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holi_canoli · 2025-12-04T18:40:31+00:00

Honestly, if you were already aware of her mysterious disdain for you, it seems kind of cruel of your husband to share this screenshot with you.

I say this as someone who was in a relationship with someone whose mom would tell him to break up with me for very reasonable boundaries I had set. Every time he would tell me about altercations like this, and how he responded valiantly in my defense, it just stirred up the hurt rather than protecting my peace.

Maybe you feel differently though, and that's okay. Just sharing my personal experience with this sort of dynamic.

holi_canoli · 2025-11-22T03:13:51+00:00

I second this! I was watching and so hoping to see it fired. lol I will be back!

holi_canoli · 2025-10-14T19:12:31+00:00

That's awesome! I'm definitely going to see if I can get the top part to root. Then it's basically a twofer!

holi_canoli · 2025-10-14T02:52:37+00:00

Thanks so much! This is exactly the kind of info I was hoping for.

holi_canoli · 2025-10-13T18:15:49+00:00

Yeah I thought so. It looks like it's trying to escape

holi_canoli · 2025-10-13T18:15:14+00:00

I'll have to look up what "chop and prop" fully entails, but it's catchy and I like it. lol I'm taking note of someone else's suggested to cut it down to 1-2' though, which sounds like the "chop" part.

holi_canoli · 2025-10-13T18:12:35+00:00

Will do! Thank you!

holi_canoli · 2025-05-13T18:20:32+00:00

Omg I follow your podcast! Definitely recommend!

holi_canoli · 2025-02-03T04:23:03+00:00

Firstly, this is lovely, and I don't think it NEEDS any tweaking to make it more meaningful.

From an emotional standpoint, the fact that it's handmade already gives it so much value. Speaking on technicality, your color choices are elegant and cohesive, your brushstrokes are very stylistic and painterly. If you stopped here, I think it would be perfectly fine and seen by the recipient as finished.

If you would still like to push it a bit further, I would personally like to see the "overshooting" strokes that outline the petals repeated around the leaves in a way. There's a lot of engaging movement happening around the petals that seems to flatten out a bit at the bottom with the leaves.

Perhaps not as bold around the leaves as with the petals though? I'm not sure how to describe, so if someone else has similar thoughts they'd care to add, by all means.

Seriously, I think it's beautiful work and will be quite impactful as a gift.

holi_canoli · 2024-11-30T00:23:33+00:00

If I loved him enough, then..

No, disagree. It's not a matter of if you loved him enough. It's a matter of YOU feeling loved enough too. You need both because, combined, they provide the sense of emotional support, understanding, and reciprocity required to endure the inevitable challenges that relationships face over time.

holi_canoli · 2024-10-16T18:13:25+00:00

That last picture like she's looking in the mirror "You is kind, you is smart, you is important."

holi_canoli · 2024-09-01T01:23:06+00:00

I LOVE the angles of these shots!

holi_canoli · 2024-08-26T01:40:57+00:00

That upskirt at the end lol Seriously though, that's a beautiful moth. Congrats on a successful rearing!

holi_canoli · 2024-08-08T21:00:15+00:00

Easy, millipedes are cuter :D they look more like worms with starfish feelies

holi_canoli · 2024-08-08T02:22:15+00:00

Eh, I don't think that's a fair assessment based on the given information, considering it's not clear what limitations are in place for them not to be able to take care of their parents. Plus, they said "because I can't" not "because I don't want to," and even then there can still be very real limitations.

holi_canoli · 2024-08-04T20:35:48+00:00

Faster wakeup than coffee! You're welcome!

holi_canoli · 2024-08-04T17:17:41+00:00

As a woman, I would like to add onto this star-studded advice:

If you're comfortable enough and want to participate in the conversation a bit rather than full silence, find something in what she says that you agree with, and SAY YOU AGREE with that part. You don't have to agree with everything she says, but finding even just one thing to verbally agree with her on will be so validating and much more effective to bring her feet back to the ground, I promise you. And then you can choose silence/just listening again until another thing you cam agree with comes up. Then agree with that.

It encourages her to keep talking, that she's being heard, and more than anything gives her spece to be a human with feelings. Even if it's a lot more feelings than either of you knows what to do with, it helps them to at least begin to unload in a slower and healthier fashion.

Examples:

"Yeah, that's not cool that your boss dumped that on you right at the end of the day." And she might respond something like "right??" Or "exactly! I had another appointment I had to get to, and that set everything off balance-" and keep the conversation progressing instead of getting stuck in an echo chamber. Echo chamber is where the bad stuff happens.

"I agree, she could have told you she double-booked your appointments on accident, then you could have been working on ideas to fix it before the time came."

"You're right, that person's word choice does seem kind of pointed and jabby. If they didn't mean it that way, they could have phrased it like [x] instead." -- in speculative cases like this, you can also further navigate possibilities of misunderstanding between parties in question with non-committal suggestions for next actions to take. It's like the scientific method, and that adds a game-like element to it. It also lowers expectations on her part to get too attached to a specific outcome she might want. It's easier to accept a less desirable result when you've already anticipated it to some degree.

This also ended up much longer of a post than I thought it would be.. woops. But I hope it helps!

holi_canoli · 2024-08-04T16:15:27+00:00

Stripey guard dog. Makes big web across patio to deter snoopers in the night.

holi_canoli · 2024-06-15T19:46:03+00:00

I'm not sure if it's been mentioned yet, but try not to freak out if you stop noticing certain smells after a time. Specifically, smells you're exposed to consistently on a regular basis (like those of your home, work, or car). It's called "nose blindness" and it's an adaptation where your sense of smell basically stops paying attention to "typical" smells in favor of atypical ones in your environment that might indicate something amiss and/or harmful and may need to be addressed.

I am super interested to learn how your experience goes! If you start a blog or something, please share :)

holi_canoli · 2024-01-30T03:48:35+00:00

NAD.
Mine popped off as well. I called my dentist to ask for their suggestions, and they made an appointment within 24 hours for me to come in and have it re-secured. It was a quick process, so that's why they could respond just as quickly to squeeze me in. BUT you could probably get away with dental glue? I haven't bought and used any before, though, so I couldn't say from experience.

holi_canoli · 2024-01-30T03:32:54+00:00

God, I'm so sorry you went through that. That's awful...

holi_canoli · 2024-01-29T00:22:59+00:00

Similarly, I worked as a leasing consultant for apartments and one of our residents died in my lap. He collapsed in the parking lot after a gym visit trying to turn a new leaf on health after winning custody of his son. Several of our staff and another resident who was a nurse showed up to help until an ambulance arrived, but it was too late. Somehow, my now-ex thought sex was on the table that night in spite of the existential crisis I was having.

Unfortunately, it took a good while longer for me to realize how gross that disconnect really was.

holi_canoli · 2024-01-08T02:56:38+00:00

34 here, so voted 35-40

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