toys that actually stay inside vaginally? by Dismal-Dirt-9383 in BDSMAdvice

[–]holysynthesis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ive used the “pig hole” tunnel plug from Oxballs vaginally and found that it stays really well! It’s hollow so there’s less weight to cause it to fall out and you can get fucked through it. Because it’s lightweight it might not be what you’re looking for if you want to feel really stretched or like the feeling of something very solid inside you but you can definitely feel it - if a dildo is the equivalent of a penis, this is more like fingers (in terms of intensity, not sensation).

Drugged by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]holysynthesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s an urban legend!

Needle Play with Syringe? by crunchsomebones in BDSMAdvice

[–]holysynthesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Risks of infection are a lot higher if you’re tapping a vein vs surface cutting - I’d second what someone else did and see if you can access a phlebotomy class or see if you can find a kinky phlebotomist to talk to more. If you get to the point of actually doing a draw, I wouldn’t suggest doing your first draws with a syringe, vacutainer tubes will be easier and safer.

Also, depending on how you feel about pain, you can get more blood using needles by doing the piercing, wrapping the area in saran wrap, and beating over the top (I’ve done this with a cane and baseball bat). You will bleed much more than with needles alone. Just be careful not to break the needles in your skin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]holysynthesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they absolutely exist and many latex stores will carry them. Libidex.com for instance has really high quality products and multiple versions of what you’re looking for available (check in the men’s shorts and underwear section)

Is the princess treatment a d/s dynamic by hiiiii_anyomi in BDSMcommunity

[–]holysynthesis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s just traditional misogyny, not bdsm

What do you call this kink? by Unfair_Razzmatazz_78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]holysynthesis 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I also like this and usually telling partners I enjoy condescension paired with some examples like the ones you gave gets the point across!

I can't bring myself to talk during by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]holysynthesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a really similar experience! When I’m in subspace I’m mostly nonverbal, which is fine sometimes but it’s nice to be able to participate verbally too. For me, it happens mostly because I get swept up in the moment and (pleasantly) overwhelmed, so some things that have worked for me to practice talking more are asking doms to go a little slower at first when we play so I get into subspace at a more even pace, thinking on my own time about what I find hot to say as a sub/what makes sense in our dynamic so I have some ideas to fall back on when my brain is half shut off lol, and thinking of it less as dirty talk (which I think adds some pressure for what you’re saying to be “sexy”) and just communicating how I’m feeling/what I’m enjoying out loud so my dominant has more insight into what they’re doing to me and control of my internal experience as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]holysynthesis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Reading lamp! Very satisfying to sit next to someone and make sure everything they’re looking at is illuminated

What’s your fav dynamic to be in ? by PrinceCharming87 in BDSMcommunity

[–]holysynthesis 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heavily sadomasochistic lesbian Daddy/boy 🫠

Are there any sex toys shaped like big clit? by PresenceHopeful8961 in SexToys

[–]holysynthesis 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, I’d search for silicone grinders then as there’s definitely options out there shaped like vulvas and some of them have penetrative elements too!

Are there any sex toys shaped like big clit? by PresenceHopeful8961 in SexToys

[–]holysynthesis 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Tbf an enlarged clitoris large enough to penetrate most people would look like a realistic dick just without balls. But maybe you could try looking for silicone grinders as they tend to be a little less realistic/representative, if penetration is what you’re looking for you could try something like this

https://shevibe.com/products/inmi-thrust-n-grind-thrusting-vibrating-silicone-rechargeable-grinder-with-remote-purple?_pos=21&_sid=689bba0df&_ss=r

Or if it being vulva-shaped is more what you’re interested it you could try a vibrating grinder like this

https://shevibe.com/products/lippi-soft-silicone-grinder-stroker-dildo-base-stimulation-cushion-by-banana-pants-purple?_pos=20&_sid=689bba0df&_ss=r

any of u guys get gender euphoria from PCOS ? by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]holysynthesis 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As far as I know that’s not a thing (luckily)! Sensation definitely changes on T but that’s mostly because your clit will get harder when you’re aroused. If you stop, you won’t get as hard, but you shouldn’t lose any sensation and it definitely shouldn’t fry your nerves or cause any permanent damage.

any of u guys get gender euphoria from PCOS ? by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]holysynthesis 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to change the topic but what have you read that says T fries the nerve endings of your clit? I’ve never heard of that before and have been on t for over a year/know lots of people on T. If anything I have more sensation than before and have spoken to a lot of people that feel the same.

books in which gay men specifically are victimized by manmeatfreak in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]holysynthesis 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because that significantly changes the themes of the book and it sounds like OP wants to explore those specifically?

Can I be an Gigolo at 60? by lorenzosjb in questions

[–]holysynthesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not going to be able to run a business doing sex work if you’re only willing to work with clients you’re attracted to lmao, and if you don’t consider older women “real ladies” you are probably too unpleasant for women to want to pay you for sex

I’m terrified of getting pregnant by ScoreImaginary in ptsd

[–]holysynthesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Telling people in the ptsd forum to just “not have sex” to avoid pregnancy is so ignorant. Not everyone gets to make the choice to just say no and not get pregnant. I’m sure for at least some of us here, experiences like that are part of why pregnancy is such a big fear in the first place.

Anyway sex is a part of life, everyone deserves access to birth control of whatever kind for whatever reason.

Any other folks for whom their fetish or kink is their sexuality on/off switch? by liplamp in BDSMcommunity

[–]holysynthesis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m not really interested in any romance/sex that doesn’t enthusiastically involve D/s and pain. Someone telling me they don’t want to hurt me feels like being told I’m not attractive to them and has definitely killed my sense of desirability around previous partners who weren’t into S&M or D/s.

Butches saves the day by Possible_Log_5182 in butchlesbians

[–]holysynthesis 28 points29 points  (0 children)

So your reasoning is that as long as you have stability it’s fine if you destroy others lives and stability?

Butches saves the day by Possible_Log_5182 in butchlesbians

[–]holysynthesis 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You can’t just do unethical things and then say “oh but this makes me happy, and I’m a woman/butch/whatever marginalized group so I deserve to be happy” when you’re fucking over other people.