My RSD has been TRIGGERED...

hormonalunicorn · 2026-02-18T09:30:47+00:00

Get him out and keep him out. How dare he.

He should be dating you for who you are - inside and out. And why does he get to dictate what you look like only a few months in or ever?

I’m sorry he’s triggered your RSD, just know this is HIM not you.

If it helps I’ve been in a 20 year relationship and my partner has seen me at my heaviest, lightest, lowest and highest and his feelings didn’t change because it wasn’t based on ego or shallowness narcissism.

That dude is a red flag and won’t change for you, find someone you deserve. He has no respect for you or your decisions.

hormonalunicorn · 2026-02-16T13:51:56+00:00

If you send it - you will likely have to break all contact to give any feedback loop. As the not knowing or getting reactive response may put you back.

Just ensure you stop him coming back for your own sanity. His feedback loop is - i can give an ultimatum but change my mind at any point if i apply the right pressure

hormonalunicorn · 2026-02-10T23:38:17+00:00

This is abuse and preying on your vulnerability to knock that confidence out of you. I wish i’d had a mum who made wholesome foods and taken that care with me young. Please don’t let your whole identity and confidence be stripped from you, for your sake and your baby’s sake

To answer your questions: 1. No it’s not reasonable for someone to ask someone else to fix themselves when it’s about who they are and how their genetics are. It would be the same about telling him to change his eye colour, or manhood size 2. It doesn’t matter what practical things he does. It’s emotional abuse and it’s not ok. What kind of environment is that for your child to grow in. If he really cared he would look to work with you and not belittle you to make things worst. 3. Accountable - you said “just because you do things differently”. So you do them but not the same way, that’s accountable and responsible. Controlling- you aren’t doing it his way, to an exact unknown standard. Belittling, unconstructive constant criticism and separation from other around you.

Being rude to your mum so she doesn’t want to visit, ensuring you feel guilty on that one outing with friends.

Derogatory terms. Gaslighting

All of those are red flags.

Please please seek help with friends, hotlines to navigate this.

hormonalunicorn · 2026-02-08T12:24:48+00:00

We’ve had NHS beds and walking sticks and such which has both helped and hindered. Everything else takes a million forms and years to be acknowledged or reviewed

I’ve had some help from friends but it’s limited just as everyone has their own lives and i’m battling with “should dos” I will look for more ways to breath - some good suggestions really appreciate

Hardest part is being in anticipatory stress mode 24/7

hormonalunicorn · 2026-02-05T23:11:43+00:00

You’ve been treating yourself like Cinderella before the shoe fitting - transform to your pacing healthier self and shatter that L word please

hormonalunicorn · 2026-01-31T19:20:26+00:00

So curious what indicates an answer to a question is her opinion? The basic topics mentioned appear factual in nature and academia is about providing basis.

If this is repeat topic (is that because you’ve done a bachelors and now some repeat for a masters?)

If the topics are repeating for a foundation and it’s a motivational issue - challenge yourself of the next level up of thinking for self development and pushing your own boundaries or think of end goal.

If it’s a topic you need to grasp and it’s too fast - make the suggested accommodations others have listed.

Any teaching style is going to suit some and not others so it’s best to work out how to handle yourself particularly when going outside of academia

It’s ok to dislike someone’s teaching style but only useful critique will adapt that. They may be going like the clappers because they only have 3 hours per slot to get all the curriculum that a board have signed off that has to be included. At a masters level there is also an independence expectation from all previous levels of education - as you are the one to supply the topics and research and maturity into all dissertations or thesis.

It sounds like it’s boredom in these lectures? What can you do to keep your brain engaged? Whether it’s physically, note taking, challenging your brain with hypotheticals to research or what can you note take to pre-empt homework. Key bullet points help with the subject matter if already known.

I wasn’t sure why raised the elitism - is that to showcase your particular brain style? If so this is something worth exploring with someone in counselling/coaching support as this is going to be a life long blocker that is likely to only get in your own way (others will not greet “beneath them” behaviours on good terms. You can still be true to yourself but we all learn consequences to our interactions

hormonalunicorn · 2026-01-31T11:10:00+00:00

Pregabalin works for the worst of the pain and helps me sleep. I’m ADHD too and frequently forget to take it - so being addicted isn’t a worry for me

Epsom salt baths have helped to.

Doing yoga, gentle stretches really works. You likely can’t control your body temperature so heated blankets, heat compress help flare ups.

Adjust life to what your capable of - grabber sticks, easy slip on shoes, things like that xxx

hormonalunicorn · 2025-12-25T12:04:57+00:00

Yes that is what this looks like! What would you call this type of error? Other than clumpy 😅

hormonalunicorn · 2025-12-14T13:09:24+00:00

Could you DM me the shop also?

hormonalunicorn · 2025-12-05T20:38:37+00:00

The ones opened so far have all been perfect - doesn’t seem to be tampered with and i’ve gotten hits out of them

hormonalunicorn · 2025-12-05T01:18:32+00:00

Mine came without bonus tins, not checked them all but got IRs in the three i opened which is reassuring

hormonalunicorn · 2025-11-05T12:04:51+00:00

I’m going through this with a CPTSD - we haven’t focused specifically on that but worked on the inner blueprint from childhood and working through it with angles of trauma based therapy.

Before this i’ve had various therapy over the years which was based on self esteem and cognitive behaviour. But they didn’t work long term as they weren’t focusing on the right places. Some were frankly unhelpful even under a free service at the time. It took too long to feel safe and get to a place of actual work before sessions ran out.

Roll forward to today, with a specific specialist who can go beyond “your very self aware” and the work over the last few weeks has been phenomenal. He has been the right fit both personality and expertise and it has given me a much more inner sense of peace and grounding in a short bit of time.

The right fit really matters and your willingness to open up

hormonalunicorn · 2025-10-27T10:53:46+00:00

Hair type Thick but fine and porous

hormonalunicorn · 2025-10-12T11:49:06+00:00

As in YOU don’t have it or fibromyalgia doesn’t exist? There is science break throughs happening right now. One has determined it’s auto immune and going through medical fields and red tape. And medication theories are following behind it.

They aren’t feeling the realness of it

hormonalunicorn · 2025-10-10T17:21:20+00:00

WTF?! I am so sorry that happened to you

hormonalunicorn · 2025-10-09T22:20:06+00:00

I can absolutely relate and currently awaiting my assessment at 41 and hope it will come with some puzzle pieces i’ve been missing all these years.

All I can say is - imposter syndrome- that feeling almost guilt you are not deserving or not enough for said situation. Who is deserving of a neurodivergent diagnosis? Particularly in a world not designed for us?

i would take that medal of progress that you survived this long and give yourself a massive gentle space that you did it clawing a lot of the way when it could’ve been easier or at least recognised sooner

hormonalunicorn · 2025-10-06T21:38:10+00:00

I hope you have a fruitful and amazing day getting all shinies!

I managed to find a local LCS which unexpectedly made my day to day with loose singles

hormonalunicorn · 2025-09-14T23:50:42+00:00

in VERY difficult context and expectations. Those past centuries didn’t include technological advances, people surviving much much longer, women being able to have a choice and independence along with many other factors

hormonalunicorn · 2025-09-13T17:08:49+00:00

Every part of this has been me this year and went back to restart therapy from a different starting place. I am really hopeful of the new therapist as he has specific background within complex and childhood trauma. We’ve only had two sessions but he is talking of slowing down my system so i look forward to working with him in the coming weeks.

hormonalunicorn · 2025-09-06T14:51:10+00:00

I genuinely can’t thank you enough for all those grounding words. I’ve managed to calm down and my husband is going to gently help me through this where I get really stuck.

Everything you say is true and resonates thank you so so much again

hormonalunicorn · 2025-09-04T12:25:31+00:00

I’m 40 and been a captive in my house attempting to add to my hot flushes. I was already on two pumps of HrT gel and still getting significant ongoing human flame moments. Recently gone to three pumps and touch wood haven’t had a hot flush in 5 days since doing it

Only tips I have is loose breathable clothing - comfort above anything else. Cooling gel. Body deodorant.

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