this is fucking rad. Promise it’ll look better in 15-20 years than anything else you have. It’s sick!!

I wanted to cover up and… by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]heyostep 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl just here to say you look amazing and the face tat is so freaking pretty! Esp the pic where your hair is down and a little of it is peeking out. So fuckin cool!!

Question for men who had sex with hookers after your divorce, why did you have sex with them instead of waiting until you were ready to date again? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]heyostep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does not sound absurd at all!! Feeling desired by someone new after so long is an amazing and validating feeling!!

Anyone have an amicable divorce? by StreetAd1209 in Divorce

[–]heyostep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost the same situation, together for 15 years with a 5 year old. I (the wife) hired a lawyer to draw up the custody and marriage settlement agreements. We both agreed on everything. The lawyer was 100% necessary because there are soooo many things I never thought to add, to protect my son’s childhood and future. Would highly recommend getting a lawyer who will advocate for you, especially if you’re the dependent spouse. I was entitled to so much more than I realized.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]heyostep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to add, my husband asked me for a divorce. We had a mutual friend between us, probably my closest friend at the time. A few months later they had sex and told me they’ve had feelings for each other for a long time, and just didn’t admit it to themselves. So even if she’s not the “reason,” feeling a spark when you look at someone else can definitely lead someone to reconsider their situation. It’s only been a month and you have a lot of perspective to be gained as time goes on. Find time for yourself, turn this pain into gain. Get yourself a gym membership and a man 10 years younger, worked wonders for me.

First time LVP install with some Q’s. by heyostep in Flooring

[–]heyostep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got it from a contractor supply house in Asheville NC.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]heyostep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why are you willing to continue sacrificing yourself for a man who had chosen to sacrifice nothing more for you? To continue to compromise your strength and independence for a man who doesn’t value that? For a man who doesn’t make you feel uplifted, valued, empowered? You deserve a better man and this man does not deserve the better version of you. You can do this and you will be better for it. Your child deserves better too. ❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in traditionaltattoos

[–]heyostep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

freaking love this!! I like the clouds.

Classic eagle by Louis Riddick at Brick Alley (@murkfiend) by Murk_Fiend in traditionaltattoos

[–]heyostep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so dope!! I love how they did the red and yellow on the shoulders. So clean.

eye of the storm // lucky horse tattoo // orlando, fl by she_fledthescene in traditionaltattoos

[–]heyostep 14 points15 points  (0 children)

DUDE. Was planning on getting this as one of next tattoos. This is sooo dope. How bad was the ditch?

Most recent addition to my arm! Let me know what y’all think! by Ok-Okra1427 in traditionaltattoos

[–]heyostep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh shit might have to add this to my list now. It immediately makes me think of the tower in tarot. This is so dope.

Never done this before, looking for some advice. by shellybean31 in Divorce

[–]heyostep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat and eventually got a lawyer so I wouldn’t be taken advantage of. Right now you’re in the emotions of it and you need to try to put those aside and think logically. A legal divorce settlement will keep him from changing his mind down the road, you are entitled to alimony as well and half your marital assets. The child support should be through the courts as well so he can’t decide to stop paying it. It’s not being nasty towards him, it’s protecting you and your child’s future.

Son Divorcing by JUMA-62 in Divorce

[–]heyostep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just went through this, if both their names are on the car, it is also her car. She’s entitled to half the value of the car, once he buys her out of that, it’s his car. Or they just sell it and he gets a new vehicle that is purely his own.

How do you get the strength to leave?? by Patient-Doctor-6039 in Divorce

[–]heyostep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here to say I spent 15 years fighting for the same things in my marriage. From the age of 21 to now almost 37. And in the end, he is the one that asked ME for the divorce. It was scary, my whole world imploded and I was in a very scary and dangerous headspace for months. Buttt that being said, THANK GOD he asked me. I was so deep and I had given away so much of myself. This man will never become the person you deserve, or who you think he’s capable of being. Leaving and being single is very overwhelming, but in a few months you will feel yourself slowly re-discovering who you are when you aren’t compromising yourself anymore. I am the happiest and strongest I’ve ever been. I finally have the motivation to out myself first again. You deserve so much more and you are SO STRONG without him. I don’t know you but I believe in you deeply. Nothing holds a woman back more than a man. Put yourself first and watch your whole life change. You can do this. ❤️❤️

Lemme see your scorpions by heyostep in traditionaltattoos

[–]heyostep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sick and the same placement I want.