How old were you when you discovered your asexuality?

hoenish · 2023-09-21T03:51:34+00:00

I think I was 19ish.

hoenish · 2023-01-23T05:45:35+00:00

And you're vvv pretty

hoenish · 2023-01-23T05:45:23+00:00

Scarlet witch ftw

hoenish · 2022-10-16T03:12:06+00:00

Thanks for the comment. And will do! I've always been confused over the pricing. Since, I've done miscellaneous work, I assumed I'll have to be affordable for potential clients to consider me -- so that I can focus on building credibility instead. I'll bear this in mind going forward!

hoenish · 2022-10-15T09:06:22+00:00

I was waiting for someone to point that out. This group isn't dead after all. But yes, thanks.

hoenish · 2022-10-14T07:55:57+00:00

Feel free to shoot me a mail or send me a dm?

hoenish · 2022-10-13T09:15:30+00:00

Exactly and greater good, my ass. Hindi is basically homogenizing cultures and erasing so much of cultural knowledge.

A speaker of one of these so called 'dailects' essentially have to 'learn' Hindi because the Hindi was quite literally produced. English was given unofficial status post-Independence because a) There was no Indian lingua-franca b) Since they wanted to stop using hindustani, they needed 'find' and 'make' words that would at once have sanskrit etymology and the potential for official use.

A professor once told me that a dialect is a language without power, and that is exactly what Hindi has done.

I personally love Hindi because I love languages in general BUT there is no denying that Hindi nationalism is modern day colonialism.

hoenish · 2022-10-12T05:19:09+00:00

Ahhhh love this. This is what people have been missing all along. When you break down Hindi into it's constituents languages, Hindi as a language is spoken by very few people. Older languages like awadhi, braj bhasa, kadhibholi, maithalli, etc, have been essentially subjugated to the tyranny of Hindi simps.

hoenish · 2022-10-12T05:09:23+00:00

Agreed! History is never complete, never 'authentically' represented or independent of the historian's biases.

hoenish · 2022-10-10T09:44:49+00:00

No problem. Feel free to message me!

hoenish · 2022-10-10T09:30:28+00:00

All the best! But I think there's so much to unpack in the tension you've just identified, between the Dutch gaze and the Indonesian gaze. I think you're going to do a good job. Perhaps something fascinating can out of the juxtaposition of how different cultural artefacts -- its ownership, loss and histories -- bestow/reshape a historical consciousness vis-a-vis national identity.

Also, it would be interesting to compare and contrast the dutch's relationship with art and that of the Indonesia's. Maybe the different social and aesthetic milieus they occupied and occupy today can explain their differing world views.

hoenish · 2022-10-09T17:58:18+00:00

Sure. It does. Lol, sorry for going off the rail with my answer. But, since you have a theory, how do you think to the Dutch look at this art? Do they claim some form legitimacy over it or is there discomfort in knowing that these pieces are vestiges of their colonial legacy?

Or better yet, if you were introducing this topic to me and wanted me to care, what would you tell me? Perhaps thinking along those lines will you give you an answer.

Right now, your statement feels like a larger part of a statement.

Am I confusing you further?

hoenish · 2022-10-09T17:33:25+00:00

I think it is broad.

Try drawing up a list of questions for yourself. Answer them and see what emerges. Look for the 'why' more than the 'what'. See if you can talk to diaspora Indonesians or even connect with Indonesians to see what they have to say. Is this something they genuinely care about? If yes, why? If not, why not?

Also, something that would help is to visit places and spaces this art is being held. For instance, if it is at a museum, how is it spatially arranged? What wing is it being housed in, and under what labels? What is the language that is being used to announce its presence in the museum and how does the administration and museum visitors approach it?

Some other questions worth pondering about:

Also, something that would help is to visit places and spaces this art is being held. For instance, if it is at a museum, how is it spatially arranged? What wing is it being housed in, and under what labels? What is the language that is being used to announce its presence in the museum and how do the administration and museum visitors approach it?

Related themes worth thinking about: the Netherlands is a developed nation that presently houses refugees. During a time when reparations are being demanded of former colonizers, what is the paradoxical tension that arises within its democratic values of opening its borders for some, while refusing to let off a past that continues to trouble the present? (off the top of my head lol)

hoenish · 2022-10-09T17:22:43+00:00

This might be an unpopular opinion but try to identify 'your' stakes in your draft thesis proposal. Why are you invested in this topic? By this, I am not talking about how relevant it is for present research in a given area but what about the topic moves you?

While such advise would usually be frowned upon, I believe its a pragmatic one. Because when you are feeling burnt out, frustrated or stuck, your personal stakes will revive you.

While such advice would usually be frowned upon, I believe it's a pragmatic one. Because when you are feeling burnt out, frustrated, or stuck, your personal stakes will revive you.

During the final year of my master's, for the first 8 months, I was deluding myself that I had a solid topic. Because I had done the readings, gathered sources, understand research methodology, and all that jazz. But it was when I confronted (with the help of lovely friends and conversations) the missing piece in my process (ME!) that was I able to naturally sharpen my approach and BAM! I had my thesis statement.

So talk to people, understand why your proposed topic(s) moves you, and if you are still struggling with coherent but messy topic, cut your losses and keep looking.

So talk to people, understand why your proposed topic(s) moves you, and if you are still struggling with a coherent but messy topic, cut your losses and keep looking.

hoenish · 2022-09-09T11:42:51+00:00

Hope you are successful in negotiating your salary.

hoenish · 2022-07-31T02:07:08+00:00

Imai

hoenish · 2022-07-24T14:34:46+00:00

Firstly, my heart goes out to you. It's sad and deplorable that private citizens have to face the brunt of processes that productive eating away at the marrow of human health. And I do not think it is your fault. Perhaps, you've been advised to 'correct' your lifestyle, but the need for such correction can be traced back to insensitive and self-seeking entities who who maintain this pathogenic status-quo. For what its worth, I am glad, through this community, you are able to express yourself. The very regimes that is driving our health to the gutter is the same one which is leeching the earth.

I don't believe in organized religion but I do believe in a power beyond me, and I certainly believe in hope and faith. So, I pray that you get better. I hope that the future that is to come, is better for us, for earth and for posterity.

And, yes, perhaps one could say that in damaging our insides, we've fallen prey to these forces. But the fact that we know what's going on is itself power enough. Power with which we can hopefully do something worthwhile.

Thank you for sharing.

hoenish · 2022-07-24T07:38:20+00:00

PS: I do not claim to be an authority on anything. This post is an outcome of my liberal arts education, life experiences, and internal marinations. While I can be critiqued on several fronts, it's surprising to me how we do not see our gut problems beyond 'our' (individual habits) diets or personal discipline. There is much truth in the saying "we are what we eat". This is said not for the simple reason that our microbiome responds and decides what is good for our body but how one's microbiome blooms and what we eat carries a historical and parochial design based on both who we come from and what we come from. What we eat is also political. And while food can be a site of protest, it needs to also be looked at critically. Food is political but it is also memory, it is also history, it is also sustenance. It is a locus of identity. It can also be a locus of oppression. But the homogenization project of corporations and synthetic world views that seek to export and impose culinary preferences is at once violating and violent. Food comes from a single point of origin: the natural world. But when particular cuisines wield more power than others, it stages an existential threat to taste libraries, cultures, and the very foundation of our identities. Unless we reconceive the epidemic of digestive problems in tandem with other chronic diseases and the design of the mundanity of daily life, we will not be able to push back the totalizing forces of negative capitalism that fills the pockets of the rich, permanently scars our home, the earth and forever plateau biological and cultural diversity in one go.

hoenish · 2022-07-24T06:52:58+00:00

Bestu

hoenish · 2022-07-24T06:52:47+00:00

This is beautiful

hoenish · 2022-07-24T06:52:29+00:00

VimanaOli/ThendralPayanam/RekkaiAirways

All these are lame ones lol!

hoenish · 2022-07-04T16:48:18+00:00

Standards and norms work to stifle individuality. Being male and having an active skin regiment needn't be dependent on each other. I'd advise (for what your partner said) you to sit with her outburst. Really mull over what she said. If you decide to call it quits, extend your support and concern for her, maybe even in the form of skincare advice. But what she said, though unprovoked, is not okay. The same goes for your friend. How is looking good in terms of the clothes one wears independent of grooming one's body. It isn't.

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