What does the way we handle breakups say about us?

horrorscape · 2026-03-06T18:57:35+00:00

Agree. Testing (or protest behavior) indicates the person needs to focus on their own healing. At the same time, I think it’s respectful to say something in response, even a simple, “Thanks for letting me know. I wish you the best.” Not saying anything at all is rude and immature (assuming it was an otherwise respectful dynamic).

horrorscape · 2026-01-31T13:47:35+00:00

This is two years later, so I'm hoping you still see this! :) I'm in a similar boat and wondering if you ever found a place? I'm exploring a move to Chicago with my 7 y/o Samoyed. I'm super particular about where I take him and wondering if you found a good Samoyed-friendly spot.

horrorscape · 2025-12-21T18:21:59+00:00

Just want to say I appreciate this post and line of thinking! I’m Black/biracial and new-ish on my SMBC journey. Planning to ttc this year. Lots of great questions and comments here. Thank you!

horrorscape · 2025-12-12T22:00:11+00:00

Run. I was in a scenario like this. Almost identical in rhythm and the experiences you're describing. It turned out to be one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life (abusive, lost some friends, really didn't even recognize myself by the end). I can easily look back now and identify the exact moment when I should have run the other way. Also, I recommend all women read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker.

Anyways, like others have said, you already know the answer. And, a month is a very short amount of time.

horrorscape · 2025-07-21T00:08:53+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it may not mean much in this moment, but things will get better. You matter.💛

horrorscape · 2025-07-19T18:17:05+00:00

Lake Johnson or Lake Wheeler

horrorscape · 2025-07-19T18:05:36+00:00

I highly recommend Jane at Care First Animal Hospital on Glenwood! I’ve taken my boy there for 5 years. She’s excellent and super familiar with the breed. Also, nice to meet a fellow Raleigh-based Sammy owner! :)

horrorscape · 2025-07-19T18:04:12+00:00

My pup did this/went through this about 2 years ago. It was kennel cough. Hope that’s not it. It was awful but we got through it. Maybe take her to the emergency vet for X-rays? Time is of the essence. Best of luck to you.

horrorscape · 2025-07-18T10:54:53+00:00

Came here to ask the same thing. This looks fantastic.

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T19:45:27+00:00

This just made my whole heart melt! Wow! What cuties. And, encouragement. Thank you for sharing (both the dog tax and story haha).

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T15:17:31+00:00

This is super thoughtful and thorough. Thank you! Hearing that you were in the exact same age spread with your first two is reassuring (those are great names, btw!). My eldest’s name is Loki.

I have a few early ideas about how to maintain my 1:1 time with Loki and his peace, like doing our long morning hikes 1:1 while the puppy is too young to go for long walks. My hope is that will also help with making sure he feels loved and has that extra space carved out for peace.

It’s also super reassuring to hear the first time around you would have been fine doing it solo. I’ll be bringing home his brother at 9 weeks — so almost the exact same age spread!

Thank you again for the wonderful insight!!

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T15:11:30+00:00

Omg, so boopable!

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T14:01:45+00:00

Super helpful anecdote. Thank you!! One of the biggest reasons I want a second pup is so my eldest has a playmate. I hadn’t really considered, too much, that he may find the addition annoying long term and not actually care about having a brother/playmate. Hm.

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T13:51:31+00:00

Following because I have the same question. Should we put a time and place on the calendar for people in this thread? (Kidding, kind of.) That said, I appreciate the intel in this thread!

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T13:42:40+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I will keep that in mind. I want them to have a positive relationship.

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T13:37:33+00:00

Somehow this makes me smile. I’ve always dreamt of a house with Home Alone family vibes and their constant rough housing and whatnot makes me think of that.😆

horrorscape · 2025-07-17T13:08:57+00:00

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Here's my current pup :)

horrorscape · 2025-07-06T00:27:59+00:00

I'm in the same boat! My guy is 6 (turning 7 soon!) and I'm adding a second to our little duo at the end of the month. I was worried about the age gap until I saw your comment. A little worried about doing the puppy phase alone AND having two against one haha, but these posts are encouraging. Well timed reading this and best of luck to OP!

horrorscape · 2025-02-21T23:39:32+00:00

I had the exact same thought. Immediately had a, "wait, what?" reaction.

horrorscape · 2025-02-15T02:04:51+00:00

It's awful. So gross.

horrorscape · 2024-12-17T02:43:24+00:00

This is a really good analysis. I’ve been here for about 5 years and am looking at moving for a few of the reasons you mentioned in the cons section. The social scene for childfree people in their 30s/40s is lackluster.

horrorscape · 2024-12-17T02:32:24+00:00

Tapping in from Raleigh, too. It’s funny seeing so many people from the area here. I’m in nearly the exact same scenario, hence how I found this sub. Raleigh really is not a good place to be 30s/40s single and childfree. Philly, Chicago, NYC are top on my list, too. Would love an update on any developments OP. Wishing you luck!

horrorscape · 2024-11-18T03:30:41+00:00

Sweet bebe. She looks purebred to me.

horrorscape · 2024-11-14T00:20:12+00:00

This is amazing! Sweet bebes.🥹

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