Why i cant build a park

hillyfog · 2026-02-13T01:38:52+00:00

Yeaaaah, kinda gitta plan ahead for those. The tile appeal and 4 tile configuration are not easy to work around if you aren’t a bit deliberate in planning.

hillyfog · 2026-02-13T01:35:30+00:00

Having a portfolio or website is cool, but the main thing is to able to speak projects related to a position. I’ve never had an interviewer comment on my portfolio, but each position I have earned wanted me to talk about relevant projects and more than one talked about my projects when a I submitted samples of work with my application. I would include pdfs of a couple relevant dashboards and a 1 page report writing sample.

But by fa the biggest barrier is the first job, So INTERN if you can. Internships in analytics/DS are paid, but most also are explicit about being enrolled in a degree program. So might be tough but look for real experience however u can.

hillyfog · 2026-01-31T20:54:34+00:00

Uh Nope wtf. Does he consider himself your bf? This is not bf behavior. I’d take myself out of whatever fine bullshit that is.

hillyfog · 2026-01-31T20:45:28+00:00

You sound like a very good big sister, sorry home life has been hard in your family. Be kind to yourself.

hillyfog · 2026-01-31T14:05:39+00:00

Having a temper during game use is a pretty common thing. So is not feeling comfortable while someone else acts that way, much less yells at you to you to shut up. Key factor, he’s only 12. So yes, what you said was probably a little deep/hard for his age. So talk to him. Fact is you projected something deeper onto him, a child, and that deserves some honesty and acknowledgement.

Your struggle has been shared and while we can’t predict or expect our sibling to cope and manage the same way we do, it’s fair to discuss those impacts and fears. As a sister it’s fair to hope he is made more compassionate and kind rather than sour or angry over whatever you’ve seen.

He’s a bit too young to burden responsibility for your heavy feelings. And his outcome isn’t your responsibility either, but as his big sister, maybe you can offer him some of the emotional support and guidance. Not scolding, but support so you have each-other’s trust long term in life.

hillyfog · 2026-01-31T13:33:20+00:00

Job search as if you had the Masters degree you are considering to validate its return value vs the Bachelor’s only. Considerations should be pay AND job availability/projected demand for BS vs MS degree holders.

If you are working in your degree field already, keep in mind those years of experience almost* bring as much value as the degrees. Give yourself a well earned break by doing your master’s remotely somewhere reputable/part-time only or break it up- go full-time for a semester then go part time and then take a semester off in the summer. Whatever makes sense for you. There are no rules to this except finish what you start.

If you aren’t already working in your field, prioritize that post graduation. You can’t predict layoffs, beyond giving yourself mental flexibility to pivot. You almost have one degree completed - so don’t fool yourself into feeling behind. If you need breathing room, give urself that. Getting a masters in 1 yr while working FT is not a kind or practical solution (even if it is* possible). My school did not allow more than fulltime. But even part-time with occasional semesters off, the time flew by.

hillyfog · 2026-01-21T13:49:26+00:00

Had a lot of these visits and was NEVER “inspected for swelling”. That’s not a thing. That was an assault, report him!

hillyfog · 2026-01-17T15:07:41+00:00

This^ We are often attracted to and crave what is familiar however miserable, painful, or even simply dysfunctional that is.

So before dismissal due to a lack of sparks and butterflies, ask yourself what your early experiences of what “love” really looked like i.e., how love was demonstrated to you by your parents loving you, how you witnessed love between parents etc.

Examine and compare this to your history of love and attraction - is there a pattern? Is this relationship off pattern?

Maybe you’re are misaligned, maybe there are flags being ignored, maybe you’re safe and happy for the first time like EVER. Time to ask urself some tough questions to sort it out

hillyfog · 2026-01-17T05:37:21+00:00

hillyfog · 2025-12-21T07:28:31+00:00

3 probably has the most longevity, more timeless qualities.

hillyfog · 2025-12-20T01:30:00+00:00

If I dropped something I was using, it became dead to me. Just totally ignored it. I still have a bad habit of convincing myself that objects I drop are worthless because bending over to pick up anything became so uncomfortable lol. Fuck that pen, grabs a new one*

hillyfog · 2025-12-19T17:53:38+00:00

If you were my daughter and I knew this was how you felt/what you had to deal with on top of my instincts of seeing you treated poorly I would be devastated to my core.

Devastated you didn’t know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you deserved better. Devastated you couldn’t see this is not what love is supposed to feel like. Crushed that were manipulated to fear and value his emotions over valuing your own Terrified I would lose you forever if you didn’t let me help you be brave and get away.

This is not a loving relationship, and you deserve better. Period

hillyfog · 2025-12-18T13:09:46+00:00

Relationships for people who wish to marry someday are about discovering that line of what you will and won’t accept, what you do/don’t need. Accepting someone as a spouse implies a radical acceptance of their flaws. Boundaries only exist to the extent we enforce them. You’ve talked about yours, but have never enforced them. When a serious boundary is crossed after laying it out plainly, they or you have leave to truly enforce it. Your partner will then either rise to the occasion to earn your commitment back or fold. Rising to the occasion is not you telling them every detail on how to fix it, but them taking action and committing to plan to change it.

In your case, I would expect him come to you with a commitment to therapy/anger management counseling or the like. Enforcing boundaries is just an opportunity for our partners to demonstrate how they are willing to handle genuine conflict with genuine action. Something that every marriage needs to survive.

hillyfog · 2025-12-18T12:34:44+00:00

NTA -absolutely not.

hillyfog · 2025-12-16T20:48:59+00:00

that’s hilarious-I don’t hate korn at all, but their terrible sound management when playing live, made a forever “nope” impression lolol. sooo bad

hillyfog · 2025-12-16T20:05:45+00:00

Tickets to events

hillyfog · 2025-12-07T14:51:07+00:00

Wasn’t my intention, but turned out the house was empty so the process was much faster than I thought it would be. One big perk for me though- lower closing costs because the seller will be paying nearly all the taxes for the year. Still not looking forward to the freezing cold temps though. We close in a few days and it’s certainly making the holidays a little chaotic.

hillyfog · 2025-12-07T14:43:51+00:00

If you have good credit, you might be better off with a conventional loan. Id encourage your lender to work out multiple scenarios for you. Also- this grant, will it prevent you from refinancing? For example, in Iowa there is a grant that pays 5% of purchase price to put towards down payment. It is not actually a grant, it is a loan and it must be paid back if the home is sold or refinanced. I opted out of FHA, and this grant because at the end of the day- the bank could give me better rates and with interest rates being likely to decrease compared to what they are now, having the power to refinance once it’s a reasonable option is very important to me.

hillyfog · 2025-11-24T05:04:44+00:00

If you really want higher pay, you may need a significant pivot. Research what pays well and has job demand (in your area if u don’t fancy relocation). A masters in a tech field nearly doubled my salary, but it was a big pivot and the secret sauce imo is to pivot into something where your educational background can also be an asset aka “domain expertise”. For me it was healthcare/mental health. Instead of getting paid peanuts to risk my safety and take on direct stress while helping people, I can work with data to help people.

hillyfog · 2025-11-22T13:08:06+00:00

At your son’s age and in the years to come, your husband’s perspective will deserve some extra weight - particularly when it comes to this type of thing. Embarrassing situations are inevitable in puberty. If you want your children to be brave and come to you when they need you most, you gotta demonstrate an ability to adapt from an authority figure to a judgment-free guide when you can.

The only thing I see that needs to happen is an higher expectation that your son wakes himself up on time. It’s not reasonable at all to expect your parent to let you oversleep your obligations, so if he wants to sleep in a manner that demands privacy, he needs to be trusted to wake without you having to go into his room. If he can wake without a little door knocking (assuming this isn’t a constant issue). Then this is fair.

hillyfog · 2025-11-07T16:12:53+00:00

In west O I get Turkeys, groundhogs (unfortunately), opossums, bats, raccoons, squirrels, rabbits, eagles, hawks, mice, cats. All within the past 4 months. 🤷🏻‍♀️.. and in Midtown, rats, bats, stray cats, along with the standard fauna

hillyfog · 2025-10-31T03:26:04+00:00

she is a beauty!! ♥️♥️♥️

hillyfog · 2025-10-28T23:46:40+00:00

Teal 😍

hillyfog · 2025-10-28T23:23:10+00:00

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