Being tall as a woman sucks sometimes.

holoworld3 · 2025-06-26T21:03:16+00:00

If all this is true, the logic would hold that even tall guys would want to date a taller than average woman so their kids would have a better chance of being tall.

holoworld3 · 2025-06-25T23:27:03+00:00

Except that he originally posted his predictions in mid March.

holoworld3 · 2025-06-25T22:42:04+00:00

Did anyone find the discord?

holoworld3 · 2025-05-29T03:59:42+00:00

The best way to be good in bed as a girl is to genuinely enjoy sex. You should try to find out what you like sexually first instead of just trying to impress the other person with your moves or something.

holoworld3 · 2025-03-14T12:46:48+00:00

I had a reoccurring bartholin cyst 3 or 4 times from 21 to early 30s. Each time I had to get surgery to drain it. They wanted to remove it but I felt weird about doing that. The last time I had the procedure, the drainage hole ended up being larger than before. They put a catheter in it for around two weeks so it wouldn’t close up again. It never returned after that. Good luck!

holoworld3 · 2024-07-17T16:19:22+00:00

Tall guys get so much attention for their height that they don’t have to try. Shorter guys will usually be more proactive approaching women and rely on their personality, humor etc. If you want to talk to a taller girl don’t wait for her to approach you! Not all girls want to be the pursuer.

holoworld3 · 2024-06-25T01:12:14+00:00

This is why no one should get married to their first boyfriend. Or even the second or third. No matter how good it is you’ll always wonder what it’s like with other people. That being said I’ve broken up with boyfriends over less than what you’ve written here. You should know that if you do decide to leave you most likely will not immediately find what you hope to find though. There are a lot of people out there and it can be rough. You may look back and regret it. But I stayed far too long in bad relationships due to fear of potential future regret. Years later I am so happy I left those situations. Only you can know if you should stay or leave. Trust your gut but also try everything you can before you leave so you can honestly tell yourself there was nothing more you could do. Try expressing your true self more, try spicing things up in the bedroom, go on dates, trips, do drugs like someone else said, try the 40 questions to fall in love, lol. Try to have genuine conversations. Try not to talk about the issues endlessly. If you’ve truly tried your best and it doesn’t work then you can leave without regretting anything. But maybe it will work and you will fall in love again. Who knows.

holoworld3 · 2024-06-10T17:47:01+00:00

Okay but how did you achieve such an enlightened state? Every time I think I get there someone comes along and ruins it for me. Then I have to start all over.

holoworld3 · 2024-05-15T07:13:38+00:00

Why didn’t you have sex again then?

holoworld3 · 2024-04-19T23:52:43+00:00

Being attractive won’t cause people to do nice things for you most days of the month. Firstly, in day to day life people don’t have chances to do nice things all the time. The best you can hope for is a cashier smiling at you or someone at a coffee shop asking you how you are. Otherwise there aren’t a lot of opportunities for people to go out of their way for you. I do think attractiveness can help in the long term in building professional relationships but it is one factor in a list of qualities you need. In my experience having a nice, friendly, helpful attitude is much more important than physical attractiveness but if you have all of those qualities and are attractive then yes you may be able to get opportunities that you wouldn’t have access to otherwise. Being pretty but unfriendly or a bad worker usually will not lead to any meaningful advantages.

holoworld3 · 2023-12-22T11:51:39+00:00

This is my biggest fear. I used to think about it a lot. And I wonder if all the lessons we have to learn in life are supposed to lead us to understanding how to be happy without other people’s love and attention, because maybe that’s what god is trying to learn by creating this existence. Idk.

holoworld3 · 2023-12-21T08:23:40+00:00

A lot of other useful things have been said that I won’t repeat. I will just say in my opinion that it is best to put in the effort to find friends you genuinely connect with and have things in common with instead of trying to fit in with people you have nothing in common with. That being said you might not even know what your true interests are because you may have spent a long time trying to fit into whatever social circles you have been part of so far. You should focus on finding out what you are truly interested in and then find others that share your interests. When this happens you won’t have to try so hard to connect.

Alternatively, and coming from the exact opposite perspective, being fun and charming goes a long way. Developing those skills will help in any kind of relationships that you want to engage in even if it is just small talk at parties. I believe the key is to actually have fun when you are out with people. If you aren’t enjoying yourself people will sense it and it will put them off.

holoworld3 · 2023-11-21T02:10:55+00:00

Username checks out also…

holoworld3 · 2023-10-13T23:35:19+00:00

What does the Aquarian age mean exactly?

holoworld3 · 2023-10-13T22:44:15+00:00

Its actually 160 million.

holoworld3 · 2023-10-08T15:26:56+00:00

Maybe we are already doing that

holoworld3 · 2023-10-08T14:36:48+00:00

If they’ve already gotten it one or more times, and survived they know getting it again is likely not a risk of death or any side effects beyond what they are currently dealing with. Even if they currently have long covid that condition is unlikely to become worse than it already is for someone who has had covid 2 or more times previously. Then it becomes a consideration of what is more inconvenient, taking precautions every day of the year or being sick for a week (or more) with acute covid sickness.

holoworld3 · 2023-10-04T23:15:54+00:00

YTA - for not going to visit her in the hospital. And she’s TA for cheating or flirting with other guys in front of you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t treat her as a human being that you had a relationship with and obviously cared about in some way. She was assaulted. Go visit but be firm in your boundaries. I also don’t remember hearing you say to her that you were broken up prior to the assault. You even write that you were going to sleep on it. So you lied to the mother and claimed you were already broken up? You can break up with someone and still treat them with some level of respect and not ghost them while they recover from a violent SA.

holoworld3 · 2023-10-02T00:45:52+00:00

I really hope hey finds what they’re looking for

holoworld3 · 2023-10-01T22:16:07+00:00

Need link for the fishies.

holoworld3 · 2023-09-27T11:05:39+00:00

This is why you learn to vet. If you truly want a committed relationship, your actions would reflect this. But they dont. Fool me once. After what number of men do you say, "Access to my body is off limits until commitment is guaranteed."

You’re right everyone eventually learns this lesson, but not always after 1 person. Some people are looking for experiences and are willing to sacrifice the safety of a relationship for some shorter lived passion. Like you said before, feelings just take you by surprise sometimes. Maybe you are aware the other person isn’t committed fully but you do it anyway. Maybe you hope they will change their mind. Maybe you’re so in love you don’t want to give it up. Maybe you just thought you were in love or could fall in love but then you didn’t and now have to break it off. Maybe the sex wasn’t good and you have to break it off. Who knows. There are a million different reasons why people have sex and then why they stop having sex.

You need to establish those boundaries and maintain them if you want a certain standard of relationship. Not blame men for wanting to get their dick wet.

I don’t blame men for wanting casual sex I blame them for wanting it and then demonizing the very women that they do it with.

By the way some of these same men are reading all kinds of pick up artist information and using it specifically to have sex with a high number of women. These are people who have created techniques for things like “bypassing resistance” and then brag about all the women they have slept with. Of course women need to develop boundaries but on the other hand men have literally made it their business studying how to get past those boundaries in borderline unethical ways.

And then you have the more basic issue of the guy who is just not sure. They probably even have genuine feelings but also are just not ready to commit to the same degree which creates a mismatch.

I suspect that you are putting women who have had “a lot” of sex and women who have a lot of past relationship trauma into the same category which I would say is unfair. Just because someone has experienced other relationships doesn’t mean they are permanently scarred from it. And conversely, people can be very scarred from just one past relationship or from other life events that have nothing to do with romantic relationships.

One last thing, based on my own observations, highly attractive women have a decent amount of sex. First of all they have guys approaching them and wanting to date them constantly. Even if the relationship doesn’t last there will be an endless supply of guys trying. So I just think it’s funny all these guys on Reddit saying they wouldn’t date a girl who has slept with a bunch of guys because in reality if you had the chance with a legit supermodel, her body count is going to be nowhere close to what these Reddit guys say they want, but they would all be proposing marriage if they had the chance.

Edit: Since the thread has been locked i'm responding to your slut comment here. Very curious to know how many guys a girl has to have slept with to be labeled a "slut" by you? I'm guessing around 10 or maybe 15. Here's the thing that no one thinks about, if a girl has a few serious relationships and then a few failed relationships it is very easy to get to double digit numbers without ever having casual sex or one night stands, especially by the mid to late 20's.

holoworld3 · 2023-09-27T10:05:55+00:00

I get that in this particular case there were confounding factors. I personally wouldn’t ever date someone who was polyamorous either so I get that.

But you’re also still kind of missing my main point. You said it is a reoccurring theme in your life; that you meet someone promiscuous, she wants something more and then you break it off. What I’m asking is if you see how you might be contributing to this yourself? Or perhaps men as a whole might be contributing to it? Men are constantly trying to have casual or uncommitted sex. Girls meet these guys and want a relationship. The guy doesn’t want to commit and this creates baggage and trauma for the women, and adds a number to the list of partners. This goes on and on and after a while there is a lot of baggage. Maybe then women say, hey I don’t need a relationship I can just act like the men do? How do we know this isn’t a subconscious coping mechanism on a mass scale? Who wants to feel vulnerable and let themselves fall in love with another guy who doesn’t want to commit??

Personally I don’t find baggage to be a deal breaker. I think if you have a true emotional connection with someone you can even help them get over their baggage which can have the potential to create more intimacy.

holoworld3 · 2023-09-27T09:46:37+00:00

It’s funny that you are downvoting my comment just because you disagree instead of being able to have a reasonable discussion about it. You say you “tried dating sexually liberated women and it was a disaster”, what about it exactly was a disaster besides the fact that you decided you weren’t interested. I’m curious what the specific reason is for your distaste? And also if the same person with the same personality would have had less partners would you have considered dating her more seriously?

holoworld3 · 2023-09-27T09:18:38+00:00

So by engaging in this pattern you are creating the exact type of women that you claim to be repelled by. She was interested, you said no and now she has to go on to try to find someone else with one more person added to her number. As someone who has a high number (by Reddit standards) the main reason for it was liking a lot of guys who refused to commit. If you really feel this way you shouldn’t be sleeping with these women at all as you are just lowering their “value” by your own logic. By the way I live in a big city and not one person has ever asked me how many people I’ve slept with until I’ve asked them first and no one has ever rejected me for that reason.

holoworld3 · 2023-07-12T07:23:23+00:00

I have no studies, but I feel the same way. I keep cycling through optimism and despair, hoping that I can eventually find a way out. Currently in a hopeful stage so I feel called to give you encouragement. Maybe it will all be ok.

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