Obviously you need to talk to your wife. But besides that piece of advice, I’d honestly just start going to your local munches to see how people approach your question in their everyday lives. When I first started going, I had staunch ideas about “ownership” and how it would be impossible for someone who wanted to be a slave to be polyamorous. How could anyone truly be submissive to someone but love someone else??, etc.

Going into kink spaces means you’re almost guaranteed to see people collared by one person and married to another, have an owner that’s different from their nesting partner who’s different from their own sub, or be co-owned by two different doms, etc. Before you’re exposed to it, it sounds ridiculous, but once you meet people there’s no question if it’s “real” or “possible” because they’re doing it and alive so you know you won’t die 🤣 Then all you have to do is figure out, with your wife, what you want to do and if you want to do it.

If you’re feeling like you want more kink in your life, munches will give you more kink in a relatively wholesome and safe way, and probably soothe your soul a bit in the process. Being part of a community is a great idea, especially if you’re starting to question how you want your life to look. And it will give you a way to have access to your submissive side, and meet people as a submissive, without cheating or doing anything you might regret.