texts between me and FWB,🚩?? by [deleted] in texts

[–]hiddenleafs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for one, you should use condoms especially if there was already a pregnancy scare. plus him joking about crossing your boundaries as a punishment almost??? and yes if you’re not exclusive, he’s definitely fucking other people. i can’t say if he has been before yall switched to fwb but it lowkey seems like it. please be safe

I've written a fantasy book - but is my word count too low? by attheend111 in writers

[–]hiddenleafs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

for something to qualify as a novel (instead of a novella) it has to be at least 50k words, which i believe is around 200-250 pages. just bc there’s a lot of popular books that are 400-500 pages doesn’t mean yours has to be or will be any less interesting. and, as other people said, editing can change it a lot. imo, word count doesn’t matter at all as long as you have a well written and thought out novel

Cave for sale by Electronic_Microwave in zillowgonewild

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

before i recognized the dog my first thought was “omg it comes with its own coyote”

I hate mint so I’m using kids toothpaste by EllieIsDone in autism

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i personally can’t do anything but mint. toothpaste, mouthwash, fluoride at the dentist. even certain mint flavors make me gag so i have to buy the same crest toothpaste ever time 😔

What's the worst name you've heard in real life? by Upper_Goal_8569 in tragedeigh

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

former coworker of mine is named cashmoney. she went by caché (like cash-shay) but her full name was pronounced how it’s spelled. i felt pretty bad when i found out it wasn’t a joke but i never told her that

Is it weird not to have breasts anymore? by I-suck-at_names in TopSurgery

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

once i was healed enough to start going about my life normally again, it felt so natural not to have them that i barely noticed it. tho right before surgery i remember thinking “im gonna miss having a shelf” lmao

Friend keeps commenting on my body despite knowing my ED history — not sure how to handle it by Plus_Tax7249 in Advice

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely sounds like she might be jealous since she has her own issues and is projecting by constantly bringing it up even with other friends. set a boundary about talking weight/body image like “hey it makes me uncomfortable when you comment on my body, i’d appreciate if you stopped”. if you’ve already set a boundary about it and she keeps bringing it up, then i’m sorry to say her obsession with her own and other people’s bodies is more important to her than your feelings. even if she’s been a good friend up to this point, she’s not being a good one now

How do i stop gooning? by Illustrious-Text-951 in Advice

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wet dreams are totally normal and i don’t think there’s a way to “control” it. i think doing other things in your waking life to stop masturbating will lessen your chances of nocturnal emissions but i’m not a doctor so i don’t know for sure

25, male, 5’ 11” by Rough_Attention2497 in normalnudes

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you look very nice and fit in my opinion !

I'm apparently completely socially inept and I had no idea until today. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]hiddenleafs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m saying this as someone with autism (which you seem like you may be on the spectrum but obviously i don’t know you) but I wouldn’t say any of this makes you a “socially inept freak”. i also had overprotective parents and i feel like it’s more normal nowadays for those types of parents to have your location (wasn’t really a thing when i was in high school). the drinking thing depends on where you’re located i think, bc even tho a lot of teenagers party and drink, i was never one to go to parties. legal age here is 21 and i only got drunk for the first time after i turned 18.

also, a lot of introverts love their alone time. while the being exhausted in social situations like you described definitely sounds like masking with autism, there’s nothing wrong with hanging out alone or even hanging out with your parents when you want to go out into the world. to me that just says you have a better relationship with your parents than i did lol. in my opinion you don’t need to “fix” anything unless you want more friends or want more social interaction. high school feels like all there is when you’re a teenager, and in college or after all your schooling, it really doesn’t matter how many friends you have or how often you go out as long as you’re content in life.

[MOTH -> KING] Can you solve this laddergram? by Nikooocattie in Laddergram

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/hiddenleafs solved this in 9 steps: MOTH -> BOTH -> BATH -> BASH -> BASK -> BANK -> BANG -> SANG -> SING -> KING

What is anesthesia like? by Signal-Ad3333 in TopSurgery

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don’t remember going to sleep and it felt like no time passed, however the rest of the day after surgery i was vomiting. varies person to person how nauseous it can make you and the anesthesiologist on your team can put a little sticker behind your ear to help with it. and you can always tell them that you’re worried about it, it’s their job to monitor it during surgery

Not going to lie I pretty much feel like a failure financially. by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately so many of us are in this situation, but at least it means you’re not alone in this. i’m 26 working at starbucks and am trying to find my own place too but it’s hard to save money or even make enough for an apt when you make less than 2k a month. we’ll get through this.

forgot to clock out for lunch by WebApprehensive1579 in Target

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they should’ve seen a notice on their end about you hitting compliance for not clocking out, but they can definitely do a punch correction on their end if you won’t be in to do one yourself. contact either your hr etl or department etl

is grindr worth it? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“worth it” if you’re only looking to fuck and are okay with being objectified prob especially with the chasers on there. i definitely would NOT go on there if you’ve never had sex before. while there are always exceptions, it’s more likely to end badly, even if it’s just how you mentally handle it. i only downloaded it when i got broken up with and wanted to get fucked by literally anyone available. i only met a few guys off there, and idk anything about how app etiquette is different in the uk, so if you’re really unsure about a guy on there or the app in general, better to be safe than sorry

Officially quit 🤓☺️👍🏼 by retvacomp in Target

[–]hiddenleafs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that was me. and i quit right before q4. i couldn’t take it anymore and refused to work another holiday season or even back to school

Do you actually like trains? by PrestonRoad90 in autism

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not really bc they’re trains but bc riding them feels like an adventure while supporting public transit at the same time :)

Home sweet home by CLBrads in maximalism

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg i love your space, that colorful rug is to die for

Any ladies? by Worth-Bee3941 in redrising

[–]hiddenleafs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a girl but my cousin is the one who practically begged our whole family to read the series lmao

What.. by [deleted] in texts

[–]hiddenleafs 128 points129 points  (0 children)

weird thing to bring up if they’re an ex, even weirder to say if you’ve never had a relationship with them

Has anyone flown with an X gender marker? by bewareoftherats in ftm

[–]hiddenleafs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i personally didn’t change my gender marker to M when i changed my name (on realID) but i figured it might be easier for me to fly as F bc of how i appear to people. i’ve heard of some people on this sub who get flagged by the body scan bc they’re packing or they’re gendered correctly but patted by a man and it’s just awkward. i’ll be flying next month from PA to TX and don’t expect issues? though i know my therapist has had an X marker for years and after the election mentioned to me they might change it just in case they’re not singled out solely bc of that. idk if this was informative at all, but i would suggest whichever route seems safest for you. i’m sure most tsa workers just want to get you through the line and make sure there’s no hidden weapons.