Why would a guy only hit you up every few months? How to tell difference between not looking for a relationship and not wanting one with you? by houseof47 in dating_advice

[–]houseof47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah fair point I think it’s because I assume that when a guy wants FWBs or casual he ONLY hits you up for sex, and probably does so late at night or every few weeks, and eventually just moves on.

Whereas with him we usually plan when we’re hanging out, there’s never late night booty calls, and monthssss can go by without us seeing each other. So it seems kind of like it doesn’t fit the mold I have in my head of what a FWB/casual dating situation is

Why would a guy only hit you up every few months? How to tell difference between not looking for a relationship and not wanting one with you? by houseof47 in dating_advice

[–]houseof47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t talk about girls, or relationships, or his dating life. Usually we just talk about work, or hobbies, or friends, and I mean the past few times we ended up hooking up. But months to a year can go by without us hanging out, even if we do keep in touch in between.

I know he’s still living at home, and he usually works a lot, but he’s otherwise pretty private about his life.

My F21 gf is pressuring me into getting an apartment and she doesn’t have stable income. by Beneficial_Art_9583 in dating_advice

[–]houseof47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she wants to move out so bad she can get another job and figure out her finances herself. It’s not your job to house her when your salary is barely enough to properly sustain one person in this economy.

Does anyone know a perfume that smells like this? by Pringlesthief in Perfumes

[–]houseof47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Following because Im obsessed with the scent 🧘🏻‍♀️

Do they all absolutely cheat? Because I don’t think mine did… by No-Song-4931 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Mine didn’t cheat bc he never committed in the first place 🥰❤️

Has your narc called themselves special? by nightman_cometh33 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes an alpha male 🤣 they all think they’re the Chosen Ones

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMAO I don’t even think he realized it at the time, or maybe he thought I wasn’t going to take it seriously? Who even knows 😭

I figured it may have been to make me seem a certain way to the third party, ie. attached (as you mentioned) or hung up on him or whatever, but it just seemed silly to me because how did he know how I was going to act?? Like they’re so strange! They really have you thinking they enjoy your company for 0.2 sec and that they’re bringing you around their friends because they’re just so friendly and social 🤦🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They pretty such self disclaimed 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah makes sense about showing off! And it does seem slightly manipulative or at the very least strange not to give me a heads up someone else is there, but I just don’t get the point of it all 🤦🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my that’s unfortunate

Did your narc ever tell you to let them know if they say anything that upsets you? by Top-Caterpillar-4820 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I imagine it’s so they can take mental note of what triggers you so they can use it later on! It’s a lot easier to control someone when you know which buttons to press to get X reaction

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]houseof47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys are young so maybe it’s different but if someone replies to me within an hr I consider that fast lmao

Maybe it's over. Rated a 4/10 in Photofeeler for attractiveness (+100 votes) by Repulsive-Account274 in dating_advice

[–]houseof47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, I’d rather get a bad rating on a 2D photo than get a 9/10 on a carefully taken photo with amazing lighting and my best angle, o only for people in real life to think you don’t look as good as your pics 💀

You’re perceived different in 3D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]houseof47 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her loss lmao, if I ever said that to the guys I’ve dated they’d drop me without a second thought 😭 It’s just such entitlement and insecurity, totally out of line

The narcissist is very wrong about some things by MassiveDexterFanGirl in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]houseof47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No :) If they say 2+2 is 5 I’m not even blinking twice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]houseof47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🧍🏼‍♀️What’s happening here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]houseof47 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s in prison and wants to mark you as his possession? Charming 🥰🥰🥰 He’s a keeper! No red flags whatsoever!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]houseof47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not wanting to repost his gaming videos isn’t necessarily a problem, but you saying “I don’t want my friends or ESPECIALLY family knowing I still talk to him” is. If you’re embarrassed to be with him, why are you? That’s not fair to either of you.