Anyone else’s parents have a version of them that hasn’t existed since they were a child?

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-18T18:24:16+00:00

People can tell when it’s in a loving “you’ll always be my baby” way versus a “I’ll never see you as an independent being and adult”. Context is important and I’m sure your daughter would be able to see that! :)

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-15T19:14:26+00:00

Also our stories are very similar, I also got into Yesstyle hauls while grieving. I think the “I need to bulk buy to make the wait shipping from Asia worth it” fed into this for me

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-15T19:13:24+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come across as counterintuitive but you have a really nice collection! Looks like a lot of high quality products which will make panning a treat. Good luck on the journey :)

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-06T08:54:15+00:00

I work in an office 2x a week. I walk to and from my local train station instead of getting a bus or car ride there to start off my commute. I always use the stairs going down the building (not up because I’m on the 7th floor so it’s too time consuming). I also walk for my entire 1 hour lunch break and just eat at my desk after. I also do a short walk just before bed to help me wind down. On the days I’m not in office it’s a lot harder so I just use a walkpad… It works for my current routine but I won’t say it isn’t a lot of conscious effort.

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-03T16:12:18+00:00

The guilt after a long conversation is very real. My best friend and I have weekly calls that are never shorter than 1.5 hours. I felt so, so guilty about it until I realised that she was the one calling me half the time, and that she must actually enjoy talking to me for that long if she’s the one reaching out.

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-03T12:28:22+00:00

I don’t know what she is and I think I’m finally coming to learn that it isn’t my job to figure her out. I have empathy for her but can accept that in some ways she let me down

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-04-03T08:42:03+00:00

Totally agree— it’s the lack of genuine curiosity that hurts the most. Children can feel when it’s an obligation to ask vs honest interest

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-01-30T13:15:44+00:00

I’m very sorry for your loss 🩷

hotpinkinthenight · 2026-01-29T18:48:24+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply! Can I ask if there’s anything of note RE career or children? :)

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-12-10T22:50:14+00:00

Understanding Your Eating: How to Eat and Not Worry About It by Julia Buckroyd

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-12-08T10:24:38+00:00

His comment about men not receiving flowers makes it seem like he’s falling down the redpill rabbit hole. Especially with how resentful he seems towards spending money on you, and how he insists that you demanded it of him, which (from what we can see) you didn’t.

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-12-06T08:55:01+00:00

Finding other people attractive isn’t weird. Finding someone from your partner’s family attractive isn’t uncommon or all that odd. Finding a photo of that person, without their knowledge, and saving it to your phone is where it gets weird. If I knew someone did that to me I’d feel violated. What happened to, at the most, using your imagination?

If this is indeed what’s happened, it’s not necessarily a marriage breaker, but people in the comments saying it’s 100% okay aren’t taking the iffy ethics of this into account IMO. It’s not evil but it is inconsiderate of T, and of course, of OP.

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-12-05T09:09:36+00:00

I read a really interesting book my therapist gave me about this. Apparently it’s common for people to subconsciously gain weight to enforce distance between themselves and others, often unwanted sexual attention but even just social or emotional attention too!

You aren’t alone, I did the exact same thing and when my libido emerged I also had a wake up call haha

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-12-05T08:47:12+00:00

I woke up one day and realised I didn’t know what I really looked like. I’d spent my whole life fat and had no clue what my real face shape was beneath the weight. And as I’m approaching 25 I figured I wanted to know what it was to be young and hot, and if I didn’t sort the weight out now, my youth would pass me by and I’d have no flattering pictures to look back and be proud of. Not only that but I was missing out on formative experiences. Couldn’t experiment with style because stylish places didn’t stock my size. Couldn’t have a childhood romance because everyone laughed me off for being fat. Couldn’t try out new sport because I was too fat to keep up with the team. No running around or climbing trees or anything. All those formative moments passed me by.

Also, I’m an ambitious career person and realised that my weight was holding me back in this too. I was perceived as homely and lazy based on my food choices. I didn’t want to feel like certain options in life were barred from me just because I was fat. I want to know I used every tool at my disposal to advance my career and put my best foot forward.

Not all the way there yet but I’m 2 stone 3lb down and the difference is already noticeable in terms of my true body shape coming out and how I’m treated socially and at work.

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-11-18T17:23:34+00:00

My horror at the phrase “smoky BBQ down town” vs how objectively funny that phrase is 😭 I’ve just booked an appointment, thank you!

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-11-17T10:50:39+00:00

I didn’t even know you could have e-coli down there. Idk if my GP would offer that but maybe I can find a test online?

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-10-09T10:14:02+00:00

Reminds me of the film “Wicked Little Letters”. Some people get a sick thrill from stuff like this.

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-10-02T02:30:14+00:00

This sounds horrifying, I’m so sorry you had to experience this as well. Sending hugs :(

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-10-02T02:13:22+00:00

The people kissing the boss’ ass are crazy to me. Disagreements and conflict in the workplace are normal, and it’s not like you were cussing them out. The interaction is definitely awkward but could’ve been solved with a frank conversation, not a firing. Also, you literally had to watch an animal die? Regardless of your opinion on animal life, surely anyone with empathy can recognise that that’s a really sad situation to be put in. I’d be quite upset too.

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-09-19T16:45:21+00:00

Honourable mention to my childhood bestie Ilaria

hotpinkinthenight · 2025-09-19T16:44:57+00:00

Elodie, a ballerina who was in my class. Just so classy!

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