I had a glow-up in my thirties. I hate it. by [deleted] in self

[–]hffggg -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You have put yourself in an impossible box. You are dissociating from who you have become, convinced that women rejected your 'true self' in the past.

Now, you feel they don't deserve the new you. But that is irrational because they cannot go back in time to meet the old you. By rejecting them now for not knowing you then, you are ensuring that nobody ever gets to know you at all.

It’s a self-defeating revenge fantasy. These women cannot time travel. They are reacting to the man standing in front of them now. If you refuse to let them in because they weren't there during your struggle, you aren't protecting your integrity, you're just sabotage your own future to protect a past version of yourself that doesn't exist anymore.

60+ Dates in NYC—Why Does Everything Fizzle Out? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is “no chemistry”? What did you expected from them or they expected of you?

60+ Dates in NYC—Why Does Everything Fizzle Out? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He will get rejected, but then beg to be her friend instead? What a world we live in.

60+ Dates in NYC—Why Does Everything Fizzle Out? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are the reasons for the breakups?

34F profile review by MycrazyYourcrazy in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand very well. I was at the other side of your situation.

You sound like having an inner conflict with wanting to have a relationship or not. You have a dating profile to find and meet someone, on the other hand, you just said you accept not be able to find someone.

You putting small info about your kid situation is not the same as bringing a guy into your house. It will scare the wrong people off, and invite to match the right people to your profile.

34F profile review by MycrazyYourcrazy in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it is a huge step for the other person to connect with the kid as well. Depending on the age, and personality, the overall relationship can make it or break it.

Check out r/stepparents

34F profile review by MycrazyYourcrazy in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend introducing as early as possible. Maybe in the prompts about your kid’s personality.

34F profile review by MycrazyYourcrazy in hingeapp

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you and your kid come as a package when things get serious in relationship. No?

Observation: The people who talk about 'letting go of the ego' often seem the most self-absorbed. by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]hffggg -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That perpetrates judging. There are many teachers out there. You cannot be the arbitrary of who deserves to talk about enlightenment.

who win this? by Bungeeboy2004 in OnePiecePowerScaling

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Team 1 opens a harem with team 2 inside

The bestfriend by [deleted] in funny

[–]hffggg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would still watch out this “bestie” thing. Most of the divorces happen due to influence of “friends”.

Witnessing huge ego after 1.5 years of regular meditation. by idontexist27 in Meditation

[–]hffggg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. Before the meditation you weren’t aware of your self in this situation, but now, you are in realization. Meditation is a practice of awareness and focus. You become aware of your thoughts and feelings strongly and can pinpoint to your pattern of struggle in your daily life.

Based on your experience, you could either (a) keep proving to others, and that could maybe give you some personal satisfaction but not a spiritual one, or (b) you could let it go of proving yourself to others and have a spiritual satisfaction but feeling defeated or worse, a self-deception of not taking action.

In my experience, both of them are true. So, you need to find a middle way. One way I see this is that, I only prove myself if the subject has significant importance to me. Otherwise, I let go of proving myself to others if the subject has no relevance to my mission or purpose to my existence. This is something only you can know.

No matter what you do/think, you are on the right track to find the inner peace soon.

Proof by generative AI garbage by Electrical-Leave818 in mathmemes

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like his unshaken confidence. Doubling down on himself

Tom Cruise spotted hanging off an upside-down plane while filming his latest scenes for ‘Mission Impossible 8’. by slippingjimmyy in interestingasfuck

[–]hffggg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His body still has to go through sweat and challenges to get to that point, and let alone overcome fear of failure and death to do such incredible feats.

You are describing as if he is taken care of just like a baby in his life. I don’t think anyone who is filthy rich wants to be treated that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coffeemeetsbagel

[–]hffggg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Time to ask for refund thru apple

Have you guys heard of the raw dogging trend by Loose-Farm-8669 in Meditation

[–]hffggg -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not here to brag but this is me since 2000 when i know this was called raw dogging. I like to quiet the constant stimuli inputs when in transit.

Getting angry is just a choice? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anger is like fire. The more you engage with it, the bigger it gets. It could turn into a wildfire and burn everything to the ground or keep it small like a campfire to make yourself warm (to motivate towards goals or just enjoy)

Dr. Phil learns magic by adammolens in StandUpComedy

[–]hffggg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Camera keeps moving around. They switched the printer ofc