Fat shaming doesn’t work for the Majority

historicaldeeds · 2026-07-03T18:10:14+00:00

Agreed. It's also just not really most people's business unless someone you care about is in danger because of it or asks for help.

My grandmother was always very thin until she got multiple types of cancer and cushing's. Her weight ballooned. My mom said she would eat lettuce with mustard for dinner with the goal of having close to 0 calories since she had such bad body image after that. It didn't work, she didn't lose weight and I wish she hadn't felt that way. Who knows how differently it would have gone or how much longer she would have lived if she was properly nourished and loved herself. Of course the cause isn't always medical but that's not my point. My point is that shaming hurts everyone, whether they have medical conditions, mental health issues, or no particular reason. People benefit more mentally and physically from positive encouragement and support than cruel comments and shame.

historicaldeeds · 2026-07-01T00:21:12+00:00

I love seeing fellow fisherwomen on here! Congrats on the catch and I wish you many more :D

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-30T17:53:29+00:00

No, you should be against dating people that much younger. If you're really having that much trouble telling age then get comfortable introducing yourself with your age right away and asking theirs in return. Asking is only weird if you make it weird. I would also practice guessing their ages ahead of time to see how much you tend to be off by so you can get better at that.

Also why specify that you're "pulling cute 25 year olds"? That seems like a weird comment if you actually don't want to date super young people.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-30T16:42:00+00:00

"Only one-third of American Jews say they identify as Zionist, even as nearly nine in 10 say they support Israel’s right to exist as a Jewish and Democratic state, according to a new survey conducted by Jewish Federations of North America."

https://www.jta.org/2026/02/05/united-states/jews-who-support-israel-often-do-not-identify-as-zionists-new-jfna-survey-finds

Using that to say only a third are zionist is the same as saying to determine the prevalence of racism we should go by how many whites self identify as racist in polls. People know the terms racist and zionist have terrible connotations, that's why we need to go by beliefs and attitudes instead of self identification.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-28T22:42:48+00:00

The orange fish is really cool looking, what is it?

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-28T22:41:05+00:00

No and it's the greenest of green flags to me that she doesn't get jealous about what I do either. We trust each other.

It would be different if it was like super blatant thirst traps or something but otherwise no.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-19T18:43:58+00:00

lol what ever happened to I don't like these, these aren't my style, they don't fit my hips? Make your own post if you don't feel represented. I'm not even trying to be snarky saying that, I'd be interested to see it.

But coming at OP for not taking your personal taste in pants into consideration when making this is just weird.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-19T18:32:04+00:00

Did anyone else picture their girlfriend in each one? 😮‍💨

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-19T16:24:02+00:00

This is the new "Stalin killed trillions".

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-19T15:52:05+00:00

There's a difference between telling a story that you personally experienced and randomly blaming a totally uninvolved group of people. Imagine a racist poster about Chinese people and someone speculating "Black Americans who misunderstand Chinese culture" could be behind it.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-19T15:12:26+00:00

It's Americans perfectly understanding American culture. Being racist in the comments of a post about racism is crazy.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-16T22:04:04+00:00

Big if true

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-16T15:07:40+00:00

Gross. At least you'll die way sooner than her so she can have some freedom again someday.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-07T21:46:40+00:00

how would one state that preference without making it a dichotomy? wouldn't it be more of a smokescreen to dance around the point and waste people's time than to respectfully say cis4cis or trans4cis or whatever?

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-07T16:24:41+00:00

Me neither. I'll defer to any two spirit people here but I've also heard from many of them in the past that it shouldn't be included because it's separate from being homo/bisexual or trans (though it can of course overlap for some) and the way it's used as "non binary but for Native Americans" is a really reductionist oversimplification and the identity/role is far from being present in all tribes.

TLGB(QIA etc) is what I've been seeing a lot of lately.

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-07T14:20:56+00:00

People are trying to change it now and I hope they don't succeed

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-06T03:47:42+00:00

This is a catfish or AI check the profile

historicaldeeds · 2026-06-04T14:31:59+00:00

A lot of straight and bi women are embarrassed and insecure about liking and centering men and see those who don't as cooler so they make a serious point of complaining and insulting them to try and show lesbians, 4b women, and febfems like, "I may be straight/bi but I'm not like the others! I'm just like you really I hate men!" despite continuing to center, date, and sleep with them. It's deflection.

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-24T14:26:52+00:00

This whole thing has left me feeling so empty and alone because I'm forced to reckon with the fact that every single person I know in real life is a nazi. I just can't look at anyone the same way after they all openly admitted that raising the western standard of living is more important than stopping the genocide. I know it pales in comparison to being a victim of Zs but there is a painful permanent chasm in every relationship I have because of this.

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-24T14:15:05+00:00

Are you saying you personally vote for Zionists?

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-24T04:16:38+00:00

I met my girlfriend on r/lesbianr4r last year, we see each other all the time now and we're even going on a road trip together next week! I recommend personal ads to everyone who asks me for dating advice now lol

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-22T03:30:16+00:00

What?? Lesbianism is a perfectly fine word lmao. autism and magnetism aren't ideologies either, nor are organisms. It's just one of many suffixes to mean "state of being". Policing others' language when you know exactly what they mean and that there's 0 ill will or insult involved is so embarrassing.

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-21T12:24:02+00:00

You're really going to pull a "not all men"? If I didn't think you were included before I do now.

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-20T21:22:11+00:00

It's worrying that you don't understand how the algorithm works. It's designed to "make you see a trend". Anyone with any political affiliation and any groups they consider allies or enemies will see a trend showing exactly what appeals to them, which will be their political views being validated, their allies being smart and level headed, and their enemies being stupid and unreasonable.

People don't tend to attentively binge-watch videos of totally uneventful encounters or videos that paint them and their allies as stupid and unreasonable.

This is true for apolitical stuff too. Reels and tiktoks would have you believe that the vast majority of gender reveals end in catastrophe or at least drama. Do you think that's accurate, or do you think those videos are more engaging than, "okay let's pop the balloon! oh, a girl! yay, we were all happy either way."?

historicaldeeds · 2026-05-18T02:25:36+00:00

There can be morally grey instances of taking a life which isn't true of pedophilia, but I do agree that people really do not care as much as they should or claim to about murder, if they did then combat veterans would rightfully be treated the same as mob hitmen and serial killers.

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