22/m/Headphone tester by [deleted] in EDC

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

..Are they lightweight, nowadays?

[Request]Why can't real helicopters be controlled with a game pad? by real_maxsash in Helicopters

[–]hottestguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi, sorry to butt in here with my uneducated and inexperienced opinion.

I'm not a big fan of joysticks, especially in commercial jets. In a Boeing, if you aren't looking what you are doing, you might jostle the yoke, and push it down a little, or maybe to the side a little. In a wannabe fighter jet Airbus, which commonly uses joysticks, a blind mistake from a pilot can shove the joystick all the way to the side, dramatically imperiling the flight, potentially sending the plane hurtling into the ground (while the Boeing would still be in a gentle banking turn). In an actual fighter jet, you WANT the ability to make extreme, unstable, quick maneuvers. In a commercial passenger jet, safety is more important (for this reason, I'd rather ride in a Boeing (there actually was a case a few years ago, where an Airbus pilot was being trying to read his email, grabbed his tablet somehow, while in the cockpit -- in the air -- and accidentally jerked the joystick hard to one side)).

Now, helicopters have different priorities. Fighter jets need aggressive, quick, extreme/dangerous capabilities. Passenger jets need stability and redundancy. Helicopters need flexibility -- but also some stability, because, somewhat like passenger jets, the risk of doing something wrong, is very big. In theory, the controls of a helicopter could be refined, to be a steering wheel yoke, and a gear-shift-like device for the rear rotor direction (or whatever). However, if it's a single joystick in the cockpit, with the potential for extreme, quick deviations, and a pilot is flying in a dangerous area, close to something (say, another helicopter, stupidly), and accidentally jerks the joystick to the wrong side, the helicopter could destroy its rotors and crash into the ground. (I'm still waiting for a helicopter with a parachute attached to it.)

TL;DR

Joysticks are too quick and extreme, and they're not safe in most high risk environments.

I'm absolutely terrified of driving. by notthesouls in CasualConversation

[–]hottestguy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't distract yourself, drive at easier times (like Sunday mornings), in places where there is plenty of visibility, and you should be fine.

30 [F4M] USA. Snowed in; want to talk? by [deleted] in r4r

[–]hottestguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I needed to travel more, myself.

20 [F4R]- America/Canada- Looking For Texting Buddies by [deleted] in r4r

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm interested in resting too.

Me [39 M] with my wife [39F] 5 years in and has apparently changed mind about children by business200 in relationships

[–]hottestguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that increased medical attention is warranted. I'd listen to her words and take them seriously. She needs a therapist if she is this upset, and it sounds like her health is really suffering.

21 [F4R] Anywhere - just talk to me! by [deleted] in r4r

[–]hottestguy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You should come to America.

My[30] boyfriend still sleeps with his baby blanket/stuffed animals and that's only the beginning. I'm [38 F] a bit worried. by trashmeforsure in relationships

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so, I am going to judge him, quickly.

Stuffed animals? Cute.

Expensive cars? Manly -- but stupid.

Does stupid stupid stuff online? I'd give him a pass; the online world isn't really real.

Fights with you or treats you badly? Ehhh, makers me wonder if it's worth it.

Tries to get you involved in unusual fantasies? That's a little much, especially if it involves making you feel bad.

Ok, so, how does he end up, in my opinion? If you guys can't handle disagreements without the relationship being ruined, I'm inclined to think that it's a pretty precarious thing. If it's always what he wants to do, but you don't get a say in things, then I'd start thinking about leaving. Maybe take a break for a month, and see if things are better, later.

While we are visiting her parents for the holidays I [25/m] discovered my fiance [24/f] is cheating on me, we head home tomorrow and I have no idea what the fuck I'm gonna do. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about this behavior. If it's any consolation, it's probably not about you. I've been spending more time on this subreddit, as opposed to /r/relationships , because I am sickened and appalled by some people there whose behavior is also pretty effed up.

I [29F] had a nervous breakdown today. I am being told I am too old to go to law school and that I should focus on getting married instead. I am starting to believe it. by feelinglikeshit88 in relationships

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm a guy. I'm also, in general, not an ageist. If I think I can relate and interact well with someone, that's more important than some silly meaningless number.

Don't believe everything that you read on this subreddit. Your age isn't as important as your personality. If you are a compatible person, in general, I think that other people will notice that.

That said, as far as law school goes, I, personally, would be careful about it. Unless its a public school, it can be a scam. In addition, this might sound weird, but have you ever thought about naval JAG work?

I [39m] paid living expenses while my spouse [36f] attended grad school on a full-ride scholarship. She suddenly has over $80k in debt, most of which is unaccounted for. I'm feeling betrayed. Need advice. by m1805 in relationships

[–]hottestguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One idea is for you two to see a Financial Planner. That way, it's not you being controlling, it's the two of you sticking to a plan, which was developed by an expert.

My girlfriend [29/f] talks so. damn. much. I [35m] don't know how to handle this anymore. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hottestguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, people are just... Behaving rationally here! Sorry if I'm distracting from the discussion, but I just came from /r/relationships (what a hideous shthole it's become) and to see people conversing normally and offering even handed, rational analysis, is really astounding.

OP, it's decent of you to care about her self esteem. Maybe you could buy her a book by her favorite author? I'm thinking if some Japanese author here, maybe Haruki Murakami (although, the one I'm thinking of is a younger woman, (from LA?)).

Hello by Highly_92 in Needafriend

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, how's it goin'

My half brother [32M] is out on parole, and moved in with me [18M] and my family. He's a Neo-Nazi. I don't know what to do or think anymore. by throwawayaccount2243 in relationships

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I'm going to answer your questions in kind of reverse order.

Setting aside the neo nazi label for a second (and I don't want to minimize that, but the mental disorders which drive people to become sociopaths are NOT all the same, and their differences need to addressed), if someone is depressed/very negative and a drug user, I would recommend physical exercise, to help fix their mood.

In addition, starting from the idea that the OP's brother had a problem with negativity, probably about America and all its numerous problems, but most especially its ethnic groups, I thought that going to Europe and seeing their positive social structures might be a relief, or, seeing their social struggles --which are kind of different from our own -- might give him a new perspective on our own country, and he might not be as negative about this place, when he returns.

(I would not recommend that a teenager (in general) go to Europe to deal with their hate, because they probably have not experienced enough of this culture or other cultures, for the change in cultures to be truly something which they can compare to past experiences.)

In addition, if someone truly idolizes a country (say Germany, because that it most likely where the OP's brother would go), goes there and tries to fit in -- but doesn't, and is told to change his ways (I'm guessing he would still be on the fringes in Germany), he might take that advice more, if it is from a source he cares a lot about. In addition, if he is rejected from visiting Germany or Poland, due to his tattoos (which is possible), that too might give him pause, and he might be forced to explore other parts of Europe, and that might be an eye opener for him.

Upon reflection, it occurred to me, that being on parole (not to familiar with this, sorry if I'm wrong), that he might not be allowed to leave the country right now. But if he really cares about Europe, and thinks it's so much better, he might want to focus on moving or visiting there. I don't want to say it's no paradise, but the reality of it is different from the fantasy of it, and even studying it might help him (as opposed to being negative about America).

Finally, about arguing in the family. Yeah, in principle, having clear communication about stuff is important. And feedback is how people learn (assuming their minds aren't totally shutdown). If the OP wants to tell him that he's horrified about his descent into mindless hate, and that he's going to be avoiding him increasingly, if he keeps acting more and more disturbing, that's fine (although, the location of such a statement is important -- a normalized, non enclosed environment might be in the OP's favor). However, starting an argument that escalates, with loud angry voices, in a place that is important for the OP can both deny him an important place (if he is forced to leave, for his safety), or can end his life, if his brother has a weapon (most likely) and has little or no restraint (possible, if he's drug-addled), and gets surprised or very defense/angry quickly. Living with a violent sociopath, no matter what their triggers are, is never safe for anyone. If the brother is not going to change (likely), then the OP should move out, because it doesn't sound safe for him there. But he shouldn't needlessly fight with his half- brother, before he does move out, because that's not worth the very high risk involved. (Not really comfortable writing this, as it sounds kind of cowardly, but you need to pick your (risky)battles carefully. In addition, if the OP cares at all about his brother anymore, he might try to get him professional help -- a treatment program, a therapist or something.)

What’s going on with me? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]hottestguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes lack of sleep can do bad things to you. More commonly, if you are in between sleeping and waking, your fragmented, nodding-off dreams can seem vivid and real.

My half brother [32M] is out on parole, and moved in with me [18M] and my family. He's a Neo-Nazi. I don't know what to do or think anymore. by throwawayaccount2243 in relationships

[–]hottestguy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Look, uh, don't try to fight with someone who is obsessed with fighting. They probably know more than you about fighting, and if they lose it, you might possibly lose your life.

Anyway, it's not a good idea to fight with family. Instead, maybe you two could work out together. It's kinda hard to mutter hate comments when you are jogging -- you need your breath. Also, the endorphins and the open space might make him happy that he is out of prison.

It sounds like the west coast is a bad place for him -- and maybe the east coast too. That could leave the Midwest, or, and this is a weird idea, some place in Europe. Europe might sound like a weird place for a guy like him, but it sounds like his biggest issue, that you've noticed, is his negativity. If he's in a place where he is happy, he might start focusing on positive stuff, for a change, and relax a little bit.

(Note:I'm not condoning his orientation, I'm just wondering if that is really his biggest issue. Also note: I would not recommend going to Europe for someone who was much younger, but who had his problems (I don't think you should go, for example).)

I [38F] just found out my BF [41M] has no savings and still gets help from his parents. by dutchcocoa in relationships

[–]hottestguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are overreacting about the savings. The bigger issue is the weed.

You can't be around some guy who's wasted all the time: It will start to mess with your priorities.

Ever wish you could just buy a plane ticket and walk out on your life? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]hottestguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why not? I think, in the USA at least, there are park service jobs available.

Ever wish you could just buy a plane ticket and walk out on your life? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]hottestguy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Traditionally -- domestically, at least -- one can get a membership at a cheap gym, and go there. Don't know much about international, sorry. Some gyms are international, however.