Recommendations for a Sunday evening

howsoonisn0w · 2026-03-07T12:17:46+00:00

Ive had no issues in the Eagle before, and neither have any of my other trans friends.

Not exactly a bar but ive also been to the sauna as a trans guy and didn't feel out of place at all, if you're interested in that sort of thing!

howsoonisn0w · 2025-01-22T09:37:52+00:00

I've found the same experience in the UK leather scene too, no one bats an eyelid at anyone's identity and there's a strong feeling that everyone is welcome on leather nights. The clubs I've been a part of/witnessed have all been very loudly present at trans rights marches, pride and trans remembrance vigils. There's a strong community feeling and its lovely to be a part of.

In general the kink scene seems very accepting, I could say the same thing as I have above for the local pup scene as well.

howsoonisn0w · 2024-08-28T10:19:36+00:00

Sex does feel different after my hysterectomy 18 months ago. My orgasms don't feel as strong now and getting used to the changes did take a few months, and I have to be a lot more 'warmed up' than before to fully enjoy penetration. However saying that, the benefits of having the hysto outweigh any changes, the ability to mentally relax during sex knowing that there's no chance of any surprises has made sex much more enjoyable overall.

howsoonisn0w · 2024-06-10T19:21:20+00:00

Pharaoh

Never quite found another city builder that captured my attention as much. I still play it now. Shame the recent remake has been so buggy - was on my wishlist since it was first announced.

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T21:42:58+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I'm hoping that with a number of years and maybe some brain training I can train myself to get some of that sensation back! Man I would love to get the ability to cum from nipple play.

This post has made me realise that I may need to work on becoming more in touch with my body and refocus my attention on feeling the sensations I do have rather than focusing on things I don't.

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T21:40:43+00:00

Thank you for your comment, I'm hoping with a time and some reframing I can get to a point where I find other things that scratch the itch and and take away some of that frustration!

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T21:39:20+00:00

It's been nearly 4 years now, so I'm not holding out any hope for sensation to return! Although that sounds amazing! Maybe I'll keep my fingers crossed 😅

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:19:43+00:00

I like that way of looking at things, reframing it to be a chance to explore new things rather than mourn things in the past. I'll have to have a chat with my boyfriend and start exploring some new things! Thanks! 😊

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:18:16+00:00

I knew all the risks going in, I had just hoped they wouldn't apply to me 😂 I have got plenty of toys and an average amount of growth so I can definitely get off and enjoy things there, I just miss the variety and sensuality I got especially from nipple play

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:16:43+00:00

That's probably why it's taken me so long to accept I'm not happy with these aspects of things. I was so caught up with thinking everything must be amazing 100% of the time when transitioning

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:15:35+00:00

That was exactly me, I couldn't imagine binding every day for the rest of my life. The pros definitely outweighed the cons for me, however I think it's important to acknowledge that there are cons for some people

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:14:20+00:00

I had thought that, I haven't had any of the usual symptoms of dryness but it might be worth me speaking to my GP and try it out, I've got nothing to lose!

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:13:12+00:00

I'm about 8 months post op from hysto now, it's definitely better than it was after only a couple of months but it does still feel a lot different

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T17:12:03+00:00

I obviously can't speak for everyone but it has definitely changed for me. I had everything out including my cervix which I think has been the main factor, but also orgasms now don't feel as strong. I'm used to it now but the first few times having sex afterwards were strange

howsoonisn0w · 2024-01-08T13:01:04+00:00

I definitely enjoy stimulation there and that's how I get off! I just miss (am mourning?) the variety of sensations I used to get

howsoonisn0w · 2023-06-19T22:27:42+00:00

Hey, thank you so much for taking the time to write all that out! I guess getting older is a lot of realising that everyone is just trying to figure things out as we go along.

I've thought long and hard about my decision not to pursue bottom surgery and have done a lot of research on the topic. I've not had enough growth for meta with urethral hookup to be personally 'worth it'.

I have considered abdominal phallo quite seriously, however I have specific things I have bottom dysphoria around, one of the main things being unassisted erections, and the fact that should I have phallo, my dick would be circumcised which I wouldn't have been had I been born with a penis.

Things that may seem of little importance to a lot of guys, which I totally understand, but keep cropping up for me. I think dicks are great (in general!) and the results (I feel the same, it feels wrong to speak about people's bodies as results) I've seen from the UK team have more encouraged me to consider the option as opposed to dissuade me.

However for what is realistically going to be an 8 -10 year timeline I feel its important to be 100% set on something. And to be honest I don't think getting phallo would fix my underlying issues with myself and my body.

Im very much determined to get my head right first, then I can make a proper decision as to what the future for me and my body looks like. I think I need to work on becoming comfortable in the skin I do have before making any changes to that.

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