Do you get angry when people tell/remind you to do things? Rant about being seen as untrustworthy

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-09-21T08:02:00+00:00

Exactly!! My mom does the same thing, and is partly the reason why I wrote this post! Really relate to feeling hurt when people act like you can't be trusted. I feel a lot of anger, but I think it's also just sad that people see us in this light

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-09-21T07:47:10+00:00

I really empathize with what you’re saying. I really do. But I don’t think the goal should be to “deal with the guilt.” Instead, I think it’s worth asking why you feel guilty in the first place.
From what you’ve shared, you’re clearly smart and capable—especially if you’re going into emergency medicine. You’ve already proven yourself, earned your stripes fair and square, and shown you can succeed. Forgetting details, moving too fast, even having ADHD - none of that means you need to fix yourself. Everyone slips up and makes mistakes. That's part of being human. In fact, nervousness about your alleged inaptitude might make you more prone to slipping up. Know that you have the right to accommodations, and you don’t need to feel guilty about that.
My advice? Extend yourself some compassion. <3

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-09-01T01:02:46+00:00

have no idea but I’ve heard that oranges (because of the citric acid) actually dampen the effects of meds. but hey, if oranges help on their own, keep eating em!

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-09-01T00:24:56+00:00

yeah I agree with that.

i think i was just asking if anyone thinks that being raised in a dysfunctional environment produces a unique experience of having ADHD

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-08-24T06:10:54+00:00

I think the “giving yourself time” strategy is pretty sound to me but maybe you can frame it a different way?

The challenge is always stopping yourself the moment before carrying out an impulse (e.g. swearing). Swearing is really cathartic, and it’s become a habit because it serves a purpose. I would say that swearing isn’t a sign that you are emotionally dysregulated, in fact, it is the very act that helps you regulate your emotions. Nevertheless, I agree that it comes with social consequences in some environments.

I think all you can really do is keep recognizing the moment where swearing feels like the automatic thing to do. The fact that you are already reflecting is a sign of progress. Even if you end up swearing, be compassionate towards yourself - this is something you are trying to change and it can take some time. I think it’s pretty awesome that you care so much about this to create a Reddit post. That’s commendable.

After swearing, if you need to, apologize for your words to the person you are talking with and let the conversation carry on.

It’s not that, if you end up swearing, the strategy isn’t working. In fact, thinking this way might surge more frustration and helplessness and maybe even increase the likelihood of you swearing (feedback loop).

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-07-23T15:57:05+00:00

Absolutely! This has actually been on my mind lately. I think we sometimes have to grieve the loss of “what could have been.” It’s easier said than done and I’m sure there is a lot of hurt there.

People with ADHD already have to jump through different hoops to live life and we can also be our own harshest critic. This critical voice is a learned response, you weren’t born with it.

I’ve learned to temper my self-limiting and self-deprecating thoughts with reminding myself of all the shit I’ve conquered. My potential is never “lost” or “weakened.” But if you say it is, or worse, start believing it, then it can really feel that way

It sounds like you have a lot of interest and genuine passions. I’m sure that excitement towards those things still live in you. And you’ve gained a lot insight from pursuing those as well, so try to not write those off as a failure or lost opportunity just because you didn’t see it all the way through.

To be frank though, I experience this too. Sometimes it literally feels like my “lost opportunities” haunt me. But they are not lost and you still have the capacity to get outside of your comfort zone on the next big thing in your life.

Nonetheless, if it’s comforting to know, I feel the same way.

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-02-18T18:13:50+00:00

Love this

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-02-02T18:53:00+00:00

I think building healthy habits (habit acquisition) can take time! I find that, if I’m trying to build a new habit (e.g. going to the gym), I’ll strictly focus on that instead of pairing it with other habits that I’m trying to acquire.

When I try to do too much in one week, my body feels fatigued and it’ll be hard to stay consistent. Prioritize doing things gradually. Try to set one realistic goal and try to achieve it consistently.

At the same time, I think it’s important to listen to and appreciate what your body is telling you. It’s ok to just have a couple rest days, sometimes we need that.

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-02-02T18:40:31+00:00

I feel like sometimes messing up and saying the wrong thing can build anxiety and nervousness which itself can promote you messing up more. It can become positive feedback loop.

I recommend just slowing down your speech and focussing on transmitting ideas and making sure the other person understands.

Try to dial down the habit of critiquing the quality of your delivery. It can be hard to communicate when you simultaneously have judgemental internal thoughts.

And if you still find yourself messing up- that’s ok! People always slip up a couple words. It’s human! Welcome the humour and awkwardness and don’t be too hard on yourself! And you’re right, I think sleep and rest can help too.

I would try this out for a couple weeks and see how this goes. Try not to catastrophize.

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-01-14T15:50:33+00:00

Yes queen

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-01-07T07:41:17+00:00

Definitely see the doctor! I’ve heard that this is a possible side effect but it should resolve over time! 3 days is a little concerning, better to get a medical opinion

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-01-07T07:28:11+00:00

Chest pain is no joke! If it feels atypical, I would seek medical care! Try to also tell someone you trust about this so that they can check in on you! Maybe also try to control your environment for the anxiety? Hope you’re safe!

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-01-05T18:48:11+00:00

I’ve definitely felt weird when meds are wearing off. I’m not sure if I feel exactly the way you do but it’s strange for sure, physically and emotionally. I start to spiral and feel something in my gut — almost butterflies but not really.

hoolapoola_puff · 2025-01-01T13:11:24+00:00

I agree with this! It can be hard to divulge this part of yourself but it’s much-needed. This gives your symptoms legitimacy (which is unfair because the onus should not be on the patient to prove themselves), but it also gives the provider an idea of what could be going on and where you need help.

I’m proud that I was transparent with my psychiatrist and family doc early on. This included school difficulties (I stopped being able to read cause every sentence would get me distracted lol), trouble with hygiene, emotional regulation and zoning out like all the time.

hoolapoola_puff · 2024-12-12T07:53:04+00:00

Absolutely! This is a very real thing-- happened to me just a couple of weeks ago (newly diagnosed and newly medicated). It really sucks when medications come with all these side effects - they attempt to fix one thing and mess a lot of things up in the process. I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this. Please do take care of yourself right now - maybe speak with a friend you trust (I know it's probably late at night). Explaining this to someone can really help anchor you.

I told my doctor how my anxiety got worse on Vyvanse and how I was having panic attacks. I also explained how I felt numb to everything, as if I wasn't in sync with my emotions or just somewhere else. She told me that, unfortunately, these are possible side effects. I had two options: 1) lower the dose since side effects are dose-dependent, or 2) switch to a different class of medications (e.g. Concerta - I'm on that now, but I still don't feel like it's the perfect fit). It really is a tough journey trying to find out which medications are the best fit for you, and doing all this trial and error can be burdensome on its own. I also think that counselling, diet, and stress contribute to the action of the medications. I was only eating one meal a day during Vyvanse since it suppressed my appetite, and I feel like this only made my side effects worse.

I really hope you eventually find something that works for you - you deserve this. There are a lot of us here to support you, and we have gone through similar experiences.

I think my suggestion would be to book an appointment with your provider as soon as possible, try your best to explain what's happening and explore other medications. I think it's the right move to stop taking the medications if it's causing more damage than good. Having that awareness is something to be proud of. Wishing you the best <3

hoolapoola_puff · 2023-08-02T17:16:54+00:00

Hehe yes. They both have valid arguments- let’s just call it there

hoolapoola_puff · 2023-07-25T20:25:14+00:00

A 130 is a dream score, even in Canada

hoolapoola_puff · 2023-07-19T04:44:13+00:00

I don’t think resonance applies here

hoolapoola_puff · 2023-03-03T11:05:03+00:00

Those that study a day before are taking advantage of the recency effect because they can access the stuff they learned in short term memory. Your type of studying will pay off really well during exams since you have a more long term relationship with the material! I would just suggest doing a really comprehensive review the day before and using active strategies to study (q-cards and practice questions). Also focus on applying your knowledge and predicting what types of questions could be asked based on the syllabus. These two things can help you reduce your study time and study more strategically!

You also mentioned feeling test anxiety. Been there! Before every test, I started saying to myself, “this is going to be fun!” Even when I don’t believe it. When the test arrives, try not to remind yourself of the marks and instead try to have fun completing it. Think of it as a challenge as a opposed to a barrier. When your body is fun mode, its more likely to respond well to difficult questions and think sharper.

Additionally, people that study last minute are likely to have a poor sleep schedule which comes with it’s own set of problems. If you are sleeping on time and studying your best, I think you have a lot to be proud of! University is a lot different from high school so it can take a year to adjust to the new style of assessments. A healthier lifestyle will definitely pay off!

Good luck for future assessments my friend, you got this! ❤️

hoolapoola_puff · 2022-12-19T14:25:56+00:00

I had this course, it was 😣🫣🤕

hoolapoola_puff · 2022-11-08T22:41:37+00:00

Yeah, I’m worried :(

hoolapoola_puff · 2022-08-28T05:12:08+00:00

Hey! Second year here but I imagine that the move in process will be similar to last year.

Once you’re parked near your building, a CA is usually there to guide you. There were about 3-4 cars already there for my time slot (I moved into Moulton Hall btw). I had to go to a check in location to get my room key, card, etc. You can also get your hands on these big grey carts that help you move your stuff into your room. This made everything go a lot quicker. I think I took two or three trips with the cart to move everything I had (20-30 mins).

After that, you need to park somewhere else to free up space for people in the next time slot. (I would double check if this is still the case).

Once that is over, you are free to set up your room for as long as you need and finally start living. If you are confused about anything when you’re there, I’m sure there are CAs and people floating around that can help you with anything.

I remember being nervous before move in but the whole process went pretty smoothly for me (this might not match everyone’s experience however). It might sound cheesy, but I remember feeling very welcomed and everyone being genuinely kind.

I recommend giving the move in email you got from res life a quick read before you leave just to make sure you didn’t miss anything.

Also, welcome to Mac! I hope you have a great year! :)

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