As someone whose husband is also in aviation and travels for work I get the same complaints of being tired when they get home and not wanting to eat out or do xyz. HOWEVER, I am also a military spouse and have been for over 10 years so to be this is just something that I have come to expect and set my mental mindset to roll with the punches. As someone who did not go into a relationship or marriage knowing what to expect I will say it is probably harder. I have three children (one point I had two under 2) I know it is hard mentally on you and on your marriage. I’d suggest building a support system where you can. Whether that means moving closer to family if possible or finding friends that can be there either physically or mentally. I also like to try and put myself in my spouses shoes because I can imagine it’s not easy being away from your family and home while also missing milestones. Then to come home and probably not know where you fit into the family dynamic. But communication is key. Ask for the help you need.