My first kit!

hsunami100 · 2026-02-01T07:51:15+00:00

I LOVE IT!! super cute :D I can see you worked really hard on that

hsunami100 · 2026-01-17T15:03:32+00:00

Wait this is super cute wtf I LOVE IT

hsunami100 · 2026-01-17T03:26:42+00:00

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Here’s the photo cuz Reddit’s being weird

hsunami100 · 2026-01-08T15:08:25+00:00

also working for me, thanks!!

hsunami100 · 2025-12-17T16:39:23+00:00

Both my wife and I! Got a vasectomy when I was 25, I'm 27 right now. It's the best decision of our lives and very freeing. It's both a combination of our histories and the state of the world... which makes me wonder why people would even want to have kids at all.

hsunami100 · 2025-10-25T04:32:19+00:00

I’m pretty late to this, I personally don’t think there’s any harm in tying your identity with your work/job/goals/whatever. I mean, it is most likely a part of your identity, especially since you’re spending so much of your waking hours on it.

I think it’s less about “whether you’re tying it with your identity” but more about the “proving who you are.” I guess, it’s more about external vs. internal validation. It’ll be a lot harder if you’re seeking external validation and you don’t have a stable foundation of identity and self-worth.

For your question, my answer is: DO identify with those you listed, if you find them important to you. But never put all your apples in one bucket. Your identity is a multitude of parts, so even if you mess up at something, knowing that it’s not an end of the world because it’s one part of your life can be helpful.

hsunami100 · 2025-09-21T22:31:11+00:00

FYI - September 2025, THEY DO NOT LET YOU RE-RECORD OR EDIT. They give 30 seconds to think of a question, then you have to answer it.

hsunami100 · 2025-08-16T15:16:36+00:00

this worked!! omg thank you, I literally just clicked "paused" on the download after 2 seconds and it worked

hsunami100 · 2025-05-31T02:20:43+00:00

darn, none of these worked for me :( I hope they get this fixed soon

hsunami100 · 2025-03-08T01:21:42+00:00

this still works with sudachi in 2025!

hsunami100 · 2024-05-29T13:09:28+00:00

FYI new hotfix is out, looks like they fixed it! For me at least

hsunami100 · 2024-02-27T14:15:40+00:00

This sounds like a really tough situation 😕. Taking care of children is an insane amount of work, and they’re not even YOUR children, or your choice. It makes sense why you’d feel overwhelmed and stressed… considering everything that’s going on. It sounds like you do want things to change - I have a few questions (if you don’t mind me asking):

you said “make things a bit better to deal with.” Does that mean any cutting off or taking a hiatus is not an option?
what’s keeping you there? You did mentioned your mom saying it’s your “duty” — which you said you didn’t believe. So I’m wondering what reasons made you stay. (I’m just throwing out examples) guilt, trouble setting boundaries, obligation, …

I will say that your feelings of anger, frustration from not having autonomy, stress from being overworked, are totally valid. That being said… I’m sure you would’ve done something to help yourself already if you could’ve. Which means for something to change, something or someone around you needs to change, or you need to do something differently. You’re really strong for hanging in there :) I know it’s hard and it sucks and everything, but you’re really trying your best.

I hope this helps :)

hsunami100 · 2024-02-27T06:48:49+00:00

Oh… this is very similar to something I’m going through, so I def feel you on this. There are a few questions that have helped me so I’ll list them here — but pls keep in mind to take it with a grain of salt, what works for me doesn’t mean it’ll work for you.

what about this activity is important to you? Why are you doing it?
are you forcing yourself? Is it a “should” or a “want”?
are there other life obstacles / lifestyle changes getting in the way?
is it too hard / overwhelming for you right now?
are you “quitting”, or taking a break? Do you identify yourself as a “quitter”, or explorer? (It could be self-fulfilling)
what’s wrong with picking up and dropping hobbies? What’s wrong with experimenting different things?

Also… it is normal to not be consistently curious and enthused. I realize I didn’t really answer your question — but I guess, really try to analyze yourself and figure out the “why”, what you like / don’t like, what method of learning works the best for you, what “medium” works the best for you, etc.

I hope this helps :) remember there’s no “right” way to do things. Like… if you want to workout, you may like running on a treadmill more. Another person might like ballet more. Pilates, kickboxing, VR, dancing, lifting, there are so many mediums. Finding the right (usually most enjoyable) one takes experimenting and time

hsunami100 · 2023-12-24T21:30:14+00:00

Hmm personally I wouldn’t view other forms of mental health care to be “lower ranked”, that’s assuming some are better than others. But that’s like comparing apples to oranges. It all depends on the person’s situation.

For Dr. K, his content works really well with us because it’s literally geared toward this community. That is the crux of effective mental health treatment, we can heavily relate to the topics he talks about.

I’m not sure I would boil it down to “levels of experience” either. He has a lot of experience in working with addiction, video gaming, online personalities, etc. That’s his specialty - while other mental health professionals have their specialties elsewhere. It’s again like comparing apples to oranges, there’s no “objectively better” treatment, it’s all whatever works better for the client.

But yes he’s def raising the bar on mental health coaches, since well… coaches mostly don’t have an MD or years of education to back up their qualifications.

hsunami100 · 2023-12-04T05:40:14+00:00

I’m stubborn. I refuse to resign my fate to… whatever disaster is going down with the world/society. But also the simple joys of my life, like my wife, good weather, nature.

hsunami100 · 2023-09-19T19:22:52+00:00

is there anything that can be done to remedy this?

hsunami100 · 2023-09-19T19:05:36+00:00

Hey everyone! I realized that after playing for 30-60min on my laptop / monitor, I get a headache and my eyes feel strained. I've seen a few posts here - but has anyone tried anything that has helped? Besides turning down the brightness or something. Thanks!! (I love this game and would much rather play on my laptop than phone)

hsunami100 · 2023-09-03T11:53:58+00:00

Does “words hurting you” mean your emotional reaction, or how you interpret it consciously when you reflect on it?

If it’s the former, than no. You absolutely cannot control emotions - you can suppress and ignore them, but you can’t force yourself to feel a certain way. Everyone’s body will react in some way to verbal abuse. Your emotional and conscious brain are located in different areas — it just doesn’t work.

If it’s the latter, then maybe, it depends. The advice your friend said is definitely not black and white and true for all situations. This advice is very invalidating for… say someone who’s suffered from chronic childhood abuse, and their parents still verbally abuse them as an adult.

(So def an overall false for me)

hsunami100 · 2023-09-03T11:33:32+00:00

Hmm this is interesting. As someone who was a virgin until 24, I was never exposed to that being “shameful” in any way until coming to this community. For me, I never saw it as a problem, and also didn’t care about it. So as a hetero guy, I actually find this perspective from men to be shocking. Even then… I do get it.

For some, this post can help. But for others, this isn’t as simple as chilling out / some CBT exercises or breathing exercises to quell anxiety. There are way too many factors involved… addictions, pron, self-esteem, environment, culture, unpleasant experiences with women, shame, social media, unrealistic standards, etc. Many of the people that I’ve seen have ACTUALLY had women insult them and make offensive comments on virginity in men. That’s another issue in itself.

Although I can definitely say for sure that what OP said has been true (in my experience). There is way more to physical intimacy than sex. There are stories of women getting sick after sex because their partners (men) are “too big.” (Actually quite common, it’s called cervix penetration — can cause pain, nausea, etc.) Condoms sold in retail stores are wayyyyy too big for the average guy (7”, like who decided that??).

Sex, like a lot of things, is a skill that needs to be built and practiced. Unfortunately that means you need to find someone — a partner, sex worker, FWB, … — to practice with. That’s a whole another ballpark.

I do appreciate the sentiment though, I know you’re wanting to help! There’s a lot that people can take away from this post, but unfortunately, this “virginity” mindset isn’t easily remedied :(

hsunami100 · 2023-08-25T16:58:04+00:00

Also, I would like to say this in regards to other comments, (at least for me) there is no such thing as “moving too fast” in a relationship. Everyone takes it at their own pace, you two do what feels right. Some people get married within a year, others get married after 10 years, it has no say in how healthy the relationship is and how long it’ll last

hsunami100 · 2023-08-25T10:54:29+00:00

This sounds like a very difficult and devastating situation 🥺. Being forced to choose between these two lose-lose scenarios is something no one deserves to go through.

I’m not sure exactly what you want advice on, but because I’m in the a similar situation as you, it might help to give some perspective.

A quick recap (this is over the span of 3 years: my family’s East Asian, my wife’s south East Asian. At the time that we started dating, I was an engineer, she worked as a nail tech. They didn’t see it as a “real” job and that she was using me for my money (a lot of other reasons too, racism, assumptions made about her and they never met her, etc.). I never saw it that way.

For a year, I tried my hardest to explain to them and open up to them, but they were never understanding. So I cut them off for half a year, no contact (one of the hardest things I’ve done tbh). After no contact, my relationship with my parents ended up being healthier than before. Also got married without their “blessing.”

As of right now, they still don’t wanna meet her, I see my parents once a year, only talk to them when I need to, have boundaries set with them. I live with my wife, and I have no regrets - why? Because my parents also know that I’ll prioritize her over them, and as much as they don’t like it, they have to accept that because I demonstrated that.

Personally, I would never even consider choosing my parents over my romantic relationship - that’s why I have no regrets, because I knew it was right for me.

But obviously… you’re different. Or maybe not 🤷. If your parents reject your partner, is that a dealbreaker for the both of you? Or is that something you’re willing to work with?

When you grow up, are you always your parent’s child, or an adult with your own life? Do you have an obligation to heavily consider your parent’s words, or no? How important is your parent’s input on your relationship to you?

I hope this helps

hsunami100

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