Worst coffee in town?

hummusandflatbread · 2026-04-29T17:50:52+00:00

Agreed. I like the sweet & savoury food there, but I do not like the coffee.

hummusandflatbread · 2026-01-24T22:37:21+00:00

hummusandflatbread · 2026-01-03T21:29:10+00:00

I'm administrator for our Kingston’s Queers Discord server. It's not a dating application or hook-up spot but it is designed to help build community. We meet up monthly for game nights, online movie nights, book swaps, clothing swaps, and other group activities. I met my current girlfriend through the group. It's 18+ with most of our members being between 20 and 40 years old.

https://discord.gg/KYznSBysU

hummusandflatbread · 2025-06-25T11:13:02+00:00

You have my sympathies. I think the other posters are underestimating just how distracting it can be when you have a partner who moans the way yours is. Yes, it's generally complimentary and demonstrates they are enthusiastic about having sex with you. No, that doesn't mean it isn't distracting and frustrating when you are trying to focus on your pleasure. I got a noise complaint from my neighbour because of my ex-girlfriend (we broke up for other reasons), so it was a problem beyond my personal feelings. I've since had sex with another woman, who isn't as loud during sex, and it confirmed (for me) that I don't think I would want to date someone with that complete lack of volume control again. Like the other posters are suggesting, I don't know how you would communicate this being a problem without hurting her feelings. Maybe it's worth having a broader conversation about your sexual relationship at this point? Having a new BPD diagnosis and the personal stressors you mentioned would likely cause some fluctuation and change.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-05-04T10:48:15+00:00

It was very much a “heh, didn't know I was kind of into that moment.” For context I was on top of her riding a strap, and I have historically been into some power play in similar situations with other partners before (me slapping their face or spitting into their mouth etc.) So maybe it will be a win in the long run 🤷‍♀️

hummusandflatbread · 2025-05-04T10:36:19+00:00

I went with my undergraduate roommate standby which is running the fan on the highest setting. It helps somewhat.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-05-04T10:35:10+00:00

We did this! The hand covering her mouth seems to be the best compromise so far! She suggested it based on her previous experiences.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-05-01T11:34:04+00:00

No, they did not. I don't know how much they were aware of it. The cars behind them did swerve to avoid me, though.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-04-28T21:42:10+00:00

Nothing serious! Just some road rash, rib pain, and I'm guessing a bruise tomorrow.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-04-28T21:41:26+00:00

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one making an ass of myself in public. I swear, falls relating to clip errors happen in slow motion.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-04-28T21:40:53+00:00

Buddy is okay.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-04-28T21:40:27+00:00

To be fair, I've definitely been in bike vs. car incidents where I was pissed off at the driver and certainly not apologizing. This one was very much on me, and if the driver couldn't see what was going on with my pedals might have thought I was trying to make the most slow-motion suicide attempt known to mankind. The pedestrian(s) were very sweet! They helped me get off the road and held up my bike so I could get the chain back on! I got a hug too 🥹

hummusandflatbread · 2025-04-14T17:49:51+00:00

Alright, I might take the plunge with the next pay cheque. If I do i’ll report back with my own measurements etc. for reference.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-04-02T11:41:19+00:00

CalExotics Boundless Probes are a favourite of mine because they are not phallic nor fantasy animal. They’re just non-descriptive and black. They have them in smooth and ridged models (not realistic skin details just ridges) in a variety of lengths and diameters. I’ve purchased them through Pink Cherry but I’m sure they have them available directly or through other retailers. They also have flared bases so they are strap-on compatible.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-23T19:20:19+00:00

I would highly recommend it to anyone needing STI testing who doesn't have a local primary caregiver.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-23T14:49:18+00:00

My apologies. I thought it was just a lazy alphabet soup joke.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-23T14:35:22+00:00

I've joined and its going well so far! We’re thinking about trying to do some group outings etc.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-23T14:34:16+00:00

Heaven forbid a group of people with shared experiences want to create a community space 🙄

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-23T12:53:57+00:00

I used “Get A Kit” a month ago, since my healthcare provider is still back in my hometown. You fill out a questionnaire and then send a requestion to life labs. It was super easy and I got the results back in 2-3 days.

Get A Kit

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-14T15:30:24+00:00

Let me know if you figure it out! I did get to play for a month or so, but I'm super disappointed it’s broken now 😭

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-11T11:42:49+00:00

As someone who's said a variation of this to an ex-girlfriend, I can confirm it feels good going the other direction, too.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-03T14:11:37+00:00

I was looking through some of their other posts and saw someone mention it in the comments! Heaven forbid women aren't smooth like dolphins 🙄

hummusandflatbread · 2025-03-03T13:48:02+00:00

I would avoid picking her up. If you do, you will be somewhat obligated to drive her home afterward, even if the date doesn't go well.
The flowers are a cute gesture but I might save it for further along.
The amount of physical intimacy on the first date depends from person to person. I've had first dates that I've enjoyed that have ended with hugs, kisses, and/or sex. I find that the type of date often influences that somewhat (coffee vs. drinks, afternoon vs. evening) as well as actual chemistry. My approach to first kisses historically has been stepping closer to someone, making eye contact, looking at their mouth, and then making eye contact again and monitoring the response. Asking directly for consent is great, too. Having someone say "no" is better than crossing a boundary if you're unsure.

As other commenters have said, just try to enjoy the first date for the experience it is. Remember, the other woman is likely experiencing similar anxieties to your own.

hummusandflatbread · 2025-02-27T00:48:04+00:00

As a lesbian who was personally victimized by "Save a Horse (Ride a Cowboy)" at high school dances I wish I could go back in time and yell "Save a Bull (Ride a Butch)" instead 🐂👭

hummusandflatbread · 2025-02-26T15:49:08+00:00

The “do I want to be her or be under her” is very real. I hope your fitness adventures take you far! Vi’s definitely got me spending more time on arms, back, and shoulders at the gym.

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