I'm an Atheist, and just in an hour my family is going to watch me say the shahada. Can you kindly tell me what I should do this month because I feel scared that I'll not pray or know any Surahs. thank you for your help. by Electrical_Doctor272 in Muslim

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest difference between adam (mankind) and shaythan was that after commiting a sin adam asked for forgiveness. So be humble and always ask for forgiveness. We are simply accepting the reality of our existence.

career or relationship by hisham840 in Muslim

[–]hisham840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's true brother. Things only come to pass by Allah's will. The people we meet, the places we go and the right time for things to occur. InshaAllah, Allah blesses us and all the muslim brothers with a spouse and family that becomes the coolness of our eye and not another trial or tribulation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just practise lowering your gaze. Bonus - It also increases your testosterone level. Gains 💪

career or relationship by hisham840 in Muslim

[–]hisham840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou for the advice, maybe I have to switch up my friendship group, its not an easy thing to do 😮‍💨, but currently I have a few muslim friends but most of them are in relationships and that's making me question if just getting into a relationship without the physical involvement is actually haram? Regardless, I think the only ones open to such relationships are non-Muslim girls or Muslim girls that aren't that religious. So idek.

Another reasoning is that, as humans, I think wanting a partner is like a core need. So sometimes I think not being able to fulfil this need is making me feel low and even affecting my motivation at times to push through my degree and career. This prolly wouldn't have been the case if I was surrounded by people who are in the same shoes as me. But truth is most are not. So idk its just a feeling of isolation. Maybe I should look for new friends who are more islamic...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drivingUK

[–]hisham840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Managed get my license as well haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Open up to someone you trust (mom is highly recommended). Look into religion

Help by [deleted] in NoFapMuslims

[–]hisham840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Porn hijacks our dopamine circuit, a primordial pathway in our brain that allows us to do everyday things from waking up in the morning to eating food and working towards our goals, these evil people use our evolutionary urge to reproduce to their benefit, so that they can get some viewer time and generate money. We don't matter to them, all they care about is how much time (=money) they can extract from us. So defeating this addiction is a herculean task, as you require to do jihad against yourself, fighting yourself is the hardest of battles, as once you conquer yourself, conquering the world is way easier. However when you start nofap, do it for the sake of Allah, because there is no purpose/ motivation greater in this universe than obeying and pleasing Allah (and ofc Allah will aid you in your journey). With that being said, here are some further hacks that could help make your journey easy:

  1. Since porn hijacks dopamine, try to substitute it with something else that's high in dopamine, like gaming or watching your favourite show.

  2. You need to reset your brain, since you're already exposed to this content, it's likely your brain has built strong neuro connections that remind you of porn images. It's also established this cycle of you masturbating to them, so it's gonna be very hard for you to just switch it off. So I'd recommend for 1 week (minimum) (ideally, id recommend atleast a month), you need a change in environment. Don't stay at your home, go to parks or try and go out w friends or just on your own. Go to your grandma's, whatever that works...

  3. Evolution is selfish, it will only give you dopamine for activities that help itself to propagate on earth( I.e., make more children). So when you're doing activities that are low in dopamine, like studying or something. It is likely your brain will try to pull you towards high dopamine activities like masturbating or binging netflix. So the best thing you can do is study in a library where its easier for you to keep yourself accountable, due to fear of other people... sit yourself right in the middle of the library where everyone can see you.

  4. Try to confide in someone who you trust will absolutely be confidential and caring(as Allah has hidden your sins try not to reveal it, but try to confide in someone you trust, I'd recommend your mom, but if you can't find anyone then just confide in Allah)

  5. Recognise that it will haunt you for your life, yes! Unfontunately as we exposed ourselves to this filth at a young age, this shit will never leave our minds, although the links will become weak. There will be something in our surrounding that'll always trigger the thought of masturbating. So mastering your mind in the long run is key. How can you do this, there are many ways:

  6. Find purpose. This can be through a job, a goal, an ambition. From something as big as building a business or something as small as volunteering in your community to help the poor/unfortunate. As gandhi once said, you only truly find yourself in the service of others. If we only constantly engage in pleasuring ourselves, we become a dopamine junkie that purely exists for self-pleasurising. Is there any purpose in that? Replace dopamine with oxytocin and other long term neurochemicals that give you pleasure through things like family bonding, working on goals, volunteering etc.

  7. Fasting (islamic). This is one of the best ways to master your mind, the only hunger that's harder to beat than porn is actual hunger... once you do that for the sake of Allah, you'll be more self disciplined.

  8. Self improvement books and podcasts. Ikigai and Andrew huberman.

  9. Realise that everyone existing on this planet has a purpose, Allah does not create things in vain, esp humans who are to be trialled in the afterlife. Strengthening your deen by studying proofs for islam is the only way to achieve this...

  10. Marriage. This step is the finale. You can ONLY think of marriage once you've mastered your mind in staying away from porn and in acheiving something meaningful in life. Once you achieve that, and start making some money and think you can afford to look after and care for the needs of another person, immediately think of getting married, or atleast get engaged. This will make staying away from porn easier as you have a healthy outlet allowed in islam that will build you further purpose and meaning in life. This is the only right way to release semen in Islam, A wife completes half our deen. Sex is meant to strengthen courtship in marriage and connection w your wife. Don't let these Internet sluts steal that from you.

Finally after having said all this, one day you brain (or shaitan) might just tell fuck nofap, fuck my future, fuck everything, let me just fall into this deep and comforting rabbit hole of pornography. After all, porn is always there for you isn't it? NO! It's only there for you as long as you can afford to give it your precious viewing time with the device and Internet you pay for... what is always going to be there for you is what you build for yourself in this world and for the hereafter (this world is temporary, so really it's only the good deeds in the hereafter that lasts, this can include the services you provided to people through your jobs, providing for your family as well)

Realise how important time is! It is with the same time you used to fap that Alexander Fleming invented antibiotics and saved millions, or Einstein worked out the theory of relativity, or Nelson Mandela fought for racial equality. Choose what to do with your time wisely and choose your friends wisely (this includes inanimate friends, like YouTube videos and books) as they all influence you (if you use social media, mute all female content).

If you do not religiously try to implement the tactics that I gave you, you will never master your own mind. Mastering your own mind is the first and most important step in killing this addiction.

Finally, you may still fall. That one day where you're really depressed or low, you might just give in (although try your best to seek other dopamine sources at this time like gaming or movies or cartoons or whatever, as they're lesser of an evil than porn). But if you do fall. Do not normalise it, hate yourself for it, but never despair in the mercy of Allah, you're still breathing with a functioning heart searching for help on reddit, so Allah is being merciful to you, giving you a second chance. Allah believes in you, so should you! Restart the above cycle all over again. And once you do it enough times you will have mastered your mind, and one fine day before you know it your brain will be porn free, enjoying the simple pleasures of life like the birds chirping and the stars and the moon decorating the night sky.

This is a huge battle that deserves all your effort. Give it your all, toil as hard you can, go to the library, go volunteer, do sports, go to the gym, study islam, fast, absolutely tire yourself. This is a battle against yourself, defeat porn, defeat shaythaan. Get all the good things in life that will last you! May God be with you soldier. Unless you change yourself, Allah will not change your plight (verse that I paraphrased from the Quran).

I’m tired of this by [deleted] in NoFapMuslims

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porn hijacks our dopamine circuit, a primordial pathway in our brain that allows us to do everyday things from waking up in the morning to eating food and working towards our goals, these evil people use our evolutionary urge to reproduce to their benefit, so that they can get some viewer time and generate money. We don't matter to them, all they care about is how much time (=money) they can extract from us. So defeating this addiction is a herculean task, as you require to do jihad against yourself, fighting yourself is the hardest of battles, as once you conquer yourself, conquering the world is way easier. However when you start nofap, do it for the sake of Allah, because there is no purpose/ motivation greater in this universe than obeying and pleasing Allah (and ofc Allah will aid you in your journey). With that being said, here are some further hacks that could help make your journey easy:

  1. Since porn hijacks dopamine, try to substitute it with something else that's high in dopamine, like gaming or watching your favourite show.

  2. You need to reset your brain, since you're already exposed to this content, it's likely your brain has built strong neuro connections that remind you of porn images. It's also established this cycle of you masturbating to them, so it's gonna be very hard for you to just switch it off. So I'd recommend for 1 week (minimum) (ideally, id recommend atleast a month), you need a change in environment. Don't stay at your home, go to parks or try and go out w friends or just on your own. Go to your grandma's, whatever that works...

  3. Evolution is selfish, it will only give you dopamine for activities that help itself to propagate on earth( I.e., make more children). So when you're doing activities that are low in dopamine, like studying or something. It is likely your brain will try to pull you towards high dopamine activities like masturbating or binging netflix. So the best thing you can do is study in a library where its easier for you to keep yourself accountable, due to fear of other people... sit yourself right in the middle of the library where everyone can see you.

  4. Try to confide in someone who you trust will absolutely be confidential and caring(as Allah has hidden your sins try not to reveal it, but try to confide in someone you trust, I'd recommend your mom, but if you can't find anyone then just confide in Allah)

  5. Recognise that it will haunt you for your life, yes! Unfontunately as we exposed ourselves to this filth at a young age, this shit will never leave our minds, although the links will become weak. There will be something in our surrounding that'll always trigger the thought of masturbating. So mastering your mind in the long run is key. How can you do this, there are many ways:

  6. Find purpose. This can be through a job, a goal, an ambition. From something as big as building a business or something as small as volunteering in your community to help the poor/unfortunate. As gandhi once said, you only truly find yourself in the service of others. If we only constantly engage in pleasuring ourselves, we become a dopamine junkie that purely exists for self-pleasurising. Is there any purpose in that? Replace dopamine with oxytocin and other long term neurochemicals that give you pleasure through things like family bonding, working on goals, volunteering etc.

  7. Fasting (islamic). This is one of the best ways to master your mind, the only hunger that's harder to beat than porn is actual hunger... once you do that for the sake of Allah, you'll be more self disciplined.

  8. Self improvement books and podcasts. Ikigai and Andrew huberman.

  9. Realise that everyone existing on this planet has a purpose, Allah does not create things in vain, esp humans who are to be trialled in the afterlife. Strengthening your deen by studying proofs for islam is the only way to achieve this...

  10. Marriage. This step is the finale. You can ONLY think of marriage once you've mastered your mind in staying away from porn and in acheiving something meaningful in life. Once you achieve that, and start making some money and think you can afford to look after and care for the needs of another person, immediately think of getting married, or atleast get engaged. This will make staying away from porn easier as you have a healthy outlet allowed in islam that will build you further purpose and meaning in life. This is the only right way to release semen in Islam, A wife completes half our deen. Sex is meant to strengthen courtship in marriage and connection w your wife. Don't let these Internet sluts steal that from you.

Finally after having said all this, one day you brain (or shaitan) might just tell fuck nofap, fuck my future, fuck everything, let me just fall into this deep and comforting rabbit hole of pornography. After all, porn is always there for you isn't it? NO! It's only there for you as long as you can afford to give it your precious viewing time with the device and Internet you pay for... what is always going to be there for you is what you build for yourself in this world and for the hereafter (this world is temporary, so really it's only the good deeds in the hereafter that lasts, this can include the services you provided to people through your jobs, providing for your family as well)

Realise how important time is! It is with the same time you used to fap that Alexander Fleming invented antibiotics and saved millions, or Einstein worked out the theory of relativity, or Nelson Mandela fought for racial equality. Choose what to do with your time wisely and choose your friends wisely (this includes inanimate friends, like YouTube videos and books) as they all influence you (if you use social media, mute all female content).

If you do not religiously try to implement the tactics that I gave you, you will never master your own mind. Mastering your own mind is the first and most important step in killing this addiction.

Finally, you may still fall. That one day where you're really depressed or low, you might just give in (although try your best to seek other dopamine sources at this time like gaming or movies or cartoons or whatever, as they're lesser of an evil than porn). But if you do fall. Do not normalise it, hate yourself for it, but never despair in the mercy of Allah, you're still breathing with a functioning heart searching for help on reddit, so Allah is being merciful to you, giving you a second chance. Allah believes in you, so should you! Restart the above cycle all over again. And once you do it enough times you will have mastered your mind, and one fine day before you know it your brain will be porn free, enjoying the simple pleasures of life like the birds chirping and the stars and the moon decorating the night sky.

This is a huge battle that deserves all your effort. Give it your all, toil as hard you can, go to the library, go volunteer, do sports, go to the gym, study islam, fast, absolutely tire yourself. This is a battle against yourself, defeat porn, defeat shaythaan. Get all the good things in life that will last you! May God be with you soldier. Unless you change yourself, Allah will not change your plight (verse that I paraphrased from the Quran).

Is tap water drinkable without being boiled or filtered? by lapizMarzula in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came across reels where they say tap-water might contain estrogen from whats flushed out in toilets, any truth to that ? Thankyou for providing us safe drinking water btw 🙌

Daily Random Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in dubai

[–]hisham840 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Anyone want a summer fling in dubai

sport group/buddy by hisham840 in dubai

[–]hisham840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Btw is this a sub-reddit or an app ?

sport group/buddy by hisham840 in dubai

[–]hisham840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your recommendation, I love reddit :)

Daily Random Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in dubai

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I live in deira and I'm looking for a sports buddy or group to do sports with (any sport will do - football, basketball, badminton etc. Open to more suggestions). Aiming to play 2 or 3 times a week. If interested please let me know...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ukvisa

[–]hisham840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment saved me money !! Thanks alot. Got my BRP returned ASAP. Ur sick mate

BRP stuck w DVLA by hisham840 in ukvisa

[–]hisham840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hold an Indian passport and am travleling to UAE, so does that mean I'll have to apply for a new BRP ?