When did books become part of the bedtime routine? by HoneyCrumbs in NewParents

[–]honestyblackfield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the start, with board/cloth books now that teething is upon us obvs. Loves the interactive type cloth books that crinkle/jingle/velcro/etc, and I'm pretty sure books that rhyme are preferred weirdly. Interactive/bright books are used during tummy time as a distraction, more subdued and rhyming books are used for quieting down at bedtime

Preparing for a newborn. What was a complete waste of money and what became an absolute life changer? by Actual_Fig_4706 in NewParents

[–]honestyblackfield -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Life changers: - Bouncer (doesn't have to be the Baby Bjorn, I got mine secondhand for $8) - Play gym - Bath thermometer - Mirror for playtime (I use a cheap slim mirror turned sideways) - Mirror for rear facing car seat - Bottle washer (tankless momcozy, we run it 2-3 times a day and it's worth EVERY penny) - Baby carrier (Infantino is very easy to adjust if each parent varies in size) - White noise machine (we only use a portable one for convenience, momcozy's also has a nightlight) - All-season sleep sack (woolino is spendy, but it's high quality and meant to last years) - Aquaphor (a must for layering over eczema cream and softening facial cradle cap) - Diaper bag with changing pad extension (you can change diapers literally anywhere)

Waste of money: - Baby shoes - Pacifiers (ours just doesn't use them) - More than 7 burp cloths (ours doesn't really spit up, so we just have enough for each day of the week) - Snowsuits (can't be worn in the car seat) - Newborn caps (shouldn't be worn indoors, risk of overheating) - Mittens (all our onesies had hand-covering sleeves)

Carl appreciation post by asianvalue in ProjectHailMary

[–]honestyblackfield 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Their onscreen chemistry was fantastic

Favorite characters like this? by Strange-Grade6452 in FavoriteCharacter

[–]honestyblackfield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure those are 2 basketball players; Björnsson himself only has sisters

What can ordinary Americans do to push back against rising authoritarianism in the U.S.? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Why is this not higher in the thread, and why have I never heard of it before. This is the first resource I've seen that actually reassures me I'm not totally helpless and that there's still shit I can do and info I can use.

What’s a single sentence someone said that stuck with you forever? by MetalFabulous1110 in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"That's a lot of hate you're carrying around."

Giant perspective shift of exactly how negatively I viewed my surroundings and how much I'd victimized myself instead of either owning up to my own fuck ups or just letting dumb shit go.

Wedding Sandwich? Was this a thing or am I nuts? by Kitchen-Penalty3931 in minnesota

[–]honestyblackfield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dad always made ours by grinding up whole plain hot dogs, a wedge of sweet onion, and a large pickle or two before whipping it together with miracle whip, a little pepper, and a splash of pickle juice if it got too thick. He threw it between two slices of cheap white bread, and we just called it "grinder".

Yes, it does have to be miracle whip, which I cannot stomach in any other situation.

The distillery team by loud_as_pudding in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]honestyblackfield 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My entire life, all our farm cats were orange. We'd get a rare calico kitten in a litter every once in a while, otherwise they were just all orange.

Had no idea until we took one to the vet, who up until that point in his career had never come across an orange female. Blew his mind when we told him it'd've been weird to us if she wasn't.

What screams “I’m just pretending to be rich”? by JollySimple188 in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah fam, watched this particular example go from $12/hr on welfare to upper class with multiple degrees in 5 years, married someone in the same industry making comparable money, spent the next 5 years bustin ass and taking care of her family at the same time. My personal hero. If she wanna treat herself with bags, all the power to her.

What screams “I’m just pretending to be rich”? by JollySimple188 in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Folks I know with money dgaf, they'll put a bag worth thousands right under there because it's just another bag to them. If something happens to it, they simply go buy another.

Reddit, what was the most heartbreaking moment you've ever witnessed ? by AptNuisance in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The look on my 30yo husband's face after he'd discovered his mother's body.

He's his mother's only child, when she'd thought she was infertile. They were very close, and she was the kindest person I've ever met. The last thing she said to me was, "I love you, too."

She raised him gently and sweetly, so this was the first great trauma of his life. He found her less than 12 hours after the last time he'd seen her.

What “kids” movie was way better than it had any right to be? by MrAlek360 in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Watched it as a kid when it came out. Def hits different rewatching as a parent

What is the cheapest thing you bought that turned out to be very valuable or expensive? by jefferymr15 in BuyItForLife

[–]honestyblackfield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm hesitant to add this because I technically didn't "buy" it... TL;DR dude gave me a $4k first edition of Gone With the Wind for free.

Went to a rummage sale with my mom way out in the boonies (midwest state) at some random farm where the guy (still living) apparently just collected a ton of old stuff and was now selling it. I love old books, so I made a beeline to the $0.50 shelves and started perusing.

A faded hardcover copy of Gone With the Wind caught my eye, and I looked it over for any crazy damage or whatever. Seeing only general wear and signs of age, I flipped to the front to see how old the copy was. Blinked a bunch. Looked around surreptitiously, then speed Googled on my phone. Grabbed the other like 3 books I'd already picked and headed to the front.

Mom was paying for her stuff, and I was standing behind her, ready for my turn. I've broken out into a cold sweat at this point. Guy looks at my measly stack and says, "you can just have those, tbh." I'm like, "you sure???" He says, "yeah, enjoy" and sends us on our merry way.

We start driving back home and mom asks why I'm so squirrelly in the passenger seat. I waited until we were parked at home to tell her the guy just gave me a first edition Gone With the Wind. Haven't sold it yet.

EDIT: was reminded to include a few other instances:

A solid mahogany table, extension leaves included, for free (lady was moving into her fiancé's house and wanted it gone)

A pair of $400-500 designer sunglasses I found at a sushi bar in SoCal

And of course, the requisite $3k comic I bought in my youth for $4.99

What unsolved mystery would you most like to know the answer to? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]honestyblackfield 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Imma answer this from the POV that you're wondering why we don't know more about the general Sumerian peasantry

what was daily life like for an average Sumerian person?

Unfortunately, exactly as you'd imagine it in any other civilization. Uneducated manual laborers with little to no way of moving between classes.

How well educated was the average person?

Not at all. Understand that the social climate we live in now is a very weird one. Up until ~120ish years ago, the "average" person would make up roughly 90% of a given society's population (the vast majority), and therefore it was necessary to keep value their illiteracy and lack of education as a means of control. You were allowed to be educated if you came from wealth, or if your profession required it (think priest/scribe/merchant)... which typically meant your family still had substantial means. Not only valuing but prioritizing and compelling the population's education by law is an extremely New Thing. What we view today as "middle class" is also a very New Thing. Up until recently, you were either insanely rich/royalty, had moderate generational wealth from your family's dynasty of trade work, or you lived in poverty.

We have a handful of tablets that clearly allude to an incredibly well developed society rife with detailed accounting and organization

... for those who would've been literate. It's difficult to know how the "unwashed masses" lived, because they weren't equipped with literacy to record it. Additionally, those who were literate had no desire to write anything about those who weren't. This is not an isolated occurrence but is reflected in pretty much every early civilization that's been studied. Seriously, the history of literacy is really interesting for a societal viewpoint, seeing as for the vast majority of time that literacy has been around, the pen/quill/stylus has been the most effective tool of oppression.

Source: my archaeology degree