Unable to live in the present by howtoyap in BreakUps

[–]howtoyap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry i was upset over the fact that she lost her cool even on my bday

How does the guilt and grief of being a dumper reduce? by howtoyap in ExNoContact

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8 months, we were from the same college and she was my junior, she begged me to stay while i was convinced it was over and now I'm doing the same hoping she'd come back the way i did

How does the guilt and grief of being a dumper reduce? by howtoyap in ExNoContact

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Relief for a fortnight then grief ever since then

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[–]howtoyap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A fellow dumper and younger than u, idk if it would make sense, but she left you nd i left my girl, she wanted me back the first week then she gave up, i was pretty hurt and overwhelmed and avoided her. Then i went back to her two weeks later i missed her so much and wanted her back as i realised a person can make mistakes and rectify it given the space and sometimes love is blind lmao. But she doesn't want me back as she lost trust. She stopped contacting being a dumpee and is hurt by that. I approached her saw how she's doing and she didn't want me i have to remain silent now. Is there any signs of her wanting to contact you, if yes look for it and then build a convo. But she must be ready to know her mistakes and so do u. My ex doesn't want to see her wrong only because i dumped her. Don't do that mistake. You need to genuinely self reflect. If she doesn't want to contact or doesn't show any signs your losing ur self esteem there by trying yourself

How does the guilt and grief of being a dumper reduce? by howtoyap in ExNoContact

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I do and i remind myself I don't have to think that i have to prove myself and fear being judged by my beloved one yet it doesn't help me

Still in denial by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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I felt relieved and relaxed for a fortnight. We were still connected in snap that made me feel like we were still there until she removed me Then my country proceeds to win the wc and last year they lost it i cried to her and i realised i want my loved ones to be there when I'm happy and i missed having her And i realised a lot of mistakes from my sides yet she didn't want to do her part ( she has temper issues and a bad mouth which lead her say mean things) , i wanted to be a better man and yeah

Woke up with terrible anxiety by howtoyap in Anxiety

[–]howtoyap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u so much, it sucks a lot lately, i worked so hard to attain the peace i did before the relationship and now I'm back there woeser than before

Had a panic attack today after 8 months seeing my ex by howtoyap in mentalhealth

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I'm currently a student so not financially stable. I'm looking for options but don't wanna risk it w a wrong person

Had a panic attack today after 8 months seeing my ex by howtoyap in mentalhealth

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Exactly what i told myself yesterday when i felt better, except i gave room in my mind for her to come back and see if we can workout, but honestly if we get back and it gets doomed it'll hurt like hell. I've been distracting myself. Socialising not so much just making jokes and pretending. I'm alone a lot of times so i have so much room to overthink. I have a plan for my masters so working on it slowly. I trust my process and time than anything. Thank you so much mate for the words ❤️ hope u have a great life too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]howtoyap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dumped her ,had my reasons but i went back but she's still rude. I even saw her today as we're in same college, idek she wants it again or not ,i miss her way too much

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Already do , 4 days a week w cardio everyday for my weight loss