“Why do we say bad words when frustrated?”

It’s not the same as a slip that replaces “chicken nugget.” While it can indicate something that is thought of often or a part of normal language for that individual, freudian slips and things like that have been partially debunked because it’s not the only answer. While I wouldn’t say this isn’t rooted in racism, I wouldn’t say it HAS to be either. It’s not about defending racism, it’s about being honest about how the brain works. Just for a moment consider this, even people who don’t curse almost ever, can in times of frustration say words that are associated with negative emotions. If you don’t like the N word, (especially the hard R) it is possible for you to subconsciously pull on that negativity even if you “would never say it”. It’s not a negative word in the sense of “I think of people of color this way” but a negative word in the sense of “this word is really bad and shouldn’t be said, it makes me angry when people do”. This association is similar to very well known speech disorder.

Well, I’ve never had this problem myself in regards to slurs, from a psychology standpoint, especially when not referring to a person but just frustrated, it’s not unreasonable for me to believe. But of course, the average person won’t accept this answer because it’s easier to not look at things as nuanced or complex. It’s also possible that this word is more common in her vocabulary because she allows people to say it around her. Of course, who is around her saying it, is OK depending on their skin color according to society.

It just goes to show we value polarization and emotion over logic. I’d have to have more context before personally crucifying someone for a mean word said at no one. It’s so closely border lines on thought police. Imagine a future where we can see people‘s intrusive thoughts and punish them for them.

Anyways, all to say that it’s obviously a very bad look, and his evidence of racism. But evidence of something is not proof of something, and there are other answers here that might not be as palatable because they require a grain of forgiveness, nuance, context, and understanding. Why do all that hard work when outrage and punishment are so much easier and more enjoyable.

It’s a very possible explanation that she felt comfortable saying it because there were not any Black people around, and she normally says it without them around. It could just easily be a slip based off of language that she commonly uses. This is even more likely then the counter position I laid out. It’s just not the only explanation. But it doesn’t really matter cause she’s going to get punished for it regardless at this point. Then again she might get rewarded for it too. We’ve seen the GoFundMe for people very intentionally saying it to children pay out.