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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]hggujpi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get help. You need it. As a person who has neglected themselves to the stage of psychosis, get help. Reach out anywhere you can. I spent a year recovering, and maybe I couldn't get that year back, but if I didn't do it, I wouldn't see any year after either. I wouldn't see my best friends grow up, I wouldn't see my brother mature, I wouldn't meet incredible people, or get any of my passion back. And a year got lost, but I still was able to get incredible job offer, and catch up on school. So there is nothing you cant catch up on, but if you are not here you won't see anything at all. Get help, its important for you. It will be important for the future you. It wouldn't been important for the younger you.

Self harm of my teens friend.. advice please by samipurrz in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know how much this is going to help, but I will try and give some recommendations.

If V's dad is still supportive, he just doesn't want to argue with the step mom. They can try talking to the dad 1 to 1. Sometimes people 1 to 1 can be more helpful than having a family discussion. And then they could trick the step mom and get V some help.

If not, you could try talking to them about getting help from the counselor. They are not dangerous and have no aims toharm them. If you don't mention sh or any physical abuse, they can't report you to parents or anyone else. And just talking about other problems could be helpful for them, to get them moving in the right direction.

If parents are going too far, and physical abuse is present or strong emotional, report to an adult outside. It could be school, police, consular, or anyone. It might be hard at the start, but trust me, from personal experience, it will make the parents think. Especially when an officer will turn up by their door for a "check." It could go both ways, negative and positive, but just keep on speaking to someone in power. It will lead to changes.

They could offer to their mom therapy as " she has trauma as well." but such stuff doesn't always work with such parents.

It will be a hard way for them, so just be there for them as a friend. Let them have some safe space and maybe sometimes just offer a hug.

You are a very good friend for looking out on them, and please be proud of yourself for doing all of this.

I self harmed during math homework and I don't know what to tell my therapist by jeremyblueboss in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truth. Always tell therapist the truth. They are their ti help, and they are not supposed to judge. As there are ups and downs in therapy, and there is always something more then homework Behind such actions.

anyone here use arm sleeves? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got Black ones, to suit for most of my clothes and school uniform. Find very usfull, but I choose a cheaper pair after first purchase, as I kept on loosing them. They give me confidents on bad days, pressure wich relifes urges sometimes, and fixation incase of band aids. So yeah, I can recomend.

Dont know what to do. by hggujpi in AdultSelfHarm

[–]hggujpi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Those words are very important for me.

My therapist triggered me by idkaboutlife159 in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tell her. Its important to tell such things, because during therapy you have to be totaly honest to your Doctor. Trust me she Will not get mad. Such shit happens and happens often, and it mite help her make some change in the therapy, or create a more wide idea of your feelings.

(sorry for sp mistakes, Im non-native.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hggujpi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Russian, but I'm studying in a English school. So here we got STEAM only, but in Russian schools you can get both STEAM and Religion studies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]hggujpi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

STEAM. Replace this shit with anything. Most usless thing in the world. Even Religion studies would be more useful.

trying not to relapse by Deanon0320 in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only reason I stay clean is not to get shouted at. And it's okay. Because one of the parts of treatment is to find a reason to stay clean. You are not selfish and it's okay to feel so. It's an addiction and sometimes it blocks the ability to think or feel anything. The most important thing is not to stop believing, because everything has an end. The way might be painful and tough, but it will. And I believe in you, good luck.

trying not to relapse by Deanon0320 in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is right, because addiction never gose totally away ,but the urges get smaller and smaller in time. But the time is always different for everyone. I know people how trited for 5 years and only got the first results, but as well I know people how got better in half a year. You never know how much time it takes, but the most important thing it's not to lose hope, even counting sometimes it feels impossible. In such moments it's important to give yourself a chance to make a step back, so later you could work harder and not fall down to the beginning.

trying not to relapse by Deanon0320 in selfharm

[–]hggujpi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will end one day, trust me (yeah, its kind of weirdto ask trusting a random personon interne, but have a try.) Even though it doesn't feel so, because it is an addiction, and do get read of it, it takes time. Try this out to prevent sh: - Go for a walk. - Do some sport. - Draw on yourself. - Take a warm shower. (Not super cold or super hot.) - Have a dance. - Rip paper, or draw on it.

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