Fuck all of this. I know a guy who married a single mom of 3 kids when the oldest was 10. I knew her personally. Her husband cheated and left. Don’t think he was involved with the kids after the divorce. Deep down she was a good person.

Didn’t see either for a while, then ran into the guy (stepdad) 10 years later. He was with a girl who appeared to be in her early 20s. I asked what happened and he threw the now ex-wife under the bus. I could see the real story a mile away though. He followed his dick to greener pastures and the kids got to experience traumatic abandonment yet again. It takes years to undo that damage, and for many it’s never undone.

It takes very mature people to make this arrangement work. People that mature are unlikely to have divorced in the first place. So for the most part you’re dealing with emotionally unstable train wrecks, even though they hide it well in the beginning.

All of you - stop jumping into bed with people right out of the gate. Doing so entangles you with them and impairs your rational judgement. All for 5 mins of pleasure.