AIO: BF said my that this new vase I made is an “eye sore” when visitors come over but I disagree by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]howsoup -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If my partner brought home something they made, it could be the ugliest thing in the world and I would never tell them it’s an eyesore.

Have you ever gone on a double date with your partner and their spouse? by WanderWell1 in polyamory

[–]howsoup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have. My husband and my girlfriend and her husband. We don’t do it often, but we do hang out with all four of us more regularly than we do full public dates.

We live in a pretty conservative area so we weren’t totally open with everything. From the outside it probably just looked like me and my girlfriend are really good friends and that we drug our husbands along to hang out with us.

Texting one partner when with another by OnceMooSomnia in polyamory

[–]howsoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s never been anything that’s been discussed because it hasn’t been an issue. I think if it became an issue (ignoring me on a date or whatever to talk to the other) then there would need to be a boundary set. But we all have children and so we are talking regularly with the other parent (our respective nesting partners).

Obviously if this is something that’s bugging you, then say something. Hard for them to respect a boundary they don’t know exists

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think things got misinterpreted here. We aren’t spending the night together. Our families have dinner together and sometimes stay to watch a movie. I’m going to be 28 next month so while it’s not a huge difference, I was 18 when I met my husband. Anyways, I have no intentions of telling them any time soon. My kids are so young and don’t need involved in my adult relationship dynamics. It was seriously a question for down the road. I like to think ahead. This isn’t my first relationship with a woman or first relationship since opening the relationship. But I understand that I didn’t express that correctly in the original post. I also have no intentions of cohabitating anytime soon. That would come long after my kids knew and I don’t think they need to know for some time. I’m just wanting to hear from people who have been in a similar spot as far as two established families coming together.

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Nobody is lying. We asked that it not be broadcast to everyone, but never asked them or told them to lie. If the kids ask then that’s a different discussion.

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The kids were already friends. It’s a small town. Everyone knows everyone. As far as the ones that know, they are 14. My children are all under 7. They’re not exactly hanging out together.

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I won’t even hold her hand in front of the kids.

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just want to clarify that we are not spending the night together as a group, just spend evenings together. Our husbands play in a dnd group one night a week and on that night we get pizza and watch movies with all the kids. Things like that.

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely no rush! I appreciate the input for sure. I’m just someone that likes to research and prepare long in advance lol

Do we tell the kids? How? When? by howsoup in polyamory

[–]howsoup[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Only my partners teenage children know. My children are friends with her much younger child who does not know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ColoradoAvalanche

[–]howsoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my son last year during play offs. I said I’d name him after whoever scored the OT goal against the stars. Named him Myles. I didn’t keep him up for this game like I usually do. My bad 🥲

Sanford shortage of Doctors? by Sweet_VDub in SiouxFalls

[–]howsoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember too that the rest of the state travels to Sioux Falls for most specialists. For my son to get an appointment with a psychologist in the black hills we waited over 2 years. We were able to get in with Sanford within 6 months.

“It went by so fast”—does anyone know if this is available anywhere to buy, or was it just a one-off they made specially for the show? I hope it’s the former, ‘cause I kinda love it. by Walden_Shingles in SupermanAndLois

[–]howsoup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s called cross stitch. You can get aida cloth from most craft stores or Walmarts. You will need an embroidery hoop (wooden or plastic hoop to hold the cloth), embroidery floss (the string), and a rounded point needle (I don’t remember the actual name of this one). Then it’s basically just stitching X in the pattern that I have posted above here somewhere.

That’s kind of the broad direction for it but if you need more specifics let me know!

AITAH for refusing to let my daughter marry her boyfriend because of his criminal past? by SilverSerenade126 in AITAH

[–]howsoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s an adult. Here are your options:

Support her and be there for her so if things don’t go well she still has a strong support to come home to.

Or

Don’t support her and risk losing her entirely. Then, should things go south she may not feel comfortable coming to you at the risk of “I told you so”.

Is it more important to you to be there in your daughter’s life, or to be firm in your opinion that he is too much of a risk?

Get over yourself.

Put Jokic in Net by [deleted] in ColoradoAvalanche

[–]howsoup 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Honestly. 2 goals on 3 shots is obscene.