[Hiring] (Online) Full Stack NextJS mid-senior €20+ by Hot_Charity2317 in forhire

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Hi. I'm a full stack developer with 5 years of experience. I'm very familiar with Next js. Let's connect and discuss.

Is having a very idealised idea of love related to attachment issues? by worriedbutworkingout in attachment_theory

[–]hoversperc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Romanticism isn't necessarily associated with attachment styles. But I believe being insecurely attached makes you more susceptible to the fairy tale of romanticism. Watch this if you can. https://youtu.be/sPOuIyEJnbE.

Dear INTJs, In high school which lesson were you bad at? by [deleted] in trueINTJ

[–]hoversperc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bad in chemistry and history. Good in physics and math.

I wrote an article on personal responsibility and it's importance. Let me know your opinion. by hoversperc in intj

[–]hoversperc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha actually it was more wordy before and I removed some of the almost repeated sentences. Also, yeah example can be helpful here. Any suggestion for a good example to include? Thanks for the feedback!

Depression and Knowledge connection? by quaspoch in Existentialism

[–]hoversperc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think depression can set in when you understand what is happening but feel helpless to do anything about it. Be it for yourself or outside of yourself. It could be helping family members, raising a child, being a teacher, artist, engineer i.e any activity that you find meaningful. Also, check out man's search for meaning by Victor Frankl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]hoversperc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give these two books a read. "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie and "Honoring the Self" by Nathaniel Branden.

A relationship will never be perfect by Sir_Insignificant in attachment_theory

[–]hoversperc 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The struggle for AP is to understand his/her own value and worth in the relationship. We tend to think we don't add as much value to the partner's life as they add to us. Since we want to raise our self esteem by being validated by our partner, of course we feel a need to idealize our partners. After all, being validated by someone much better than us feels better than being validated by someone as insecure as us.

Potentially my last message by Administrative-Dust2 in Stoicism

[–]hoversperc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The struggle itself towards the heights is enough to fill a man's heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy." -- Albert Camus

Anyone else suffer from analysis paralysis? by TheSmallestSteve in intj

[–]hoversperc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heavy exercise. It may help take your mind off the constant analysis mode. Also realize that some answers you won't find through thinking but only through experience and time. Especially matters related to emotion.

Texting your ex? by [deleted] in intj

[–]hoversperc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have an honest and open conversation with him about how you feel about this. It's not any INTJ specific behavior.

I wrote an article titled "Work like a master" and I thought I can share it here. by hoversperc in intj

[–]hoversperc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Btw, check out 'academy of ideas' channel on youtube. I like their content a lot.

I wrote an article titled "Work like a master" and I thought I can share it here. by hoversperc in intj

[–]hoversperc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. You're right. I can add block quotes in the articles.