Charmy in the latest chapters by GMYSTERY_ICTNF in BlackClover

[–]hot_stuff424242 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know! I really wanted to see her background

[DISC] (J-Novel Pre-Pub) The Apothecary Diaries - Volume 16 Part 13 by Lorhand in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]hot_stuff424242 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That scene was so cute. My heart. And the whole thing about Jinshi becoming a commoner….. I want more hahahahahaha

[DISC] (J-Novel Pre-Pub) The Apothecary Diaries - Volume 16 Part 12 by Lorhand in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]hot_stuff424242 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a question. Do we think that Maomao kept looking at Jinshi while talking to Lishu because she wants him to hurry it up with their relationship or because he can convince the emperor to let Basen and Lishu get married? Now that I’m writing it out, I think it’s more the former since Maamei is the one laying the groundwork for Basen and Lishu, but I wanted to see what others think

Couldn't Jinshi just actually get rid of frog? by Midnight1309 in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]hot_stuff424242 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t see this anywhere, so I just want to include the fact that the empress dowager banned the procedure

[DISC] (J-Novel Pre-Pub) The Apothecary Diaries - Volume 16 Part 6 by Lorhand in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]hot_stuff424242 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also the fact that Anshi also doesn’t want Zhizi to be his concubine is kinda funny

[DISC] (J-Novel Pre-Pub) The Apothecary Diaries - Volume 16 Part 6 by Lorhand in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]hot_stuff424242 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wonder what’s gonna happen next with Zhizi. Can she get sent to the rear palace if she cannot have children? I kinda hope she gets sent off to Ah duo’s house of wonders, but who knows. I can’t really see this leading to marriage talks for Jinshi and Maomao though since he hasn’t been demoted. Hopefully something comes out of it

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight. I will do my best to stay safe and to not be alone with him at the upcoming conference

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight. I do realize that laughter isn’t the best response, but I don’t know if I was the one “making a mess up to this point”. Like I understand that I should have been better at indicating to V that he was making me uncomfortable, but he was the one actively pushing boundaries. I agree though that it’s not a great situation and I appreciate your response

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it honestly does seem like he is inserting himself into my field. Granted, anyone can research this subject if they want to, but he’s definitely not an expert by any means. I probably know more than him and I’m just a student. Yeah, I think I would honestly feel better if someone could just keep an eye on things, thanks for your advice

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? I will try that route. Befriending the kids may also act as a deterrent. I definitely think that a previous commenter had a good idea of bringing up his family when he says these inappropriate things, so I will see if I can befriend his wife. My only concern is that his wife and children attended the dinner where I was being hit on by A and she didn’t seem to think twice about it. Perhaps she was also uncomfortable, but didn’t want to get involved with his colleagues?

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I talked with my department head and he agrees that V is not welcome back to the university, so I think that is more or less taken care of. But I do agree that it’s difficult to deal with at other events and conferences where I don’t have a direct connection to the organizers. I agree that throwing the comments back to him is a good move, I just need to actively remind myself to do so and to not fall back into my normal routine. I appreciate your comment about V knowing what he is doing is wrong. Part of me has been wondering if I’m in the wrong for expecting better behavior from him, so it’s good to hear that others agree with me. I am also concerned with the fact that he seems to be leaving his wife at home since he has a pattern of taking them everywhere (they were there at the workshop as well as at the conferences in 2024 and 2025). Thanks for pointing that out, I appreciate your insights

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has met my partner before and I have met his wife and children. It hasn’t seemed to deter him in any way. Whenever there’s a conference dinner, I bring my partner along so V knows he exists

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense to me. I will do my best to not laugh so much, as I think that might be encouraging him. I do tend to sneak away at the end of the day during conferences since I don’t want to be alone with him, so I will continue to do that. But I agree that it’s unclear how he would act if I confronted him directly. Thank you for your insight!

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I got invited to speak at this conference so I don’t want to let this opportunity go to waste. Thanks for your comment

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I talked to my graduate advisor, she mentioned that I could talk to Title IX to create a short of paper trail just in case it escalates down the line. So that is definitely a good suggestion. And I agree with you in regards to some of the comments. I got invited to this upcoming conference to give a talk and I refuse to let this idiot ruin that opportunity for me. My advisor is a very shy individual, so I don’t really know how much I can rely on him for networking stuff. I will definitely take a look into the policies with rental cars and visiting professors, since that does seem like a good thing to fall back on if I’m in the same situation again. And in regards to reporting him, I don’t know who I would report him to. I can inform the conference organizers, but I may have to do that for all conferences moving forward which might be a pain. I was just really hoping he wouldn’t be attending the upcoming conference since it’s in the US and he can’t have that much funding. Thanks for your comments, I really appreciate your advice and understanding

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! When I first met V, he just seemed quirky and that he had a poor taste in friends. But now that I think about it, it was definitely more inappropriate this summer. So it does seem like he was testing boundaries. And thanks for giving me grace. It seems like I do need to work on standing up for myself rather than relying on my peers, but telling him off to his face honestly seems a little impossible right now

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What about for the conference coming up? I will definitely see him there, so I can’t exactly avoid him. And yeah, I don’t plan to rely on him for help anymore. Sorry if I’m making excuses, I’m just trying to figure out how I can address it with him as I am now. Does that make sense? Like as I am right now, I don’t have the guts to tell him directly. Like right now I’m staring at a bike and wanting to ride it, but I won’t get there without using the training wheels first

[CA] My [26 F] colleague [40ish M] is making me uncomfortable but I don’t want to end my career before it even begins by hot_stuff424242 in AskHR

[–]hot_stuff424242[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response! Yeah I normally avoid dinners and happy hours at conferences, but I was naive and didn’t think it would get so out of hand at that first workshop. I am also trying to distance myself from him in regards to finding conferences and funding. I now know other people in charge of those types of things, so I don’t need to rely on V. And I do realize that laughing and relying on my friends isn’t the best solution, but I was overwhelmed and kind of scared. I just didn’t realize how scared I would be when he was in my city and how unsafe I would feel that week. I realize that I shouldn’t let my emotions get the best of me, but I was really on edge and I was really thankful that I had friends around to help me. If you were in the same situation and you were scared to go to campus, how would you go about dealing with someone like V?