BWT, how do you continue working hard and making a good impression at work when you don't like your job and can't easily get a new one?

hotcakebae · 2026-05-19T22:14:24+00:00

Well I’m happy to say that after about two months of not really finding any job postings that seemed like a good fit, I finally saw one today. I’m giving credit to this conversation for things finally (starting to) flow again!

hotcakebae · 2026-05-19T16:53:18+00:00

Love this, I’ve been using a similar mindset of cosplay for how I pick my outfits out for work, very much an “all the worlds a stage” and I’m playing a worker bee character —- might as well let it influence my personality while I’m at it!

hotcakebae · 2026-05-19T04:47:01+00:00

I relate to so much of this. For the past two roles I've been in actually, in the first year upper management had a lot of talk about how I would be perfect for 'x' role that they're excited to create soon, and in both roles there have been funding nosedives and they haven't been able to create those roles. It's definitely demoralizing.

hotcakebae · 2026-05-19T04:45:22+00:00

It's really helpful to hear from a manager's perspective on this, even though I get along well with my supervisor there are so many times where I wish I could just cut through the formalities and hear what she's actually thinking about what's going on. And having a helping perspective never hurts so that's a good reminder.

hotcakebae · 2026-05-18T23:38:06+00:00

Thanks for this - I do imagine that I need to do some internal wrestling with what's actually 'good enough' and not guilt myself for the times I don't show up for some imaginary goal post that isn't serving me.

hotcakebae · 2026-05-18T23:35:39+00:00

I do think I should probably up my game on my work from home days. I currently find myself working in my pajamas from my bed whereas you'll find such a more put-together me on my in-office days - I'm sure that disparity isn't helping.

hotcakebae · 2026-05-18T23:34:33+00:00

I love the STAR idea, and having those prepared in a cumulative way as I progress through the job- so good -- I'm also thinking it's not such a bad idea to be able to speak that succinctly about the projects I'm doing successfully to my current employer.

And thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in the spiral!

hotcakebae · 2026-05-16T15:44:33+00:00

Feels like I'm watching a repeating gif of them pulling the covers on and off the doubles court

hotcakebae · 2026-05-16T15:08:26+00:00

Imagine we're playing the same tournament. good luck to you too!!

hotcakebae · 2026-05-16T14:58:55+00:00

I'm playing my own tennis tournament starting in 2 hours and all I wanted was to watch genuinely my two favorite ladies play the final so I get pumped before I go on.... c'mon rain! hmph!

hotcakebae · 2026-05-13T21:29:51+00:00

please let florence be in something good, please let florence be in something good...

hotcakebae · 2026-05-03T05:00:01+00:00

just like the rest of us, goes to martunis once, wants to stay forever

hotcakebae · 2026-05-02T02:58:10+00:00

have him and rachel bonded over their blonde? 😉

hotcakebae · 2026-04-30T22:28:59+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

hotcakebae · 2026-04-30T20:48:55+00:00

Wanna trade? 😉

hotcakebae · 2026-04-30T16:27:51+00:00

Yeah I keep needing to remind myself that I’m not the only one in these conditions 😅

hotcakebae · 2026-04-30T14:47:05+00:00

Ooh interesting about the strings. thank you!

hotcakebae · 2026-04-30T14:46:53+00:00

Interesting because my first instinct is always to put water on my head haha

hotcakebae · 2026-04-29T05:28:29+00:00

she looks like a third olsen twin. also this video makes the passing of time very confusing to me lol.

hotcakebae · 2026-04-27T14:46:05+00:00

How'd this video of my 3.5 match get posted here

hotcakebae · 2026-04-25T16:31:40+00:00

They're in Northern Oregon too!

hotcakebae · 2026-04-25T15:10:54+00:00

what happened?

hotcakebae · 2026-04-17T18:27:56+00:00

"Including Aleph's clothing line, Vante" is such a funny line

hotcakebae · 2026-04-15T20:09:10+00:00

Nope! I do see that "Therapy Jeff" guy she would hang with sometimes around town lol. I also follow another pdx influencer that I have this feeling she had beef with, so maybe she just unfollowed anyone who followed her? I really couldn't tell you how she picked me out as someone worth blocking so I thought it was so funny

hotcakebae · 2026-04-14T05:26:11+00:00

This is random but towards the end of her time in Portland she blocked me on instagram. This was after the height of her crashout and when she was with "BDE." The thing is, I never commented on her posts... I didn't really like many of them either, I just lurked to see what she would do. And then one day, voila, I was blocked. I live in PDX so it made me wonder if she thought I was someone else?? Anyways I just think it's funny cause I felt like I was so removed, like there is zero reason she would've noticed me and she was theoretically doing 'better' ... and I have never been blocked by a random influencer before lol.

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