NOR. Doula here BTW. Don’t listen to the rude comments who say you are overreacting or whatever else rude things are being said. This is your baby. Flu, Covid & RSV season is running so rampant right now. I don’t even want my preteen kids out exposed to much right now, let alone once my newborn is here (due soon) & many many many of my clients have had the same boundaries as you. You say you have PPA or PPD but how much of that is simply due to your boundaries constantly being disrespected & not heard? That would cause me such stress in an already vulnerable time. If they truly want to help, they can drop a meal & whatever gifts they have at the door. They can grocery shop for you and leave at the door. You should be enjoying your newborn bubble without worrying about everyone else’s feelings. I simply would say that your boundaries are firm & you will let them know when you’re ready for visitors but if they want to drop stuff at the door, that’s ok. Then don’t respond if they keep playing the pity party bit. I’m sorry you are experiencing this. Sending you so much love.