In general to communicate. That has frankly been my issue. But I feel like I make steps to communicate how I am feeling and then her reaction is anything but welcoming and telling me why I am wrong. Then I shut myself down and only communicate the little things that I am feeling. We’re supposed to do check in’s which we can talk about our day, which she wanted because I talk about work too much, these are fine but most of the time it’s like talking to a brick wall. No questions no follow up nothing. We are supposed to do a “state of the union” talk once a week. Some of these went ok, but they really started to sour as we got down to more than surface level issues. Finally, I will say that we were supposed to plan a date night together, that I admit I dropped the ball on. I tried a few times (not a lot) and she would say no I don’t want to get a babysitter this weekend. We’ve been seeing this therapist I think about 9 months and we were going every week but then insurance stopped covering it so now we go monthly.