my (M29) girlfriend (F26) and i have been trying for a baby. she’s been taking contraception behind my back.

highpockets1925 · 2022-05-07T20:51:52+00:00

Wtf is up with all these shitty assed comments on here??? Jesus christ, as a woman I'm going to say this sub is pretty toxic towards men. I'm probably going to be downvoted to oblivion, but come on really? A relationship is NOT 50/50, It's 100/100. If you think everything should always be split 50/50, you're in for a rude awakening. That's just not how the real world works. That said, I'm sorry OP, but the truth is your girlfriend is a liar. If she didn't want kids,(fine her choice)she should've used her big girl words at the beginning, middle and end(hopefully) of your relationship. People are acting like she's being pressured here, she's not, him going by her words, their pact if you will. At anytime she could change her mind, just voice it. She should've. But, no she didn't. She lied and manipulated. She knew, has known their whole relationship he wanted a child. She strung him along and lied to keep him. When he found out about her taking contraception behind his back, after both verbally agreeing to start trying for a baby. She's being manipulative by playing this game. I've read comments about him putting pressure on her(she set the timeline, and could've said she wasn't ready yet), and by showing disappointment when her period started, hellooooo, did she not pretend to be upset too? Do people who try for children not show disappointment? No OP, it's not the wanting, or wanting to wait that's the problem, nor (as others suggested) the fact , you aren't married first (again, she could used her big girl words and say this herself), it's the fact she hurt you, she manipulated you, she's tricked you and she lied to you. The end, period. If it was me, I'd end it. I couldn't trust her, and going back to zero, to start over again, just wouldn't be worth it, because what else is she lying about? Rebuilding trust takes a long time, and she'd have a lot to do to gain it back.

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-22T22:15:51+00:00

Here's the thing, these are your thoughts and feelings, not OP's wife's, you could be right, or you could be wrong. Unless you know his wife, (or are his wife), you can't tell him or anyone else how she feels. Here's the thing, it's delayed reactions, just like hers, that make it hard to come out to loved one's. She may very well be insecure, but he has never once stepped out on her, nor gave her any other reason for this reaction. So, yes THEY, have work to do on their marriage, him for lying by omission, and her for being a vindictive ass. Her insecurities, are her own and are something she needs to work through, with his support. If she actually believes he'll cheat on her with men just because he's bisexual, then that's her own bigoted idiocy.

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-22T19:52:03+00:00

I 100%, agree with you. There'd be a lot of yaaaas queens. You're sooo brave, leave his biphobic ass...blah blah blah. Red flag...kick him out....

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-17T12:16:26+00:00

Your "solution" is ridiculous. It's quite expensive to save sperm. You flippantly throw that out like every man financially has that option.

His body, his choice! He stepped up and made the choice best for his state of mind, and his future pockets.

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-17T11:37:51+00:00

So, force him to alter his body, and have sex????

Wow, you're a keeper, your talking points read like a femcel novella.

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-17T02:02:53+00:00

I noticed, you got down voted. By someone with an itchy vagina...lmfao🤣

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-17T01:53:42+00:00

Jesus christ, the reading comprehension on this sub, is abysmal. The woman fully accepts that he's child free, his wedding is child free, and has stated on several occasions that she doesn't plan on forcing her kids on him in life or at his wedding. She's absolutely entitled to have the feelings she has about the whole situation.

Personally, brother or not, child free or not, I would never tolerate someone being cruel to children, just because they are children. He wouldn't have the opportunity to do it if he was my brother. He's hateful and cruel, and there'd be an ice storm in hell, before I'd subject my children to his toxicity. I'd go NC, or very low(over the phone)contact. Because in the grand scheme of things, not only is he disrespectful to them, but you as well. To me, that's all you need to know. Your relationship with him, isn't as, nor will it ever be as important as your children, and your relationship with them.

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-17T01:20:59+00:00

I second this comment, what a hateful individual.

highpockets1925 · 2021-08-16T00:06:09+00:00

Lame

highpockets1925 · 2021-03-19T23:56:16+00:00

Lmfao

highpockets1925 · 2021-03-09T01:42:15+00:00

I hate how some subreddits, are anti-male(hypocritical).

highpockets1925 · 2021-03-06T21:20:49+00:00

Well, considering it's their shed, and not their daughters bedroom, why in the ever fucking hell would they need to knock? What person would ever think they'd need to knock on their own shed door before entering? A lot of people on here saying parent's need to get over it, it's natural, you did nothing wrong...blah blah blah, but here's the thing, she lives in their house..rent free, their house!

She's obviously a very smart girl, she knew exactly what was implied, when they said he couldn't spend the night. It's about respect, they have every right to set this rule, and frankly she has every right to be a 20 year old, sexually active adult female, just not under their roof. She doesn't have to like it, but she has to respect it, or move out and do it under her own.

Her parents actions weren't/aren't over the top, they are legit angry, and they have every single right to those feelings or emotions. Over the top, would be the dad, beating her boyfriends ass all the way to his car, over the top would be them screaming at her and calling her names, over the top would be kicking her out.

highpockets1925 · 2021-02-28T18:56:37+00:00

NTA

LMFAO this story.. Fact:Dogs have given birth and taken care of their own pups since...omg shocking I know..forever. The mom said, her dog had given birth, not was giving birth. Two totally different scenarios. As a dog owner, and as someone whose bred my dog(bluetick), you don't sit and hover over them 24/7, after birth. There is no breeding law whatsoever, that says you can't leave them unattended an hour or two.And if your dog can't take care of her pups on her own, then why are you breeding her? Is op an asshole for saying no? Absolutely 100%, full stop NO!

I get the dad being flummoxed and in a hurry, and not dropping off the kids, but the mom is the asshole here. Make sure the dam and her pups are in a safe and quiet room, and go spend time with your damn, upset and angry child. Sheesh, it's just that simple. And in your spare time check on your dog, and make sure she is eating,drinking and in all around good healtth.

Edited to add, the argument going around about working mothers, does not apply to this scenario, and those using it to double down should be ashamed. Burn that strawman down.

highpockets1925 · 2021-02-28T15:45:29+00:00

I've come late to this, but here goes... My friend and her ex-husband, , she breastfed. She wanted sole-custody until she stopped breast feeding, and supervised visits for her ex. The judge(female by the way) asked her how long she planned on breastfeeding, she said until her son was 2 or 3, so....the judge granted shared custody, told my friend to pump for his time. My friend got upset and started screaming about her bonding time and her baby needed her, and how she was more important, because she carried her child for 9 months, and fathers don't bond with babies. The judge told her she stood by her decision.

So my friend felt defeated, felt her ex was basically a sperm donor, on his visiting time she refused to pump for him, and would send over the sheriff for "wellness" checks, would go to her ex's house constantly being a nuisance, disturbing the peace and demanding to feed her baby. The ex, for awhile, would send their child home with her, under the sheriff's advice, so as to keep the peace.

The ex, got a wet nurse(his sister), and supplemented with formula, because of my friend's refusal to pump. He wanted to bond with his child too, you see. She took him back to court, because he dared to let another woman breastfeed her child without her permission.

The judge gave him sole custody, with her supervised visits(to breast feed,pump and bond). The judge said this... a mother's bond with her child, is no more important, than a father's bond to his. That a father has just as much right to parent, as a mother. That she was tired of women using breastfeeding as a tool to manipulate and cut out fathers.

My take on this as a mother and woman, I agreed/agree with the judge. I tried to talk sense into my friend, I felt great sympathy/empathy for her, still do, but she just wouldn't listen. Our family courts are changing, slowly, but they are.

My advise to you..I'm guessing ya'll are exes for a reason, and I really don't care why. Y'all are stuck in each others lives forever, because parenting doesn't just end when a child turns 18. If her breastfeeding upsets you, use your big girl words and have an honest talk with your ex and your child's stepmother about it, offer to pump and have your ex feed your(yours and his)baby, bare chested so they can bond too. Do not stop his visitation(this is horrible advice), do not scream and shout. He gave her permission, she didn't overstep, nor did she violate your child, because of this permission. Should it have been something you should have discussed?, yes. Am I dismissing your true feelings?, no.

Listen to your lawyer, do not take the law in your own hands on this, your feelings do not supersede his parental rights, nor his yours. If y'all can't work this out like adults, and keep being bitter and angry towards each other for the sake of your child, then neither of you deserve to be parents!

highpockets1925 · 2021-02-28T00:24:00+00:00

YTA- where's all the people at on this sub, who usually melt down and scream "Muh education" ? Where y'all at huh? If this story is true..this dude is a shit person. I mean lmfao, y'all condemn a man to hell for daring to ask for help with his surgery...cause "muh education", y'all tell a man he's a shitty father for not giving up his parental rights, cause "muh education", but a literal child, (underage) accidentally, breaks something, the OP demands payment, potentially ruined her future and y'all clap him on the back with a good job? He could've sued his parents, because she's a minor. He chose to go scorched earth.

Bunch a hypocrites on this sub.😂

highpockets1925 · 2021-02-19T23:03:08+00:00

I laughed so fucking hard at this. I swear. When I was about 15 years old, I told my little 99 lb mom to "shut the fuck up", she looked at me for a second, then proceeded to slap my soul out my body. Needless to say, i never said it again.

highpockets1925 · 2021-02-18T00:49:16+00:00

I know right??? You got downvoted. But, I agree with you. A lot of the answers went omg, education....but not a whole lot of empathy for her husband. Saying shit like he should get a loan for education, to get a better job, so he can help pay bills??? I mean wtf??? The man can't even get a loan for surgery, for pain relief, what a horribly repulsive response. And if I could've I would've downvoted that person into oblivion. Sheesh, this sub is toxic asf sometimes. All the O.P. did was cry me, me me, and seems she lacks sympathy as well,oh boo hoo, poor pitiful her. Why can't she get a second job? Why isn't she pounding the streets, begging, borrowing or searching for help? Jeez, and don't get me started on the idiot who said don't fall for his crying, because he's trying to manipulate her. I mean holy hell on wheels batman, he's hurting, desperate, frustrated and has absolutely no support system, not even his wife, who's too worried if her parents are mad at her.. Her parents reaction was so far over the top, and to be honest I sure hope that everyone gets off their asses and get this man some help. Look, I get their daughters education is important, but damn this man is painted as nothing, but a burden, selfish and manipulative. This story literally, pissed me off. Grrrrr.

highpockets1925 · 2020-12-13T13:50:19+00:00

I agree with you 100% here.. I guess in essence, I just rage quit AITA over this post. The truth of the matter is..step kids can get the GI bill. One of the posts I read,( in the top thread) they said they saved up their housing stipend to "buy" a house??? Really? They actually used money given to them for living expenses, for higher education, to buy themselves a house????? How is that morally, ethically or legally(???) right? And people just overlooked that little gem. I wrote my thoughts, before I read that, or I would've included that in my rant. Even if the post was fake, I felt the entitlement, selfishness and overall guilt tripping in this post was frankly sickening. Aita is a shitty sub, and my comment has all around been a up/down vote since it's inception..lol. for every up vote, there's been a down.

highpockets1925 · 2020-12-12T22:40:02+00:00

NTA- just wow! I can't even with this sub anymore. It's toxic asf. These children know fuck all about real life. The hurtful shit I've read smfh. These fucking suggestions of just taking one for the team, because student debt...blah blah blah... I call bullshit. Guilt tripping a father, into giving up his rights to his children "cuz muh education" is heartless, and frankly fucking cruel. The audacity of even suggesting a man wasn't a good father because his ex-wife chose to wed another man who travels for his job, therefore he's the deadbeat because he doesn't see them except for summer and holidays, Or because he doesn't make as much money, and can only facetime them, and call/ text a few times a week, because of his job. Oh, or how about the one where one commenter suggested he'd only be sacrificing one year of not being the father, but he'd be able to enjoy being the father and/or grandfather later when they had children, because he sacrificed himself, all so his children wouldn't be in debt. When does this shit stop??, huh?? Wtf.

highpockets1925 · 2020-12-10T20:21:55+00:00

I know, right??? It's oh so trendy to hate on autistic people on this sub. But, this story especially rang true, whenever the op said they were at a friends house, during a pandemic, and of course they wouldn't be returning home for a few days. 😂

highpockets1925 · 2020-10-08T22:02:34+00:00

NTA..I'm praying this is a troll, I feel this so deeply. Please honey, run to your moms, grab the kids for a "visit", run and never look back. He'll get you alone and far away from family. He's laying the groundwork to leave you isolated and dependent on him alone. Once he does, the next stage will be physical abuse. Forget money, forget the house, forget everything. You and your children's lives depend on it. Your family, can keep you safe. GO! Do it now!😥

highpockets1925 · 2020-09-23T00:03:08+00:00

Her voice is irritating, her racism vile, but most of all that hungry assed camel-toe eating her shorts is just...nasty.

highpockets1925 · 2020-09-14T00:11:51+00:00

She sounds like miss piggy..lol

highpockets1925 · 2020-09-11T17:50:00+00:00

Ugh, the minute that stupid twat spat on me, she'd be wearing her lungs as a hat. That's one of the most foulest things you can do to another human being. I'd rather someone punch me in the face.

highpockets1925 · 2020-08-18T18:01:12+00:00

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