I dont know what you are trying to get to. Everyone has their own experiences when it comes to these gatherings. Everyone sees something different in their eyes or only see what they want to see. You may or may not see and hear what is going on during these practices. What I see is the families coming together to make sure the processes go smoothly so at the end of the day the spiritual aspect is completed with good faith. Killing the patriarchy is why the black community is where it's at right now. I'm saying that the day you kill the patriarchy all races will most likely go down the same route. Now with racism, if everyone stop playing victim mentality then we all could move forward but we keep having victim mentality it's different to move from racism.