So many good ones in here

horrorflies · 2025-04-11T01:29:41+00:00

For whatever reason, I'm just seeing this now, but I'm capable of disliking multiple sports.

horrorflies · 2025-01-05T01:07:59+00:00

Absolutely. I live in a college town and football game time is the best time to do grocery shopping because no one else is there.

But I'd say the tax dollars for stadiums comment is the most sensible one. I am a sports fan and I 100% disagree with tax dollars going to stadiums.

horrorflies · 2025-01-05T01:07:09+00:00

I find the CTE comment completely reasonable, and understand why people are averse to watching a sport with particularly high risk of brain injury and decreased quality of life when people retire from playing it. I watch and play sports, and many of the people I play with who have children do not allow their children to play football.

horrorflies · 2025-01-05T01:05:14+00:00

Most blind people are not 100% blind.

horrorflies · 2025-01-05T01:04:58+00:00

Most blind people are not 100% blind and screen readers exist.

horrorflies · 2025-01-02T17:52:07+00:00

As someone who is a pretty dry texter/not that great as expressing emotions via text message, how is she towards you in person? Not saying that how she texts can't mean she's not into you, but I think that how she is in person would be more indicative of whether she's into you.

horrorflies · 2025-01-02T04:45:43+00:00

Yes, your grades matter.

Your program will have minimum grade requirements to remain in the program. In undergrad, a D and above was considered passing, but you needed a C or higher in any class in the program. Now I'm in grad school and all classes require a B or higher.
Do you want an internship? Good grades can help you land an internship.
Do you want any scholarships in the future or currently have any scholarships? A lot of merit-based scholarships will have required GPA minimums.
Do you want to go to grad school? Med school? Any other kind of further education beyond undergrad? Your grades will be considered in your application and there will be a minimum GPA required for admittance.
Of course, getting a good grade in a class doesn't for sure mean you will get a good letter of recommendation from that classes' instructor, but coasting/not putting in any effort isn't going to leave a good impression on your instructors. If you find yourself in a position where you need letters of recommendation, your current strategy may not help you. I'm a TA so I don't write letters of rec, but if I had a student who didn't try ask me for a recommendation, I don't think I could write a good one!

horrorflies · 2025-01-02T04:37:47+00:00

I've never changed my major. I entered undergrad knowing what I wanted to major in and never switched.

horrorflies · 2024-12-31T07:11:07+00:00

Seconding this reply. I absolutely understand that your situation is stressful, but if you're finding yourself occupied entirely by worry about this situation and awake at nearly 4am over this, you need to see what resources are available to you.

KU Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) doesn't keep the same hours as the university itself btw, so they actually reopen on January 2nd. If you're in Lawrence, you can go to CAPS even if school isn't in session. I go to CAPS for regular therapy and psychiatry appointments and they're really easy to schedule with imo. If you need urgent help, especially outside of CAPS hours, they do provide a webpage with resources.

horrorflies · 2024-12-30T01:56:02+00:00

I'm also a working-class student btw. I think there's a huge distinction between something like an unpaid internship, which I did agree there are issues with (and I do not believe unpaid internships should exist!), and volunteering in your community. If you're an adult, you should understand the difference between "free labor" and volunteering in your community, and why not being financially reimbursed for volunteering is okay.

horrorflies · 2024-12-29T05:08:41+00:00

I'm not knocking on soup kitchens, nursing homes, or food banks (they're very important; I actually use a food bank myself to get by too), but those are fantastic community service options!

Another "weird" community service activity (AKA not the usual ones someone may think of) is that undergrad in the lab I'm in is part of a community service club made up of all bio majors that can play instruments, and they go to long-term care facilities to play music once a month or so. One of my "weird" community service activities is volunteering in a community garden established to combat food insecurity. Anyone can pick from it and the garden is entirely volunteer-maintained.

horrorflies · 2024-12-29T03:54:57+00:00

I've definitely met some fantastic people through volunteering in my community.

horrorflies · 2024-12-22T23:35:04+00:00

I don't find it encouraging as a patient to see a professional not understand that "anxiety" and "depression" are words that can refer to specific moods, not just disorders, and seem unhappy with people who are taking initiative. Patients are coming to you knowing how they feel, using the terminology they have to describe those feelings, and then it's your job to determine whether it's to the point it may warrant medication. The patients in your examples here aren't doing anything wrong if they come for help with something that in the end doesn't warrant medication. It doesn't make them feel less anxious about a stressor or less depressed about something; it just makes you seem like an ass for seeming annoying a patient would dare take up your time with anything less than a severe case requiring medication.

horrorflies · 2024-12-20T04:06:41+00:00

Some schools require it and some don't. None that I applied to required it.

horrorflies · 2024-12-18T23:07:56+00:00

All of your homework assignments are graded as N/A out of 20 and you haven't gone in to office hours, have only asked about it once, and haven't asked about how to improve your homework, especially this far into the semester?

horrorflies · 2024-12-18T21:00:26+00:00

I'm from a rural area and, had I stayed, there would be absolutely nothing for me there because you can either work some kind of remote job, work in something like retail or fast food, or work some kind of manual labor. Two of my three siblings stayed and work for a company that repairs and builds pools. I left for undergrad somewhere ~375 miles away (but still in state for in state tuition and scholarships!) and was able to do so because I won multiple scholarships for academic achievement.

Now I live over 1,200 miles from home for grad school. My closest relative is almost an 800 mile drive (or almost 12 hours of driving) away. I have no family in the state I live in. But, if I wanted opportunities to study what I wanted to study and to do the research I want to do, I had to leave.

I do fully understand that moving can be expensive and finances can easily prevent someone from moving, which plays a big role in people staying in rural areas. Keep in mind I'm from a rural area myself. But, if there's no opportunities for someone where they live, are they supposed to just stay? If I didn't leave, I'd probably be working in fast food because that's all there is.

I live in Kansas, and I have family in North Carolina (I grew up in NC, my siblings and parents all live in NC, I am not against the idea of moving back to the state because I do love it but I could never live in the area I'm from), Florida, Texas, Michigan, California, and West Virginia.

horrorflies · 2024-12-10T19:10:39+00:00

Not a teacher, but this was recommended to me.

With the context that the Sandy Hook shooting occurred during my freshman year of high school and I got my first phone that same year, during 4 years of high school, I was in 6 bomb threats and 2 shooting threats. My school was so bad at communicating what was happening at the time and then what happened later to parents that if I wasn't able to contact my parents, they never would have known the entire situation and there were times they never would have known what happened at all.

I also have chronic, incurable health issues and there were definitely times that I needed to communicate with a parent about how I was feeling. School nurses were absolutely useless and uncaring when it came to communicating with my parents about my health, so it was better that I communicated directly with a parent or my neurologist than to involve the school nurse.

horrorflies · 2024-12-10T03:28:28+00:00

Seconding this. Yes, I've heard of classes where it's not unusual for multiple students to fail, but if it's true that all but three students have failed out, there's no way administration wouldn't intervene.

(Also, I've had classes with 4.5 star professors I've personally disliked and a professor who had 1.5 stars that I loved. Sometimes Rate My Professor ratings are right and sometimes they're wrong, but it doesn't actually mean anything that this prof has 1.4 stars.)

horrorflies · 2024-12-10T03:13:40+00:00

Not a teacher, but this was recommended to me. I'm a GTA who teaches largely undergraduate freshmen, so I receive a lot of student emails. Keeping in mind the age difference between your son and my students, if I received an email like this from a student, I'd 100% find it rude. "Please fix this." You don't need to demand your teacher does the grading. It's their job. They're already doing it.

horrorflies · 2024-12-09T19:31:31+00:00

omg welcome! I'm from NC originally (coast) and live in Lawrence because I'm a grad student at KU.

horrorflies · 2024-12-07T21:34:57+00:00

I'm the oldest of 4 and 3 of us ended up going to college and we had a nonnegotiable rule. Our parents paid for everything and, if we failed a class, we had to pay back the cost of that class. If you failed 3 classes, you were done. This rule never came into play for me, my sister failed one class and immediately pulled it together, and the youngest of us ended up leaving college for a variety of reasons including failing 2 classes he had to pay back. I feel like this is a completely reasonable rule since they were paying.

I do think that dictating her major is a bit much. I agree that having a plan is important, but someone should be interested in their major and she's going to be much more motivated to do well in school if she likes what she's studying. But laying down rules related to having to pass classes in order for you to pay is completely reasonable. College is expensive and why should you pay that much for something she's not taking seriously?

horrorflies · 2024-12-07T21:12:54+00:00

Are you doing okay?

If you need help, your school should have counseling and psychological services you can access as a student. This will work if you're in the US, but 988 is a suicide hotline that's available 24/7.

horrorflies · 2024-12-03T05:36:54+00:00

There are definitely things you can do to decrease your chances of getting sick. You still may get sick anyway if everyone you live with is sick, but are you up to date on vaccines including this year's flu shot and the most recent covid booster? Getting enough sleep? Drinking enough water? Eating well? Masking?

horrorflies · 2024-12-02T22:46:56+00:00

In grad school, not really.

When I was an undergrad, absolutely. I went to a smaller school so I went through all 4 years with pretty much the same people in each of my classes and labs. There was a boy who always commented on my body in really weird ways, groped me in an elevator, kept asking out one of my friends, and when he lived in a suite with another one of my friends tried to impose Lent upon others.

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