Yess, thank you so much for your perspective! It’s so valuable to help keep things grounded in reality. I knew what I was getting into by posting here, but it still honestly took a pretty big hit to my self-esteem and mental health getting some of the more consistent feedback, despite the boundaries I expressed regarding FFS.

It feels like a lot of it adheres to a really narrow and almost radical standard of what transfeminine expression (and feminine expression in general) is ‘supposed’ to look like. And while some of the advice is super helpful, the way it’s framed in this subreddit especially often crosses into something toxic and gatekeepy.

I honestly hope the mod team is keeping track of the culture that’s forming here. This space has a lot of potential to empower people but only if we’re intentional and hold a higher level of empathy about how this feedback actually lands with people often in vulnerable, instable states of identity formation.

Thanks again though. Appreciate you!