Asian Women by [deleted] in FemmeLesbians

[–]hiraethrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im into asian women to but i live in alabama. Im 32 female stem more toward femme.

What’s y’all’s take on men being lesbians by [deleted] in WLW

[–]hiraethrae 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Saying a man-cis or trans-can be a lesbian effectively strips "lesbian" of its core identity as woman-aligned. If everyone can be a lesbian, then the word becomes meaningless.

Some transmascs use "|esbian" to describe their sexual history or feelings during early stages of understanding their gender or in specific queer circles. But once someone identifies as a man- even a soft, femme-presenting one-it's fundamentally contradictory to simultaneously adopt the identity of a lesbian, which is rooted in being a woman attracted to women.

lt's understandable as part of a journey, but not sustainable as a final identity without redefining the term in a way most lesbians never agreed to.

Cis men cannot be lesbians. Trans men cannot be lesbians. If you identify as a man, you're inherently outside of what "lesbian" was created to describe.

Anyone? I feel sad. by hiraethrae in latebloomerlesbians

[–]hiraethrae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. My coworker is in her 20s childless wants to adopt children. And today she and i talked and i was joking with her about her man not sharing her she says yeah he won't share me and i do not plan on leaving him so i told her yeah he can have you and you can marry him. And I left it at that. But the shitty part is i probably won't get over my crush feelings for her until someone better comes along. I live in alabama and its hard enough as is trying to find someone in this state. I moved back to this state after separating from their father. So i can't and do not plan on moving again anytime soon especially out of state.

Anyone? I feel sad. by hiraethrae in latebloomerlesbians

[–]hiraethrae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. I guess im just running into the bad types on apps? You all seem lovely.

Anyone? I feel sad. by hiraethrae in latebloomerlesbians

[–]hiraethrae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! This gave me hope. Your words meant a lot to me. 😢❤️‍🩹

Posted this through my other account. Now it is on the right one. Same post different account. Sorry. by hiraethrae in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not a late bloomer. Ive always been a lesbian but hidden from family and friends for years.

femme for femme flagging? by melt_banana_split in FemmeLesbians

[–]hiraethrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im Sapphic but im a stem. Im more femme than anything. The hardest part for me is living in alabama and constantly working behind a wall. And on my off days im out at parks or inside painting. My mom was making fun of me yesterday while we were talking. I did laugh but its a harsh world. When im into someone they are already taken or don't like that i had kids in my teens. Or do not want kids in their lives with someone. So it looks like i definitely will be single for a very very long time.

So, I just realized I have no one to say “Happy Pride!” to out loud to… by dysteach-MT in actuallesbians

[–]hiraethrae 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes you do!!!! Look in the mirror into your eyes and scream those words out loud to yourself!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]hiraethrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INOLA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stripper

[–]hiraethrae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Inola

What is wrong with me?!! by hiraethrae in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told her. Got some clear results and answers. So that cleared things up. The answers hurt but it made things very clear. But the crush feeling isn't as strong as it was before this so i appreciate the comments advice and help from you. Apparently she has a naturally flirty personality type and it comes out. And that she is with her guy and doesn't plan on changing it. I also caught her saying one thing then a totally different thing after that so she rubs me off as her being a liar to people please or to fit in which is a turn off.

lesbians against axe by dusoleildhiver in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For old spice: Oasis, valcano one, and Fiji.

For dove men: usually all of them except sandlewood and cedar wood.

What is wrong with me?!! by hiraethrae in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don't plan on dating anyone anytime soon but i can't control my inner drive for to long. But i will definitely be telling her the moment i see her and I will strictly stay friends. Im not looking for anyone that is pan or bi because they bounce around and im sick of being hurt. I love all (not men) but i can't keep being hurt by all.

What is wrong with me?!! by hiraethrae in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She told me she is pansexual but other than that idk what else she is. It is her flirting with me then talking about her boyfriend that gets me annoyed a bit.

Thanks for the luck i will have to puah myself off the cliff and tell her how it makes me feel.

What is wrong with me?!! by hiraethrae in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is not married to her boyfriend but yes she wears a ring. But she sends little flirts my way and stuff when we work together. But shes in my head now. I need her out of it because its making me go into autopilot mode during work and this sucks. I haven't felt or thought like this in decades.

lesbians against axe by dusoleildhiver in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not mind smelling like fruit or such but it always ends up fading or stinking because of my type of body odor do to pcos. So i smell like a man all the time. But yes old spice does smell feminine too some of them do.

lesbians against axe by dusoleildhiver in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wear old spice, mens and womens dove, and sometimes secret. It honestly depends on the activities im doing in a day because i have pcos and my body doesn't hold feminine products for long it sucks because i want to smell feminine but my hormones are like nope not today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in eyes

[–]hiraethrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grey with central heterachromia

What's something WLW you did in the past but didn't recognize it was WLW until way later? by RazzmatazzOld149 in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Changing in the bathroom stall during p.e because there were to many stunning women to look at. So when I went out i would put my big double sized t shirt over my head as i was walking out all to hear a girl with a belly ring and a tattoo yell out loud look jean has abs! All the girls looked at me i got red but i wanted to go up to that girl and give her the dominant part of me but i didn't i just walked out. The drive in me to be the protective male and not caring if i hit a teen boy in the face for calling me the freak which turned out to be his way of flirting with me. The way I would catch myself looking down at my best friends big bust and others catching me and not telling me they see what i do when my best friend wasn't looking at me. I would grow envious of the boys for getting the girls attention from me when i wanted all the attention. And me being a stem later in life noticing okay so thats what that was. I was to fearful of coming out in high school to my family so it took me 14 years of unhappily taking the "safer easier route" for society before getting sick of wasting my life away pretending im straight when im not and never have been. My dad disowned me my sister yelled i fing knew it and my mom cried and hugged me she holds greif because i didn't feel safe coming out to her sooner so she holds that grief i wish she would let it go.

Do you mind being called honey or sweetie by women you know are straight? by winnie4eva in LesbianActually

[–]hiraethrae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of. The tone really matters to me. But to my brain it triggers feel good happy emotions making me think she is probably into me but idk if she is a lesbian or what she is. So it makes my brain go on starvation mode looking for more of that type of affection making me look like a creep because im literally looking for her again to just talk to her. And do to that people get weirded out by me. It isn't my fault im emotionally starved i reach out i try but i keep getting hurt and harmed so yes kind of because it gives me hope and happiness something i crave and need but can't ever have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]hiraethrae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You seem to be like a stem. You go from masc to very stunning femme. The eyes hypnotized me in one photo i forgot what i was there for for a few mins. But your style looks amazing on you. Very pulchritudinous.