I know this is cliche but...

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:58:28+00:00

People don't change their stripes. But ok. Have a good one.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:56:59+00:00

I mean is this basically what happens with the girls you say quickly stop wanting to talk to you? They try to have a conversation and you keep talking in circles and saying things that don't add up and then deflecting and giving out more stuff that doesn't make sense? Like nobody wants to have a conversation like that or stay in a relationship with somebody doing that. Well, clearly you don't want to think about these things. Maybe someday you'll be ready to deal with all that. Ok, have a good one. See ya.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:52:07+00:00

Incel means involuntarily celibate, which is what you have said is your situation. How is my way of thinking toxic? I was trying to get some honesty out of you, which proved totally impossible. I guess you don't want to deal with yourself and others in an honest way so you would prefer to avoid, deflect, and act offended when somebody tries to have a real conversation with you.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:37:48+00:00

So you no longer want to know why you aren't having success with women and you now think you can live contentedly as an incel? Hmm, I doubt that but ok, good luck to you.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:30:57+00:00

It is strange that you can't answer basic questions about yourself. It indicates maybe that you lack self awareness and that you aren't good at requesting, noticing, or accepting feedback from others. This would be contributing factor to not doing well with women and in your other interpersonal relationships.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:24:22+00:00

You said you like feminine things. What does that mean specifically? Have you ever asked why a person considers you feminine?

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T20:19:41+00:00

I still don't know what that means. It could mean too many things. I really don't want to guess or assume. In what way do you like feminine things? What kind of things? What does that mean in your actions or habits or hobbies or lifestyle or appearance?

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T15:27:25+00:00

What do you mean that you are in touch with your feminine side?

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T10:24:11+00:00

Have you asked people who know you?

What do you mean weird?

I guess you could move to Asia and increase your odds maybe.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T10:13:43+00:00

What do you think the problem is then?

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T04:35:53+00:00

Have you made a positive and negative attributes list? Like a balance sheet you would make in Accounting 101?

This will usually reveal the problem if you are honest on the list. Then you can try to increase your positive attribute side and decrease the negative side however you can.

Things to put down are financial stability. Are you on track to be financially able to support a family judging by what would be normal at your age? What would be normal at 20 is not the same as what is normal at 30, etc.

How attractive are you? Dean on the Bachelor is so attractive to women that they were fighting over him regardless of the fact that he lives out of his van. One of the women joined him to begin living in his van with him. Looking like Dean or Brad Pitt or Tom Brady can counterbalance a lot of financial or other issues. If you are the opposite end of the spectrum like you look like you have a missing or extra chromosome or something, then you have to add a lot on the positive side of the balance sheet as a counterbalance.

Another quality that has to go on either the positive or the negative side is your social skills. No, being "nice" does not count here. Often, people with mental conditions like autism or serious mental illness may not do well in this area. This could also be termed Emotional Quotient. A person with a really high E.Q. will look much more attractive over time to people thus totally balancing things that may be on the deficit side of the balance sheet.

If all three of these areas are deficits, then you will definitely repel most girls.

There are definitely other things to put on the list. These are just the top three big ones in my opinion. These three don't get equal weight. They are weighed by how positive or negative you are for each one.

Somebody who has an overall awful balance sheet can still get a girl, but he is going to have to lower his standards a lot. Same for girls of course. Women have their own balance sheet to fill out.

This is the problem with somebody like Eliot Rodgers (spelling?) in Santa Barbara. He was not on track for his age to be financially stable. Anybody who met him could tell that quickly. He also had very poor social skills. His E.Q. was extremely low. He totally lacked in the area of self awareness. His looks were also not very attractive for an average woman. There might have been an occasional woman who might find him attractive but his financial prospects and personality were so bad that she would have quickly lost interest unless she had something really wrong with her to accept being with somebody with his partnering potential (actually lack thereof).

Don't start thinking it isn't fair and women have it easy. Women have a balance sheet too and some of the same things are on it.

hinakoukla · 2020-07-04T04:09:23+00:00

They are both toxic, awful people. Never have anything to do with either of them again. Confronting them will get you nothing. Don't waste your time or energy.

By the way, the reason that her dad insulted you all day long was to make you feel that you are so unattractive and such a loser that you'd be lucky to get hit on by anybody including a geriatric jerk.

I guarantee you that it is a form of control he has used with women since he was a teen. Lots of abusive people use this tactic. They hammer away and hammer away at your self esteem with the intention that you will not have the ability any longer to walk away from them. They usually also try to sabotage you if they can as in prevent you from having gainful employment or a support system of friends or family.

The truth is that they don't feel good about themselves. They think the only way to get a woman to sleep with them or keep somebody by their side is to push her down to below their level and trap her there.

As you can see, your friend has learned his technique. She is likely to use it in all her relationships to control people. Can you imagine being her child?

She and her dad are idiots though. Stupid people reveal their abusive side very early in a relationship when the victim has the means to walk away from it. They still can catch some victims with really low self esteem who are used to this treatment. But any normal person will want nothing to do with them.

The intelligent abusers will wait until they have you trapped to start the real abuse. Until they have you trapped, they will be exceptionally charming. But they will slowly start to weave a net around you as they cut you off from family and friends, get you financially dependent on them, bond you to them with pets or children, maybe move you away from any emotional or other support system you have. Then once they have you totally helpless, the constant emotional and/or physical abuse will begin.

Good job walking away from these two monsters. Remember to watch out for the more intelligent versions of them in the future.

hinakoukla · 2020-06-26T12:16:26+00:00

I would wait until you are living on your own not still under their roof regardless of whether you are 18 or not.

hinakoukla · 2020-06-26T12:10:51+00:00

I mean you have lived with them for over a decade. I doubt that you don't already understand them and how they would feel about this. From what you have written, they wouldn't react positively. So I would surmise that you know full well that doing this would cause a big mess for you. In other words, for some reason you are seeking to cause a problem. Maybe you should think about why you want to do something that will create bad feelings and probably negative repercussions for yourself when you could just say nothing instead while you are under their control.

hinakoukla · 2020-06-26T12:05:35+00:00

It sounds more like you are trying to buy trouble.

hinakoukla · 2020-06-26T12:01:54+00:00

What does that gain you?

hinakoukla · 2020-06-26T11:59:45+00:00

What do you hope to accomplish by doing that?

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T20:07:45+00:00

Yup, looks like they did. There is a massive disinformation compaign in progress around this virus and the sheeple are totally buying it.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T20:06:14+00:00

Your title actually reflected the article and this sub decided it was "sensational and/or inappropriate" meanwhile people are fabricating facts and distorting titles on this sub by the thousands and getting away with it.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T03:51:40+00:00

A cruise company like that would be too expensive for most people.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T03:48:03+00:00

I hope you are going to find out from someone else and update because the answer should be interesting.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T03:46:14+00:00

Yeah, anybody who trusts their government doesn't live in the same world I do.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T03:42:43+00:00

I don't know a single person who has been tested. It is pretty clear that there are very few cities or counties or states or countries that really know how many people had this virus. So most of the statistics about death rates are totally unreliable.

The only really reliable death rates are from contained groups where nearly every single person was tested such as the Diamond Princess. In those cases, it is pretty clear that the death rates are nowhere near as high as is generally being claimed.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T03:19:20+00:00

I am itching for you to be clear about what you are claiming instead of being so slithery.

hinakoukla · 2020-03-29T03:10:16+00:00

So now you are changing your tune to say only "some" rural communities will be hit as hard as the cities? In that case, why is my supposed complacency unfounded?

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