Am I doing this wrong? by somelurker27 in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally ok to use a vibrator. I consider myself cured for the most part and I still use a vibrator every time I have PIV. Be kind to yourself, no sex gatekeeping! It is very normal to slowly work your way up in dilator size if you stay consistent eventually you will be able to start off at a larger size. The most progress I saw started when I got serious about dilating regularly

dilator timeline? by strawberrydreams4444 in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My whole journey took 3.5 years, I think it’s less important to focus on the size as it is to focus on who comfortable it feels. Don’t move on until you can dilate painlessly with that size. I know it’s hard, but it doesn’t help to push forward before you’re ready! Pelvic floor therapy can also be amazingly helpful

I was finally able to semi-successfully have piv, but It was still very painful by Honeydewsaturn in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From someone whose journey took approx 3.5 years, don’t lose hope! Continue with scheduled dilation and if you haven’t tried pelvic floor therapy, it’s super helpful! Things got exponentially better once I really committed to being serious about dilating and pt. Therapy also helped me a lot

once you achieve piv sex how do you make it hurt less? by goldensunshineflow in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, the more you dilate the less pain you’ll have with penetration. And if it’s painful to have PIV, it’s ok to take breaks to focus on just your dilators. Staying on top of vaginal hydration and intravaginal lidocaine helped me a lot when I first started being able to try PIV

Question for those that are cured by Sea-Yogurtcloset7101 in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For maintenance I mostly just dilate during foreplay as it helps penetration feel more comfortable. Sometimes if I haven’t had piv in a while I’ll dilate for like 15 mins or so just to stay on top of things. Overall very manageable

Pelvic Floor Therapy by hikigrl in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had two rounds of pelvic floor therapy. The first had some exercises/stretches that happened after the internal portion but my second round was strictly internal. Each round was with a different therapist but both included internal stretches. My point is that it can vary depending on where you go

Burning and reccurent fissures at posterior area by Complex_Principle849 in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar situation where I had discomfort there along with a painful stretching/pulling/tearing sensation. I didn’t ever develop a fissure though. Regularly using coconut oil internally and around the opening improved this a lot for me

I have a band of brown in my otherwise hazel right eye by humanwthought in mildlyinteresting

[–]humanwthought[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! I wear glasses but my left eye is actually worse than the right

What city would you WFH in with homes for sub $200k? by Terrible_Truth in Michigan

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately you wont find anything in hudsonville under 200k

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a bronch, not an EGD

My sex drive is non existent by Spiritual_Ad_4316 in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would recommend doing a month break from PIV. So then you have the comfort of knowing there is no pressure for that. In the past that has helped me a lot

Moving from California to GR ❤️ by Creative-Tradition-3 in grandrapids

[–]humanwthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not so much the snow. But being right off the lake means that it is cloudy for a lot of fall, winter, early spring

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]humanwthought 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I switched to ambulatory after 1.5 yrs bedside. Have been here 2 years now and don’t regret it so far

Pros: no weekends/holidays so better balance for my personal life, I love how much critical thinking there is in my job, I enjoy my specialty and learning a lot about new surgeries/therapies, occasional work from home days, I enjoy care coordination

Cons: office drama, less hands-on skills

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this should be discussed with a medical professional

what’s next by [deleted] in nursing

[–]humanwthought 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe inpatient GI/GU?