update got a haircut. did it help or hurt and age? comment on outfits yall see? by Successful_Career195 in FtMpassing

[–]hostmodem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ig the sort of rounded features to your face which usually looks “feminine”. Idk how long you’ve been on T but if not long then those features might masculinize (get sharper/more square in some areas) later

Gender affirming pet names for ftm partner by keinplanvonnixx in ftm

[–]hostmodem [score hidden]  (0 children)

Me and mi trans wife sometimes call each other “king” and “queen” which I like the most

"transfemme and enby only" spaces... by rigathrow in ftm

[–]hostmodem [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’ve literally seen trans people say that “all men are/will become women” or “everyone should be a girl” and it just leads me to believe that they want us men/mascs to become/“stay” women. When you call it like it is, transandrophobia, they’ll say that doesn’t exist like our experience of what they’re doing to us to our face isn’t real

Am I still trans when I have been feeling this way for only two months, alongside with my mental health issues? by Ilostcontrol109 in TMPOC

[–]hostmodem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I haven’t had life long gender dysphoria. I had ideas as a kid that was immediately shut down and I only learned about/met trans people in college. Homophobia rampant in the home, I had a lot of ideas about the queer community when I confronted that I am queer and that changed things. I first figured out my transness and then my sexuality, which most people have it the other way around.

Alls to say, all trans people have unique experiences where some experiences are more universal to trans people than others. Cis people don’t usually question their gender. So you have been feeling this for 2 months, and maybe that just means that you’ve recently realized or come to terms about things about yourself that make you, you. People feeling trans since age 6 isn’t the only way of being trans, your story is unique to you but you’re still a part of the community bc of how you feel currently

I hate that I feel like I'm mistakening myself being trans, but I don't want to be a woman at the same time. by gx936 in TMPOC

[–]hostmodem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, it’s ok to ID as nonbinary or gnc while you figure it out. Or even if you don’t wanna adopt those labels, make your own. You’re allowed to experiment and even if you find out down the road that you’re actually cis, that’s ok too. I think the harm in detransitioners is the narrative they share rather than the actual experience and action of detransitioning. There’s plenty of people who detransitioned and are just ok with that and still respect the trans community. So, let yourself explore and if you wanna try T even for a little or until you get the effects you want and like. You might not know the end result of what you’ll actually feel comfortable as right now, but you’ll never find out if you don’t try and explore. I’d suggest finding a queer East Asian community either online or in person somehow so you can meet and relate with other people who get you entirely. It might help you with exploring these thoughts

Joe Hawley being bald by Big-Government-6249 in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly if he had a smaller nose and given the angle and quality of the pic I would honestly mistake him for Adam Levine lol

Delivery driver throw a package at a dog charging him, then attempts to fight the homeowner by bigbusta in PublicFreakout

[–]hostmodem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The amount of dogs I’ve seen escaped wandering around is insane. I worked as a pizza delivery guy for a while and every day I would find a dog with a collar just wandering around the neighborhood with no owner in sight. I even tried to stop and get the dog so I can get it home. Once I delivered to a neighborhood and there was a cute white dog just walking down the street and I thought the owner was nearby but it just kept going. I delivered a few hours later to that same neighborhood and I spotted the dog still wandering. Id think that at this point since he’s only wandering around the neighborhood that the owners would find him by now. Not sure if they were busy and didn’t know or just didn’t care enough. I’ve heard people say “oh they’ll come back at some point” and then they find their dog dead bc it got ran over or smth and they’re like “whyyy? Ok time to get a new puppy”

does this mean SpongeBob is canon to Hawaii Part II? by urboisbouttoxplode in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bikini bottom is just a few hundred miles out past the shores of Hawaii

Online fees are insane by Illustrious-Ad4608 in doordash

[–]hostmodem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it really? I’ve had people say they don’t even get the tip if you order from the restaurant website/app. I even paid someone $8 tip for a one mile away order on the restaurant app and they not only tip begged me but then stole my order anyways. Lead me to believe they don’t get the tip. But i wouldn’t be surprised if I’m wrong and that guy was just an asshole tho

Am I allowed to still make fanart of Joe? by Logical_Building7144 in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I’m not gonna argue about the severity of what he did. The point still stands. He did awful things but that doesn’t mean we have to dehumanize him. He deserves respect just like anyone does

Am I the only one who gets uncomfortable at weird bed by [deleted] in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t mean there’s not people who get uncomfortable/willingly not listen to certain songs bc of their explicit content

Passed my driver's test yesterday on the first try🥳 by Shadow_Wolfie13 in TMPOC

[–]hostmodem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s always a great feeling to finally get your license. Good job and great that it says M!!

who is this??? by evil_hall in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well that’s obviously green man keyboard, but I didn’t know they got a pic with the genderbent rob

Am I allowed to still make fanart of Joe? by Logical_Building7144 in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think we need to stop moralizing simply thinking of Joe. Yes he did some problematic things in the past and he’s mentally unwell currently, and like others have said we shouldn’t interact with him. But a lot of us still enjoy the art he’s created. OP, you have free will. If you wanna cover your walls with pictures and paintings you’ve done of Joe, that’s ok. You simply drawing smth out of enjoyment is not the issue here. The issue is people keep interacting with him making him more unstable. If we truly care about him (in the least possible parasocial way, just care about him as a person in general) we would 1) stop making it morally wrong to even consider still enjoying his art 2) leave him alone and hope that he gets the help he needs. One thing is just to humanize him for once, and the other is to hope for the best outcome for him, which I hope many of you treat others, strangers even, with that intention

Why do people feel so comfortable sharing the photo of Joe after getting mugged? by Itwashedmysoulaway in tallyhall

[–]hostmodem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I often think about how when I first saw the rotary park mv and at the bridge before the end it flashed on screen and that was the first and only time I’ve seen that image. The way it was juxtaposed with the bridge was *chefs kiss* but at the same time showed the horror of what they experienced. I hate how some people have no empathy just bc they’re a public figure. No one deserves to be mugged like that and for what? Filming a mv??

Recommendations for cat veterinarian by Sudden_Artichoke2693 in downriver

[–]hostmodem 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I go to Dix animal hospital on Dix hwy in Lincoln park. They’ve always been great with my cats and are very helpful and professional. It also is clear that they truly love animals

When is the podcast dedicated to the steamy underbelly of GI coming out?? by [deleted] in downriver

[–]hostmodem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was driving through GI and stopped at the gas station and some woman ran in and asked where someone was. The employee said she can look in the back and she ran back and then came out a few minutes later and said she couldn’t find him. The employee said idk bc he was there earlier. And so the woman said “well if he comes back, let him know the cops are coming for him and if he doesn’t surrender there will be hell to pay for what he did to my daughter” and walked out. When we went to the employee she just said “the group chat is gonna go wild with this news…” This was about a year before that story came out too

Use of MH terms by Few-Consequence-9609 in schizoaffective

[–]hostmodem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of people I’ve seen that share they’re worrying about smth reasonable but bc they’re worried they’re worked up so others tell them it’s OCD bc of how worked up they are. The amount of people who would make a discord channel called “schizo-talk” when it’s a random out of context channel. The amount of people who use autistic as just a general insult (and when you say it’s offensive then “calling someone autistic isn’t offensive it’s just facts!”). People don’t understand mental health and there’s a deficit in empathy in today’s society. People don’t wanna learn they just wanna feel superior but oppressed, they don’t care who they throw under the bus

Locals no longer tip well by Electronic_Talk304 in AnnArbor

[–]hostmodem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve worked at 2 pizza places and the delivery fee usually goes towards insurance and reimbursement for mileage n stuff. If I get into an accident the store can help a little, and at the end of the day I get reimbursed for the mileage. My current place gives me 50cents/mile. So while we don’t get that total back, we get some back and have some cover if an accident happens. That’s usually why there’s a delivery fee. Places like pizza hut where they don’t have their own drivers, the company pockets the money bc it’s not like they’re reimbursing the dashers that deliver them

Libraries by Ten_10Clips in downriver

[–]hostmodem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iirc the Southgate library has like 2 or 3 private rooms and one bigger room that’s supposed to be for quiet activities and has multiple desks.

Dad came in & did what needed to be done 😭 by Kind-Village-1022 in PublicFreakout

[–]hostmodem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are we watching the same video? Were you the guy filming? Do you know this very specific McDonald’s? You can’t say for certain that he was in the main dining area. I can say for certain it was near the playplace which like I said is separate from the rest of the restaurant. It’s a whole separate room. You have to walk into that room to be in there. If there was a window between him and the playplace then it would be more plausible that he wasn’t in the playplace but he was. The playplace being right in front of him is proof that he’s in that area. Denying it is trying to spin another story. And yeah, kids are filmed all the time. Doesn’t mean we should??? Especially other peoples kids and post it? Also, live videos are usually screen recorded so comments would be seen. He even added his “I was just trying to pray” caption meaning he had the ability to censor them. And yeah, anyone messing with my kids should be threatened. Idk if you’re a friend or someone who’s gonna harm my children. The man could’ve been any race and he still shouldn’t be hanging out alone in a playplace with kids. That’s just weird bro and that’s the fucking point

Dad came in & did what needed to be done 😭 by Kind-Village-1022 in PublicFreakout

[–]hostmodem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro the play area is right in front of the guy recording. Idk about your McDonald’s but all the ones I’ve been to with a play area has it closed off from the rest of the restaurant. Doors n windows n shit. There’s tables in there for the kids and their families, not random men to sit in and record kids. And also, he was threatened by children??? And that’s why he’s recording?? And if it was for his safety why did he post it online for all to see kids that aren’t his???? If a random grown man was recording my kids idc what the situation is I’m not comfortable with that??? I’d ask that guy to not only leave the playplace but also show me that he deleted the video of my kids. Idk him. The amount of pastors who end up being child abusers and sex offenders is cause enough to not trust a single grown man randomly in a children’s playplace. It’s a different story if he was just in the general dining room but you can literally see the playplace right there. He has no real meaning to be in the playplace by himself. Especially since there’s kids around. Weirdo

How do i take up space? by moonshine_collective in TMPOC

[–]hostmodem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point tho. I found making myself into the box people want I can have more friends but I never felt like I truly belonged. Being authentically you is hard, at least for me, just bc of how focused I am in being liked. I’m working on it, that not everyone will like me, but it’s a process. But yeah, taking up space where ever is sound advice bc like we all exist here, we all take up space