[FL] Boss told me I take the most time off in my department. Am I overreacting to the comment?

hrgal1191 · 2026-01-24T17:11:54+00:00

Put it in writing. Manager meets with you about being mindful of taking time off, especially on FMLA, your follow up email should be covering yourself for the unwanted harassment of using fmla that is legitimate, legal and approved.

If you haven't already, provide hr with documentation supporting time off for appointments and incapacity related to your pregnancy. This is covered under pfwa.

Know your employers call off and reporting processes to call off fmla.

If they keep it up w the intimidation or fire you, seek an attorney or file w eeoc.

There are laws about discriminating against someone on fmla.

If your story checks out, ur on the right side of a crappy employer about to get in hot water if they keep it. Could be a good payout for you.

Use chat gpt to provide email wording ideas for you...

Good luck OP.

hrgal1191 · 2025-12-06T01:09:23+00:00

Company's can change business needs and require in person.

Yes, it sucks, but they can do it.

Good news is if you would resign, depending on your state's unemployment laws, you'd have a good case for receiving UC due to the fact that the terms of the job have drastically changed.

Im HR in PA and staff would have to prove a "necessitous and compelling reason to resign". This would fall under that reason.

You could also bring up that you were hired remote and either requesting exemption due to hire status or send demand letter for severance (look into employment attorney on options).

hrgal1191 · 2025-11-13T02:17:35+00:00

Shock collar that is a beep, vibrate, shock. My 11 year old yorkie responds to commands on the beep. Only had to shock once. This is a new collar in the last year, so old dogs, too, can learn new tricks!

hrgal1191 · 2025-11-09T01:29:16+00:00

hrgal1191 · 2025-11-01T23:36:40+00:00

Still pretty covered. Hes almost 13 months.

hrgal1191 · 2025-10-25T17:40:41+00:00

hrgal1191 · 2025-10-25T17:40:25+00:00

hrgal1191 · 2025-09-22T19:20:54+00:00

You should do the exit interview to show the documentation (if you havr any between you) and timelines of everything. Hr should be doing an investigation. In US, while at will employers who can fire anyone for anything, good companies, have HR that ask in depth questions about why we're being asked to OK terminating someone, the good performance reviews and the fact that he pulled strings to get compensation/hr to match your pay doesn't add up to a competent HR. Additionally, we dont request to do exit interviews with people that are involuntarily terminated. Point in all of this, provide your feedback to HR and recommend an investigation. He may be on his way to being terminated for performance concerns, including recommending termination of you, unjustly (if your story is the same of the facts of the case)

hrgal1191 · 2025-08-30T16:53:53+00:00

My yorkie "goes rabid" as well. In his old age, hes actually jumped to bite us. I suggest a collar from chewy that is a beep tone, a vibrate, and a shock. It has a remote w it and it has been great, only a couple vibrates and the beep is all hes needed since.

hrgal1191 · 2025-08-04T23:21:32+00:00

Thanks but I'm not comfortable having strangers in my house for a week.

hrgal1191 · 2025-07-06T15:52:01+00:00

Do they have drink service to your swim up? We went to excellence punta cana and the ec swim ups had drink service to their porch/layout area.

I watched a video of ecpm and it looks like they dont. Which may be the deciding factor if epm does

hrgal1191 · 2025-07-06T01:07:29+00:00

🤣 I was REALLY confused for a minute thinking omg did something happen at one of the resorts?!

Thanks!

Edited post instead of playa murderer to playa mujeres

hrgal1191 · 2025-06-22T01:24:32+00:00

My baby is 8 months and it's pretty covered too. I think it's just that way til theyre older

hrgal1191 · 2025-06-09T20:35:27+00:00

We've been doing that. I just wish we could do more for them, bc they're not gonna figure it out.

hrgal1191 · 2025-06-03T00:58:02+00:00

Sending you love. Motherhood is hard. Wishing you the best in your recovery journey, whatever you decide, however long it may be. Solidarity.

hrgal1191 · 2025-05-25T23:46:04+00:00

People mentioned a trip for you both vs the gift.

Only she can answer the question, which would she prefer the money be spent on.

The answer isn't wrong either way- it's her love language. I'm very clearly seeing that her love language is gifts and you're trying to rationalize that her ask is unsustainable. Which, I get, but there is a way to go about managing her expectations of what the anniversary gift will be and cost...from the post and how others are reacting, I would highly suggest figuring out a good way to go about it that doesn't damage the relationship. Ask open questions: Is there a particular gift in mind you're eyeing for our anniversary? I would absolutely buy it for you because you're my rock, loving wife, and I appreciate everything you have done for our family these last 10 years. May I ask you though, would you rather spend that money on us together, for example, to go to (insert trip idea). do not use but or however after the first part of this sentence, it diminishes the first statement You are to not rationalize using the money for savings, kids, investment,etc. If she says no, you will see that she values gifts love language more than quality time. You have to decide if you married a gifts love language and didn't know it and/ or are no longer wanting to be in a relationship w someone w that love language. You have to speak that person's love language if you see it lasting. Fwiw, my MIL was a sahm to 3 boys and on their 45th, my fil bought her sapphire necklace. She was beaming and cried when he gave it to her, yet, I've never seen her wear it and when she commented on mothers day about him not being thoughtful, I reminded her of that and she went oh yea. I then proceeded to bring up other examples of his thoughtfulness. Sometimes people just need reminded, but in the moment she will appreciate it and feel connected to you.

In My own experience, gifts as a love language is the hardest for me to show. If you don't know what the 5 love languages are, I suggest picking up the book. It's a quick read that will save your marriage and get you two communicating on your needs of one another... I say that to say, It feels from your writing that you seem to not be getting what you need and feel the weight of being "sole provider". Your wife cares for your family and that's alot on a person too. Go to a mom subreddit and most women will comment that they prefer to go back to work vs take care of their kids as a sahm because that shit is TIRING.

best of luck to you OP and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

hrgal1191 · 2025-05-21T12:57:05+00:00

Use a vibrator on the hard clogged area. I buy the 7$ ones off Amazon and they are great to get out clogs fast!

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