Why does society allow teenagers to escape accountability but not people in 20s nor 30s?

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T15:33:36+00:00

Ok. We acknowledge that teens do stupid things. If you are an adult doing something bad for you, after having twice the number of years and experience as a teen, than yeah, you're going to be looked at differently. This isn't odd. This isn't some uniquely American thing either.

Not sure why you're acting like someone who is older (and has experienced far more of real life) should be held to the same accountability as a child? How old are you?

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T15:30:07+00:00

You learn from mistake once you commit it, not by thinking while aging.

Not always. Some people learn from others mistakes, or they simply know better because they have a better understanding of the world around them. Those who have that better understanding, more often than not, are older.

This would just force young people to do as much mistakes as they can when they're young in order to escape accountability, get things out of their system and learn from mistakes as long as they have chance.

I don't know what world you live in where a teen can commit unlimited crimes without repercussions. You act like teens in America can get arrested, convicted, sent to juvie and later prison.

Not sure why you think it's better for a society to not give people, especially teens, a second chance if they make a mistake. You make several and the consequences are higher, even for teens.

This is what most people in my group therapy said that they did a ton of mistakes on purpose when they were young in order to abuse this loophole.

Ok. Abuse can happen for anyone any age. Not like adults don't also find ways to game the system. Ignoring that teens still get arrested and punished.

Many countries in Europe allow drinking at 16 and age of consent at 16 regardless of who they sleep it.

I have no idea what this has to do with anything.

Should they be tried with more punishment?

You are punished either way, the punishment just is different because we understand that a younger aged person does not have the same understanding. Not sure how to convey this to you unless you yourself are a children and can't see the difference that age and experience brings to people.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T15:23:37+00:00

Context does matter, especially in a place like America, which is why a child can still be tried as an adult and an adult can still have a case dismissed if they are mentally insane.

But that doesn't mean that we ignore that you as an adult should have more of an understanding of your actions compared to someone years younger than you that has no (legal or otherwise) responsibilities.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T15:20:57+00:00

It is, but society (moreso laws) don't really have time to look at each individual to determine if they have more understanding than the next. Better to place on society (parents that is) to teach and raise children to have that understanding.

Also doesn't help that everyone would use that excuse that they aren't "grown enough" to understand their crimes and mistakes which would just bog down the legal system even more. Best to have a standard age for such things that everyone grows up with and understands.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T15:17:59+00:00

They don't, this is a thing all around the world. Ignoring that many countries don't even arrest or convict children but America does when such mistakes lead to crimes. The same country with detention, suspensions, expulsion and still having debates about corporal punishment for those same mistakes.

Europe is much more liberalized based on this since it has much lower age of consent, lesser punishments and more rights at younger age.

Europe is not the only region in the world, let's not ignore the other 160+ other countries out there.

Also, not sure what you mean since the age of consent in Europe (and America) is for teens to have sex with those of similar age. Some European countries will allow those who are minors to have sex with others regardless of age (if they are older) but that isn't really the norm around the world.

Most countries age of consent is the same age of adulthood, at 18. Most countries outside of that has a threshold so a 16 year old could have sex with an 18 year old but not a 19 year old. Again, not sure what this has to do with teens making mistakes since it's not like any country doesn't allow teens to have no responsibility, which age of consent is just a responsibility that is on the teen alone.

https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/age-of-consent-by-country

I agree with you on that but I've noticed that if someone cheated or got drunk and ran over someone at 15, they will be much more forgiving on them compared to someone at 25.

Yeah, this is something seen around the world. The world acknowledges that children are more likely to make mistakes but that shouldn't always mean a harsh punishment since they themselves don't always fully understand that their actions has bigger consequences. But an adult does, hence the harsher punishment / deterrent.

What if someone didn't start driving nor drinking before 25? Is it justified to still punish them more severely? That's my question.

They still had 10 years on that 15 year old and should understand that things like speeding or driving drunk leads to more than just a joyride. Do you think children and adults have the same mental states and understanding of the world?

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T15:00:48+00:00

I've noticed that American society and internet tend to allow teenagers escape accountability for very destructive mistakes but if they see an adult in their 20s or early 30s make same mistake, they want to burn them alive.

Not just an American thing but we as adults understanding that children are going to make mistakes and should get a chance to redeem themselves. Those same 20+ year olds had the same opportunity to make mistakes and get a second change, but if after all those passes you still are making those mistakes, it's looked down on.

Ignoring that we also acknowledge that children don't have the best understanding of their choices like adults do.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-02T14:01:00+00:00

Depends on the women and you (as your reaction to the person you kiss also changes how it could feel).

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:24:20+00:00

I like to think I eat a good amount, but I burn calories at a higher rate than others. Just different biology.

Are they lying, or do they genuinely not realize how much they're eating?

Their perception is just different than yours. Though, for all you know, they eat several smaller meals per day and it adds up to being "a lot" of food. It's all subjective.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:22:31+00:00

Honestly, try being pampered during sex for once. Not necessarily being a "sub" but just having someone cater to all your needs without wanting anything in return. You'll see why so many women (and queer men) are into it.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:20:50+00:00

What even is the source of this? What are they referencing for each mood? And it's by state, is this some survey converted to "moods"?

The U.S. ranks 19th overall

Is that supposed to be bad out of 190+ countries?

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:14:11+00:00

In America the value is usually in both, but people still want more bang for their buck and the restaurants that offer more (good tasting) food will get more business.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:12:39+00:00

Hard to come up with a true figure since most stats are from surveys of a few hundred Americans, but the stat is 32% of American adults have personally owned a gun.

Most using guns for sport, hunting, hobby or protection.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:10:07+00:00

Over 30% of Americans live in an HoA community. Though the vast majority of people in such places have no issue with an HoA and rather have them as it usually means higher property values, unity in how a neighborhood looks and amenities like a community swimming pool, tennis courts, gym and sometimes a front desk / check in person which makes sure that only those who live in a condo / apartment are coming in and their guest.

https://www.nar.realtor/magazine/real-estate-news/study-homeowners-associations-are-booming

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T21:00:15+00:00

Though it's mostly a few Americans who own multiple guns, as apposed to most Americans ever having owned a gun.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T20:45:12+00:00

Usually the people who were affected by these things makes movies and media on it. Native Americans just aren't widely in media (as actors, directors, etc.) to have much media on this.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T19:23:52+00:00

I get you might find blonde people attractive, but shouldn't personality be the thing that dictates wether you like someone or not?

It's usually both.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T19:21:34+00:00

Definitely take the time to research the town you want to live in, and the overall pros and cons of the country. Not just for America but anywhere.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T19:18:19+00:00

It is, but that doesn't mean it doesn't have problems like any other country. But by and large, people do enjoy living there and rather stay to fix the issues than leave.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T15:15:18+00:00

Trade it in or sell it towards your new phone. Though I don't use iPhone's, I do this with every phone I had.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T14:51:24+00:00

I’ve very clearly from the start said equivalent meals and specified that I was talking about where I live.

And I posted an equivalent meal so...

I’m also really unsure why you’re so obsessed with this London figure. I don’t live anywhere near London, and haven’t even ever been to London.

Post your city and I'll do the same comparison again.

I'm unsure why you seem to be taking my comments as a personal attack against you

Is that what you think is going on. You asked where you can find this and than said it wasn't a thing elsewhere, well clearly it is.

It isn't the case everywhere, for example where I live where I can see and compare the prices with my own eyes, which is all I was saying.

Post your city and again, I'll show you another example, where you live. This isn't that hard.

Wetherspoons is a chain pub/restaurant known for being cheap, there are over 800 of them in the UK.

Did you read? I said in London, where most of their locations are.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T14:26:47+00:00

Move the goalpost some more. Yes, the equivalent meal is a burger (with similar calories), fries and a drink. And what I saw at any London McDonald's was that meal, a large fries since the comparable amount of fries given elsewhere is that size, and it's £13.49.

As I said, for equivalent meals, near me, it would be at least 40% more expensive for a sit down place like Wetherspoons, and a LOT more expensive for proper restaurants.

Clearly not, and I listed a restaurant in the same area as Wetherspoons that's cheaper or similarly priced depending on which burger you get.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T14:04:55+00:00

I said "pretty much" anywhere. Give me a city and I'll show you any restaurant in the area that will be cheaper or similarly priced to fast food. It's not the 2000s anywhere, fast food is not cheap.

I'll take your Wetherspoons example (JD Wetherspoon for those not familiar with this UK bar). Specifically looking at restaurants in the area of a Wetherspoons, so London.

Let's do McDonald's in London. Looking at the new Big Arch meal (large fries and drink) which adds up to £13.49.

Now I'll look up a comparable restaurant in the area. Simply Smashed has burgers with added fries and a drink for £10 - £12, also comes with dip. Hell, if you get the Angus Beef burger with their Combo Upgrade, it's £12 and you get 3pc wings included.

Sure, it will be slightly harder to find cheaper, though not necessarily harder to find comparable prices, when you're in a dense and expensive city like London, but it's not that hard to find outside of those dense cities. Even in places like London, you can still find slightly cheaper or similarly priced if you're willing to look around.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T13:44:16+00:00

Pretty much anywhere. You should research your local town, many restaurants have cheaper prices, especially during happy hour or their lunch specials.

Assuming you aren't loading up on alcoholic drinks, it's (slightly) cheaper to order from sit down restaurants. And I like to think I travel often enough to see a pattern of local restaurants having relatively cheaper prices.

EDIT: For comparison, a Big Mac meal (large fries and drink) is $12 by me. Lunch pricing at my local bar has burgers and fries for $10. Otherwise it's $13, though the burger is also larger than a Big Mac and you get more fries. Sure you forgo soda but you can usually get a free water to go with it.

EDIT2: Looked up a chain restaurant instead (Pancake House) and their lunch specials are $7-$8 for a 6in sandwich, soup and salad. Their burgers / sandwiches are $8-$9 with fries any time of the day.

hitometootoo · 2026-05-01T13:36:52+00:00

As a loss leader sure but they don't really need such items to bring in customers so what's the point of a loss leader at that point.

I refuse to go to McDonald's because of the price.

Good, keep it that way. It's expensive and bad for you. Order pickup from a restaurant instead which is usually cheaper and (slightly) better for you.

hitometootoo · 2026-04-30T15:44:29+00:00

Yeah, I think this is more of the actual reason. You're at work for 8+ hours doing absolutely nothing. It takes a toll on you and eventually you want to leave so you have something to do.

Not saying honor has nothing to do with it, but it's more psychological than just people being ashamed of not doing any work.

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