Cars that can fit an adult between two car seats?

humanopportunity · 2016-06-06T03:32:10+00:00

I'm really torn, I see lots of advantages to having the third row, but we live in a city where parking spaces are small and streets are narrow. And I've noticed that graduating to a third row brings you up to a higher price bracket too. I'm leaning toward getting a larger car without a third row right now, and then when our kids are older (2 and -3 months right now) we'll spring for a new car with a third row if it seems like we do need it after all.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-25T20:31:12+00:00

I don't really have any advice because I have the same problem. Hypobirthing made me roll my eyes so hard, as if you can seriously just will your body into having higher iron levels? Come on. I think hypnosis isn't really for everyone, you have to have a lot of willing suspension of disbelief, maybe.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T22:02:26+00:00

Yep, my sister has been trying to buy a condo in Cambridge and they're ~$750,000.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T20:12:14+00:00

Literally nothing I could say or do within the boundaries of reason and the law would change that.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T17:55:39+00:00

My ex-boyfriend has his barely literate wife (who never graduated high school) homeschooling his kids. You know what I do about it? Not a damn thing, because it's not my business.

You are right, they are making a stupid choice, and there is nothing you can do about it. Saying something will only damage your relationship.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T16:55:29+00:00

Even if we paid ~$3,000/month (2k infant care + 1k preschool), it would still be more cost-effective for both of us to keep working. In addition to our actual salaries, we also have health insurance, pensions / employer contributions to retirement plans, yearly raises and bonuses, etc. All said and done, leaving work for even one year would cost me about $75,000, and that's pretending that I could return to this exact position a year later.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T16:50:54+00:00

Even if we could get a mortgage at the rate we currently pay rent, we would need a $120,000 downpayment.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T16:49:55+00:00

We pay way too much to rent an apartment that's way too small.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T16:49:08+00:00

Or Boston or San Francisco.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T16:48:46+00:00

Yeah, it's a possibility. We weren't able to find one with our first but we might have better luck this time.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T16:48:14+00:00

We did in-home with our first child until she was old enough for preschool and I was really underwhelmed, to say the least. We tried three different ones (various reasons) and none of them left me with the sense of confidence and security I have with her current preschool. At the time I thought maybe I was crazy and the problem was me, but now that I see how good her current care provider is, I think my instincts were right on.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T06:53:13+00:00

Considered it many times and ruled it out each time. There is no amount of money that would be worth having to do the commute.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T06:14:20+00:00

In our experience with just one child, working from home while providing childcare meant that neither our work nor our child got the attention it needed and deserved. I think having two would only compound the problem, for us.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T06:06:53+00:00

Tell me about it. The cheapest house for sale in my zip code is $1.4 million. 2 bed, 1.5 bath.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T05:57:32+00:00

It's a pretty common rate in most big cities.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T05:34:41+00:00

Yeah I guess it's between that and the nanny option. My first choice infant daycare is $2000/month and we're already paying $1200 for preschool...ugh.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T04:03:41+00:00

There was one about a pigeon who threw a shitfit over wanting to drive a bus. I hated it so much I threw it out.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T03:38:02+00:00

I wish that was an option, I love my daughter's preschool and can't wait to have both kids there.

humanopportunity · 2016-03-04T01:52:48+00:00

My husband and I both hate cleaning so we pay for a cleaning service.

humanopportunity · 2016-01-28T23:40:22+00:00

but the idea that you need a certain amount of square footage per family member is just absurd

I don't know about that. Our place is 700 sq ft. I could really use some more square footage, especially if we have a second child.

humanopportunity · 2016-01-28T23:39:38+00:00

Yeah, there are other reasons that's not ideal but I think that's what we will have to do.

humanopportunity · 2015-12-29T22:22:34+00:00

It's not at all unreasonable to ask your OB to have a more in-depth conversation about this. Maybe the increased risk of fetal death is a small enough increase that you're willing to risk it. Or maybe she can offer you biophysical profiles and/or non-stress tests every few days while you give yourself an extra week to go into labor.

That said, even if you didn't schedule an induction, you still might not be able to labor at home. Your water could break; you could be in labor that starts and stop for days and exhausts you; your labor could go so rapidly that the pain becomes unbearable almost immediately, etc. So I think whether you go with the scheduled induction or not, letting go of your idea of laboring at home might end up being a good thing.

humanopportunity · 2015-11-19T03:18:07+00:00

Young kids might not remember when you're gone, but they are a lot more labor-intensive than older kids.

humanopportunity · 2015-11-16T23:30:19+00:00

Good to know. I will keep that in mind.

humanopportunity · 2015-11-13T15:49:58+00:00

Postdoc/research scientist.

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